Do you hit your kids/will you when you have them?

I dont have kids yet but soon i will have my first child. So about punishing kids by hitting them for me doesnt always work. Kids nowadays are smarter and they tend to just tolerate the pain of getting spank. I have seen my dad hit my sister several times when she made a mistakes but yet she grow up to be a stubborn kid lol. I believe in discipline but i dont think it is applicable nowadays to still hit kids if they did something wrong. Punishing them by spanking them while they are still young would be fine but hitting them like the way old people does such as hitting there butt with a belt or anything that could really badly hurt a kid is not really a good thing to do.I grow up scared and distant from my dad because he was a tough dad. And i admit that i was closer to my mom who is so loving and understanding to me. But as i grow up i began to get closer to my dad when i realized that what he is doing is for my own good too. But not all kids would feel the same way as i do. Spanking when they are still young would be fine or not letting them watch tv or anything that they like to do when they did something wrong for me is enough to let a child understand that what he/she did is wrong. I believe that if you talk to your child before you punished them would make them understand more why they were being punished rather than just hit them without any explanation at all. In that way they would feel your love inspite the fact that sometimes you punished them over there wrong doings.

i see no problem in spanking. i think the problem we have is some parents do it the wrong way. when you're children misbehave you shouldn't immediately hit them you should talk to them. my mom would give me two chances to correct my behavior and if i didn't then i would get spanked. i see a lot of parents in public that when they hit their children they just smack them and i think it's wrong. more than likely they aren't consistent. some parents don't tell their kids "no" enough and then when they do say no their children get upset. you just have to be consistent not abusive.

omg! no i have 3 children, i love them. i hope no one would hit their kids..

My sisters and I were spanked with a belt seemed all the time lol....I don't think I'm much different though lol....I was like 7 years old and I wanted to give my cocker spaniel a bath so I though WD40 was soap cause when my dad sprayed it on stuff it sprayed white, so yeah....my puppy was soaked lol.....I got my butt spanked hard...needless to say I never did it again. But yeah I do spank my two kids...but I haven't yet spanked my 2 year old cause she's to small and she's still learning...on the other hand my 4 year old she gets spanked seldom but only after I haven't told her not to do something like color on the walls more than twice....or if she hurts her sisters...... But one thing I always always do is after she get hit on the butt she goes into time out for ten minutes and then I ask her what she did wrong and if she don't know i talk to her about it....... And OMG have I ever seen some horrible kids that I just wanted to spank and tell them to knock their little butts off but they aren't mine soooo but I do give the parent(s) dirty looks..."like you need to control your kid" Have fun today!

I think it is okay to spank your children. I think they need to know why they are being spanked though. my parents spanked me and i turned out okay. I do not think spanking is out dated. i think people are too quick to say someone is abusing their child. some times its easy to tell a spanked child from a non spanked child. if a parent can get there child to listen and no be bad without spanking more power to them but spaking is an okay way to deal with a misbehaving child

Lack of this discipline today causes many of our problems with youth. Its not just enough thought to spank or correct your child you need to also show the love that comes with the discipline. If a parent goes around hitting with no love then you'll get about the same result as if you never hit and just let your kid do whatever.

It's easy to say I won't resort to physical punishment when you don't have kids. But once they're there and they get all wild and freaky, which unfortunately is how kids are at certain ages, you will need to spank them to make them realize they can't get away with everything. I especially dislike it when they seem so deaf to the world, particularly when you ask them something to do. But as much as possible, we try to use something else to spank them with and not our hands.

I've been disciplined this way by my father and I had to carry the emotional scar in my personality for life. I could not say that I did not grew up what they expected me to be, but the fear is still there although it has lessened already. For me it is an outdated methodology to discipline a child. I discipline my child based on reason and loved and not by fear. I decided that this has to end now with me and I need not passed this tradition to my child. My child is as disciplined as I was when I was young and he has not experienced what I had gone through when I was a child.

There are a lot of ways in disciplining your child, there are some kids who don't listen to their parents that's why they need some punishment but of course as a parent we have to let them know why we hit them. Personally i hit my kid everytime she is so naughty and once i've told her to stop doing those things and she won't listen i would hit her. After that i will talk to her and ask her if she knows why i did that. Its really hard to raise kids and its much harder to discipline them. I can consider parenting as a process in which you will forever learn new things. Happy mylotting!

I've been disciplined like this when I was younger. My dad would usually talk to us about what we did, and explain why it's wrong. And then it would lead to why it we have to be punished... But we've only had the belt, not the other kind of punishment I've heard about. Like in some people they've experienced kneeling on salt. Ouch... Whenever my siblings and I discussed about those years, we always end up laughing. My father, whenever he disciplines us, would give us a choice of either one big blow or 10 soft blows. I picked the one big blow all the time. I've tried the 10 soft blows and they're not soft at all! They hurt! It's just funny looking back on these memories.

Definitely. That's how I was disciplined as a child. I think it is a very effective way of disciplining your children. Most children who are not physically disciplined turn out to be spoiled.

No, I will most certainly NOT hit or abuse my child in any way, shape, or form, regardless of how I was raised. Think about it for a moment, if you're hit from not doing something, I would just make you not want to do it much, much more, just for spite. If your child does what they are supposed to, you reward them, if they fail to do what you tell them to do, you take something within your power away from them. Which is why cell phones, computers, video games, and the lot are very useful for give your kids! You can take any of those things away if they fail to do what they are told.

I grew up where the rod - or in my family's case, a thin leather strap - was definitely taken use of. Now, I think at times it bordered on abuse but I am not against spanking and will probably spank my kids. With that said though, I don't think of spanking as the only way of punishment and in a lot of cases, I believe there are more effective ways such as no tv, video games, etc... to discipline a child. Us kids would always know when a spanking was in order because mom never spanked us so we waited until dad came home from work and then it was his job to spank us. THe heads up was a good thing though because we were always prepared - one time I wore 6 underwears underneath my pants! THe good thing was, I don't think mom or dad ever caught on to our extra layers!!

Hello I have 2 girls and live in America. The laws on how much you can disapline your child is much different here. I remember when I was a child the laws wernt so strict and I respect my mother for putting my in line when I got into trouble. I cant do anything but spank my kids or give them timeouts or take things away. They don't listen to me at all hardly and I wish I could disaplne my kids. Think about the stress the next generation is in for. I feel like locking my kids in a box sometimes well thats what I tell them but I would'nt actully.I already got in trouble for smacking my childs hand. America is so screwed up, just keep your kids away from here and you will be just fine.

There is also another saying that I think has Old Testament origins (Apologies if I am wrong!) that states - "Strike the child with one hand yet draw them close with the other." I am personally not a fan of smacking my kids but I do have to admit that in the past it has been a last resort action. The goal should always be to find a way to communicate in a non-physical manner to solve any problems or to discipline a child rather than immediately resort to a smack. I do not believe it is the most effective means at all; only that it is sometimes necessary.

yes i spat my kids if you notice i said spat them not beat them if you don,t discipline your kids they will discipline you,now on the other when i was growning up i was beating with sticks and 2 by fours until the blood ran out of me now that was child abuse then.you don,t have to hit them hard to let them know it,s not ok what they are doing sometime talking to the child don,t work in raising kids.

I grew up with the creative ways that my parents devised to teach us about discipline. Being the most adventurous, I had the lion's share of beatings which I bore without a cry or a whimper. I don't beat my children. I talk to them like adults and explain things to them. I allow them to learn and find out for themselves that life can bite you in the behind.

Yes, I will use the rod to discipline my future children. Though it's not always the best option, there will be situations that you have to use it to convey the lesson that you want them to learn. Yes, I would use the rod but I wouldn't use it all the time. It's very important that after you use the rod to discipline, you have to talk to your children and explain why you have to do that.In the long run, it's for the greater good because you are able to instill to them the values that they would need later on life in life to succeed. Using the rod is an effective means (but I wouldn't say most effective) to discipline a child only when it is properly used. ^.^

I worked with emotionally disturbed deaf children. Some of these children would hold their hands up to their face when I said the words "no." They did not learn as well, as they were afaid of adults. I spanked my children only if they did something dangerous, like run across the street. I wanted to save spanking for something important that they would remember. I rarely spanked them otherwise. Instead of corporal punishment, I taught my children to talk early by not using babytalk; this reduced a lot of frustration for them, as they were talking before they were 2,...and talking well. Early on, I could say, ....if you do this, you can have this; if you do not do this, ...we will leave. etc. Second, I took them places with me all the time, like out to eat in restaurants, zoos, the library, etc. If they did not behave, I told them we would leave. One threat was all I allowed, and then we would leave. Even at a young age they understood that. Consistency is very important. Never repeat a threat. Get up and leave if they misbehave anywhere. They will quickly learn without ever touching them. Yes, it is inconvenient to just leave somewhere where you want to be, ...but it does not take an awfully long time to change the behaviors. walkgla

As much as possible I do not want to hurt my daughter through spanking or hitting. I was spanked and hit by my mom everytime I did something wrong. Though nothing came bad out of that, and I still love my mom so much despite the fact that she spanks me, I think the hitting was not necessary. I could have learned my lesson well on my misdoings even if she didn't hit me. There are other forms of punishment that would not require her hand landing on my behind like making me stand against the wall, etc. It's just that those moments that she hit me left memories in my mind that I cannot seem to erase. I can still remember how terrified I was when she hit me with the "walis tingting" when I went out to play in the bukid after 4pm. I don't want my child to be terrified of me. I want her to respect me because I teach her values without resorting to hurting her. This is just my take on the matter.