Sad news daughter-in-law lost the baby
By suspenseful
@suspenseful (40193)
Canada
September 10, 2008 4:45pm CST
My husband just received news a little while ago that our daughter-in-law lost the baby she was carrying a couple of weeks ago. She was at the doctor's and the doctor said that everything was inside except for the baby. She figures she must have had a spontaneous abortion not that long ago about two weeks. I am rather heart broken about it because I too had a miscarriage shortly after I was married and that would have been the only child for me and my husband. I hope that Gill is all right and that she can get pregnant right away. I was looking for another little one.
I am so sad.
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
10 Sep 08
I am sorry suspenseful for your loss..It is very sad when a little one like that is taken..
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
11 Sep 08
I know that the little one is with the angels in heaven and that, they, God willing, will meet him or her there. I feel rather sad as they are in their thirties and do not know how many children they will be able to have before things give up on them. I do want Katie to have a little brother. That would bring joy to them as her family has a tendency to produce girls and I do not know whether it is the father or mother side that determines the preference. Anyway I was hoping for about three or more grandchildren. I really love kids.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
12 Sep 08
They were in their early thirties, and her family is quite fertile, but in my family, it was rare for us to have children past the middle thirties. I know my sons are adopted, but they came from the same background as I did. My mother had my brother when she was around 33 and I am old, so she could not have any after that. So even though she had not gone through menopause yet, she was finished. That is why I was so upset, because if Gill reaches 35, then I might only have Katie as a grandchild.
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
11 Sep 08
You said they were in their thirties, but you didn't say whether it was the early, middle or later thirties, but I had my youngest when I was forty and both pregnancy and child was very healthy..So there is always hope for many more grandkids..:)
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@ellie333 (21016)
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11 Sep 08
Oh Suspenseful, I am so sorry to hear that news I really am, as I know you were looking forward to all these events happening too. I know you were blessed with being able to adopt the boys but a lot of woman do miscarry and then go on to have successful pregnancies, these days with tests being so accurate before even a missed period it is becoming more common whereas before a woman may not have even known. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. God bless. Ellie :D
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
11 Sep 08
Gill knew she was pregnant, in fact she was two months along and she was already showing. And she made sure that there was no problem before she told us. The trouble is that they are both in their thirties so there is not much that time. If they were in their twenties then I would not be as much concerned, but I hope that little Katie is not our only grandchild.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
13 Sep 08
I hope so. I heard so much negatives about older women getting pregnant and when I was in my twenties, we even heard that the risk of women getting pregnant after thirty and of down syndrome and if a woman who is past 29 hears that, she does not think that one in ten, or one in one hundred, or one in two thousand have a disabled child, she thinks that every woman that age is at risk and it is one hundred out of one hundred and when she hears of those who gave birth to normal children, she thinks that is a miracle.
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@ellie333 (21016)
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12 Sep 08
Hi Suspenseful, I was blessed with a son at forty so she is still young as many women are heving children later on in life. I do hope that she manages to conceive again and have a healthy baby at the end of nine months. Thoughts and prayers are with you all. Ellie :D
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
11 Sep 08
Thank you for your concern. I know that we know how one feels after the loss of a future grandchild and hugs to you in this time of sorrow. Gill is going to the hospital and might have already gone to get her womb scraped. They want to try again and the doctor says it is all right for them to do so right away. But I guess they will wait until the baby starts quickening before telling us. I know because I had a miscarriage early on and I did not know I was pregnant, but Gill was showing and everything so it was doubly as sad.
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@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
10 Sep 08
Oh I am so sorry hon! That is so sad. But God must have had a reason to take that little one Home to Him so soon. I hope your daughter in law and son are doing ok, all thinks considered. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family hon.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
11 Sep 08
I hope that God did that because HE knew that the little one would be still born or die soon after birth and we do know that the little life will grow fully formed in heaven. George and Gill are very sad right now but they will try for another baby. The doctor says that they can. Thanks for your thoughts and prayers and for your concern.
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@HomeFlower (987)
• Canada
11 Sep 08
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I can't even come up with words of comfort at such sad news.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
11 Sep 08
Thank you for your concern and sympathy. I find that when I hear bad news, all I can give is a hug. So thank you for the virtual hug. I hope that things go well and George and Gill will soon welcome another little one, and Katie, I hope, will have a baby brother.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
11 Sep 08
Thank you for your concern. I do hope that when Gill gets back from the hospital, that they can try again for a new baby. I do want to have another grandchild, because I only had two babies of my own by adoption and I feel that I am substituting by oogling over other people's babies. George and Gill are feeling rather down, since they wanted the baby so much to be a brother or sister to little Katie. This makes me feel so sad.
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
10 Sep 08
I am sending you a big hug, I know it's only a small consolation my friend but failing the normal platitudes, I am so sorry, it is very sad what life throws at us sometimes and yet we have to be strong to get through it and I know you will be strong for your family.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
11 Sep 08
Thank you for the hug. We are going to send them some flowers today. I know it does not take away the pain, but at least it will help just a bit. I am still sad and just writing about it makes me cry because they are in their thirties and there is not that much time. I know some people can have children even in their forties but well I do want a little grandson. And I know if a family is inclined to have girls, as hers is, it is hard to just keep trying. And I do want Katie to have a little brother.
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
10 Sep 08
I'm sorry you received such bad news. Thankfully she is ok. Hopefully she will be able to deal with this, and look forward to having another baby soon.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
11 Sep 08
She is going to the hospital to have a womb scraping and the doctor says that they can start trying to have a baby right away. I guess they will have to wait until the baby is quickening to announce the pregnancy the next time. It does make me cry that this had to happen especially with my husband having a stroke, although not serious, there is a chance he may have a major one and it would be good for him to see the new baby before anything happens.
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
11 Sep 08
Oh that is sad news. Will keep the entire family in my prayers for comfort during this time. I'm sure this brings back extra sad memories for you.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
12 Sep 08
It does for me. I wanted another grandchild. I remembered my own baby that I gave up and missing the first few months of caring for a baby because our sons were three months old. And I remember wanting to see Katie our granddaughter every day because of what I missed out. And when I heard Gill was pregnant I said we could have another grandchild to spoil. But he or she's gone. And it is so sad, I feel rather depressed.
@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
12 Sep 08
I can imagine - I know how it effected me when my oldest son moved half-way across the country with 3 of my grandchildren. They are still fine and healthy but it's like a piece of me is gone. This situation has got to be the worst possible.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
11 Sep 08
I am sorry to hear about this, I wish also she will be pregnant again! I have no baby yet but I know how it feels, I can just imagine a lot of girls are aborting their kids yet some are trying hard to be successful!
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
12 Sep 08
I have a feeling that she will be pregnant again. I want the next ones to be twins. I happen to have twins myself although they were adopted, and twins run in her family, so I am sure that it will happen pretty soon. I just feel so sad, because she and my son wanted to have their children as quickly as possible before she was unable to have any more.
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
11 Sep 08
That's very sad, suspenseful. It really hurts when you are looking forward to a little one and it is not meant to be. My youngest daughter(who has no children) informed me a couple of days ago that it was the anniversary of her miscarriage. My heart goes out to your daughter-in-law.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
12 Sep 08
That really hurts when you cannot have children and just miscarry all the time. I hurt me because I had only one baby and I had to give her up because I was unmarried at the time. I was looking forward to the little one who would have been my second grandchild since I was only able to adopt and when you do not adopt at birth you miss out on those infant months. They are going to try again and I hope for twins this time.
@ersmommy1 (12588)
• United States
12 Sep 08
That is so sad. Here is crossing my fingers! Hope she can still have a baby soon. I know it is hard. Try and stay positive.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
12 Sep 08
I will. Her family is very fertile. Only her sister only had one child so I figured that maybe they get fertile but miscarry easily. So of course I am worried. I have not had that much experience with babies other than saying oo to myh friends's babies and my own and they were three months old when we got them, so a newborn is especially precious and I want Gill to have a healthy baby or two the next time. I really missed out on that birth to two months and 29 days process.
@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
12 Sep 08
I'm very sad for you and your family, it's heartbreaking to lose a baby. But you know, doctors say that those things happen when there is something not right with the pregnancy or the baby. God knows better than we do. I hope she will have a healthy baby soon.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
13 Sep 08
She will have. Her family gets pregnant very easily. So I am hoping that it happens very soon. I do love children and with my husband having his mini stroke, and with his family having a high incidence of strokes. I want him to be a grandfather. I know we have Katie, our precious granddaughter, but she deserves a little brother or little brother and sister.
@LouiseKnittel (4764)
• United States
11 Sep 08
I am very sorry to hear this. I know how excited you were! I too hope that she can get pregnant very soon! I never know why these happen. I am sorry that I can not be more of a comfort. Just know that I am thinking about you, your daughter and the little one. My prayers for you and your family.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
13 Sep 08
Thank you for your kind words. I find that the only way I can comfort someone in grief is to give them a hug, and we sent her and George a bouquet of cheerful flowers so they will not feel overmuch sad. I hope she does get pregnant right away. As one who had a miscarriage that I knew of after marriage and probably more that I did not know of, I feel rather upset and I did want Katie to have a little brother or sister. I hope the next ones are twins. Thank you for your prayers. That is a great comfort to me.
@Trace86 (5030)
• United States
11 Sep 08
That is such sad news! I am sorry for your loss and theirs.
That happened to my favorite cousin several years ago. She was also devastated and heart broken. It took some time and a lot of hugs and listening to help her deal with her loss.
The good news is that now, about 10 years later, she has two beautiful little boys.
I will pray for your family in this difficult time.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
12 Sep 08
Thank you. I am glad that your cousin did get pregnant. I had a miscarriage and never got pregnant after that. We adopted and we wanted to adopt more but they would not let us because I had been a bad girl before I met my husband. My son George and Gill are going to try again. I hope that this time it will be twins.
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
11 Sep 08
I am so sorry to hear this. The only positive thing I can think of is that usually when someone miscarries is because there was something wrong with the baby. I know this isn't very comforting though.
I hope that once the doctor says she is good to try again she will get pregnant again and have a healthy baby. Just make sure to be there for her and your son during this hard time. It is important that they talk about it and get over it before having another baby.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
13 Sep 08
She learned it was a blighted ovum and there was no baby inside. Or rather the ovum was too weak. I heard that she will get pregnant right away, but think we will hear about it when they are sure a baby is there and it is not a phantom. I do feel sad because my known miscarriage and the exrra heavy periods I had that were probably miscarriages in disguise.
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
13 Sep 08
Regardless, it is very sad. She thought she was pregnant and then had to find out she wasn't. I hope that everything turns out wonderful for them.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
12 Sep 08
Thank you. I hope and pray that Gill will get pregnant again and that this pregnancy goes well, and I do hope the next baby will be a little boy and maybe there will be twins. They run in her family and my son was a twin so this would mean a double blessing. It really hurt when I learned of the miscarriage. I felt like crying and I know they felt rather sad as well.
@Allistina93 (6)
• United States
11 Sep 08
OMG!!!!!!! That is SSSSSSOOOOOOOO sad!!!!!!! i would be heart broken to if that was me. i really hope that she is okay. Little babies are fun to have around, and though they can be a hasle at time they are cute and nice to make up for it. Again i really hope she is okay. well, ttyl. bye. =(
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
12 Sep 08
My son told my husband that she will be all right and that they are going to try again. So I suspect she will be pregnant very soon. I want her to have twins. They are in their early thirties and they want to have all the babies at once before she is unable to have any more.
