Would you change back to your maiden name after the divorce?
By seabeauty
@seabeauty (1480)
United States
September 10, 2008 12:27pm CST
I have been legally separated since March. My ex husband has already filed the divorce papers and I should be getting the final papers shortly.
I am going to change my name back to my maiden name.
I would prefer to keep my married name but all my papers are in my maiden name since I never requested a name change.
It would be easier to change back for this reason.
My married name is nicer in my opinion than my maiden name however going back to my maiden would make things easier.
So what would you do?
6 responses
@Sparkee73 (125)
• United States
10 Sep 08
When I got divorced, I couldn't wait to return to my maiden name. It was a hassle getting everything changed back and I still, even 8 years later, get things mailed to my house with my old married name.
@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
10 Sep 08
That surprises me that some places don't make the change.
@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
10 Sep 08
True. It may also be upsetting to your kids if you were to change it back.
@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
i am married 1990 and i left my husband, i brought my kids along with me. but since i got married i still carry my maiden name. even my passport bears my maiden name so i didnt have any problems for i never used the surname of my husband. lucky that i didnt change my maiden name when i got married all my documents are still under my maiden name.
@sweetcouple (221)
• India
12 Sep 08
who are you divorcing. the man you are married or the entire family. are you going to severe relation with his entire family so that you do not meet them again in your lifetime again. or talk or even smile or even remember them. then well take back your maiden name. else;
will changing or going back to your maiden name erase the lifd you have had with your husband. will it give you back the years you spent with him. will it take away the relationship that existed, the time that had bygone. your kids (if any) no. isn't it. only thing is it is going to often remind you of your past and present. if it hte reminisces is malicious and rancour then better remove it.
well, it is a individual opinion. but if i am separated from my husband tomorrow i do not know what i will do. maybe i will not keep my husband family name, but i will not take my maiden name either. i will just keep my first name.
@aseretdd (13730)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
If i were in your shoes... then i would use my maiden name again... even if your married name sounds nicer... things will definitely be a lot easier for you when you use your maiden name... aside for that... i wouldn't want to use my ex husband's name... since when the divorce becomes final... no use holding on to a name that did not work out for you...
@trell8402 (274)
• United States
10 Sep 08
The only way I would keep my husband's last name is if he were to die. If we get a divorce, it's because we don't want to be together, so I don't feel I should keep anything of his, including his name. I would no longer be his, so I wouldn't want to keep his name. But it's all according to the person.
