Do you think we have to hide problems from our children?

India
September 10, 2008 10:54am CST
my parents had a very sad n poor childhood that they had to starve sometimes..or had got suspended from school for not paying fees correctly....sometimes they wore torned clothes.... but today because of their hardwork n determination...we are in good position.. they have given whatever we ask for...they say that they dont want us to become sad as they did in their childhood...they say they want us always to be happy in life....so actually i was never into any such serious problems in my life...am lucky for that... but the real problem is when i started working in an organisation i realised there are so so many problems that i have to face...and i get totally upset thinking what i should do??? be it a big or small i get totally disturbed and my blood pressure goes high.... sometimes i realise that the BIG problem i was tensed about was not at all a problem......... and my mom comments on this saying its their mistake they always kept us away from problems.... is that true??? In the urge of making our children always happy, are we making them mentally weak to face life n its problems? should we train our children facing problems?
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ebsharer
@ebsharer (5515)
• United States
10 Sep 08
I don't think that we should openly talk to our kids about problems. I think that kids should have the chance to have a childhood - not worry about money or marital problems or any thing else. At the same time I think it is our responsibilty as parents to teach our kids: The value of a dollar - explain that every thing costs money and teach them how money is used, what costs money, how to save money. We should also use the word no at times and mean it. Life isn't all about yes - so teach them that they don't always get what they want kids should always have what they NEED but the extra toys and extra video games should be limited. And when the word no is used it should not be followed by a yes or fine. Once the word no is used it should be final. I think all kids should be taught about "life" but not too young and not to the point where they know we don't know how we are going to buy groceries this week or pay rent this month.