Update On My Mom, Not Good. 9/09/08
By CatsandDogs
@CatsandDogs (13963)
United States
September 10, 2008 8:50pm CST
This is an email I sent to my foster sister about mom. It's the truth even though it has to be so hard cored.
Mom is very sick. I honestly don't think she'll live the rest of this year. I so pray that I'm wrong but it's how I feel right now. She just came from her fluke of a doctor and told him how she was feeling and the dumb @ss didn't answer her. She's changing doctors but I don't know when. I think I just might have to completely take over her care but I'm trying to get some of my things in order first before doing so. She's not remembering to ask certain questions and doesn't know who to go to next or when... It's really bad. I'm not going to sugar coat it for anybody for the truth needs to be known. It's not good at all. This morning she woke up and was numb from her chin to her toes. It eventually went away and that's what she told her dumb @ss doctor and he didn't answer her. He did say that her blood pressure is up and doesn't know why it keeps going up and down like it is and gave her some high blood pressure medicine. She's dizzy as all get out and at times its worse and other times it's manageable. Her blood pressure is 169/102, that's very high. She could have a stroke at any moment. That's what everyone on her dads side of the family has died from - strokes. For her dizziness and numbness on her right side, she's going to see a neurologist on the 17th of this month to see if she can get answers. Gee mee christmas!! I'm about to pop!! I'm a nervous wreck!!
Anyway, that's what's going on with mom. Never mind me, I'm working through my problems or obstacle courses so I can make mom my main and only focus. Please, if you want to see her, get your butt down here for she's not with us for much longer. She's very sick.
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13 responses
@MZKUMA (705)
• United States
11 Sep 08
Sorry to hear of your moms health. I would have her go to the ER rather than waiting until the 17th. That way they can run the necessary test needed and maybe have an answer to the cause of her symptoms. Or, if she wakes up with numbness again call 911. It's what I'd do.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
11 Sep 08
Oh Cats, I am so sorry to hear this. Please sweets, you have to take care of yourself too, or you'll be no good to anyone, let alone your mother. I just wish there was someone else in your family that could help you with all that you are doing. Email me soon and know that you are in my heart and prayers. Hugs.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
12 Sep 08
Email me sweets and we'll talk.
You're numb because I think to a certain extent you are exhausted with all you've been through in the last few (or more) months, and I think now you are also in shock to a certain extent too. You need rest. You need some time alone cuddling with Jimmy, being loved and cared for and put first for awhile...........!
As for your wish - from your heart to God's ears eh?
@GardenGerty (160978)
• United States
11 Sep 08
In this way no one can say you did not tell them what was going on. It is highly recommended that people take a friend or advocate to the doctor with them when they are very ill, just to have someone to remember the questions and to speak up about issues. I hope your foster sister listens.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
11 Sep 08
I have a younger brother.
When he calls all he asks about is how much money does dad have.
very seldom does he ask about his health.
So I and the rest of the family have given up on him as far as dads health issues go.
it is sad when it comes to this in our lives dealing with ill family members and those family members that seem to care less.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
11 Sep 08
It is sad that we have to state things like
this to other family members etc isn't it?
But we have to do what we feel is right.
O also tend to dad WAY to much ignoring my own health most times.
He isn't doing so well right now.
A discussion will follow.
When I first took dad in he looked like he was at deaths door.
But I took him to the Dr. and ER so often that they made him somwhat healthy.
Anyhow, thoughts and prayers going to you and yours.
but remember we need to take care of us as well.
Now if I could only live this which I preach. Hahahaha!
Good luck and God Bless you as well.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@GardenGerty (160978)
• United States
11 Sep 08
This is a stage many people in our age bracket are facing or have faced. My brother looked after mom. I took care of my sister for awhile, then he did so as well. Dad is aging rapidly, but his wife is about eleven years older. He waits on her hand and foot. My other sister is not good about her health, and she lives with her daughter, but it is here near me, so I may be in for it sooner or later, helping out with her.
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@ElicBxn (63643)
• United States
11 Sep 08
I'm sorry to hear about this.
My mom's first strokes showed up as numbness in one arm. the first time she woke up with it and it passed in about an hour, the second time it took several hours. These were very minor strokes, but still strokes.
I would try to find a neurologist ASAP!
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@greenglitterturtle (2750)
• United States
11 Sep 08
hi catsandDogs...my heart goes out to you. how sad and heart breaking for you. i will pray for you and your family.
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@leslie1452 (18)
• China
11 Sep 08
I will prey for your mother,God will favor health and happiness for you!
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
11 Sep 08
I think it is a wake up call and very to the point. I would say that it needed to be done. It sounds like you have an idiot doctor, or knows something he is not telling you guys. I am sorry it is not looking good. I wish you the best.
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@lucy02 (5015)
• United States
11 Sep 08
I feel for you. I take care of my mother and its a struggle sometimes. It seems like some (or most) of the doctors do not take the time and care with the elderly that they should. I have seen some bad mistakes made and almost made by doctors who did not take time to ask the right questions or did not take notes or read their notes. If I wasn't there to correct them sometimes mom would not have known to speak up. One time a doctor came in with the wrong chart. that could have been disastrous. Even with my being there, some doctors get belligerent if you question them. One heart doctor took my mom off her psych meds that she had been on for 20 yrs. That had disastrous results. When I questioned him about it he told me he had discussed it with her M.D. and they thought it best. The M.D. said he never discussed it with him. Her health has never recovered completely from that mistake. She is bipolar with Schizoid Affective disorder and Parnoia. The psychiatrists and other health care workers said she never should have been taken off these meds.
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
11 Sep 08
I am sorry to hear this, I will continue to pray for you adn your parents..
@gemini_rose (16264)
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13 Sep 08
I am sorry to hear how poorly your Mum is and she was doing so well too. I hope that she gets a new doctor soon and that the new doctor will be a lot better and may be able to help her out with her blood pressure and everything.
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@MOMMASAM (1004)
• United States
15 Sep 08
i myself am the advocate for my 81-year old mom.
i go to each appointment with her.
she forgets a symptom or a question.
if i make her write them down, she forgets to take the list !
did they put her on a daily 81mg aspirin? that's a baby aspirin.
one that goes hand-in-hand with high blood pressure.
put her on a salt substitute, too.
blood pressure and blood pressure medication all cause dizzyness.
you're right. it's too high.
you're right. she needs a good doctor.
maybe he didn't answer her question...because he is ordering a
battery of tests? doesn't sound like it.
you need to take control of the situation.
you also need to calm yourself down and get focused.
you can't fall apart now.
they can do heroic things with blood pressure. she might also need
an ultrasound of her carotid artery.
i will say a prayer for you and your mom. i'm sure your sister
will come home as your e-mail was very clear indeed.
@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
15 Sep 08
The dizziness & numbness sound much like my Mom did before she got really sick. When your Mom goes to the Neurologist ask him if he's familiar with Progressive Supranuclear Palsy (PSP). If he's not, you might suggest that he study up on it. There may be other small signs with your Mom that have just been attributed to old age. I hope your Mom finds a doctor who can help her soon!!! I understand the frustration you are going through. It took my Mom 3 years & 5 MRI's to find the right doctor. I'll add you & your Mom to my prayers. You may need more strength than she does to get through this!!!
