im so jeaslous...
By chechuva
@chechuva (1275)
Philippines
September 11, 2008 5:31am CST
i have a co-worker that i like. i mean i have a crush on him. i don't have the courage to tell him. for me telling a guy that you like them is not an issue. but now i don't know. i just can't tell him i like him.
but one time when i browse his friendster account, i saw his primary photo and it really made me jealous! he's with a girl.. i don't know if he likes the girl or she is one of her close friends...
i have the picture below. im not bothered posting it here since none of our close friends are here in mylot.
i know i don't have the rights to be jealous, i just can't stop how i feel..someone here have felt so jealous even though you know you don't have the rights to be so?? how did you cope with it?happy posting!
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15 responses
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
11 Sep 08
[i]Hi Chechuva,
Ohh..I understand the feeling! If it's his girlfriend, I know you don't have the right to feel that but you cannot blame yourself too!
Just be his friend, it's hard to tell him what you feel if you don't know how he will perceive it! It is good if you're not in one department but the action might ruin something..Just my opinion!
And then, be open also to other guy, that is just an attraction for sure! You will just get over that once you will meet the man for you and who knows also he will be attracted to you, just be his friend and then wear your smile all the time![/i]
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
12 Sep 08
[i]Hi chechuva,
wow...I am happy for you! At last you will be having a great work now and great salary, time flies indeed when I was reading your post about you're looking for a job!
ANyway, that is a great idea girl! to set free from your hidden feelings and at the same time to be fair to him, he should know and it's up to him to figure out! LOL!
Good luck and I am looking forward to hear from you!
I remember when I was in College, I did it once with a long long long crush! LOL![/i]
@chechuva (1275)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
hello checapricorn,
good thing that im not working anymore in the same hospital with him. im actually going to saudi next week.
yes it is just an attraction. he is so gentleman and funny.. soft spoken but fun to be with... he makes me laugh
im planning to tell him that i like him before i go to saudi
what do u think?
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@rsa101 (38126)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
Well it is really hard to let this feelings get stucked in there. But then maybe you could ask him who the girl is in the photo for you to know it. I guess there's nothing wrong in there if you two are friends and from there you might already know if he's available or not. Just don't show that you feel jealous about it. Well if that is ideed his GF then you reall have no right to be jealous at all. Try focuing your attention to another guy perhaps.
@yyfrancine (461)
• China
11 Sep 08
i think you love him too much, and then love makes you be jealous. i think this pic shows he and she are friends. they are not too closer like a lover. why don't you tell him how is your feel, just hiding it, and keep all the pain on your own? i like a person, that i told him, if he refused me, i have no regret. at least i told him my real mind, it is not shame.
@chechuva (1275)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
i would go for medley.. it's only an infatuation.
im jealous but not really jealous..
this guy is my friend. i'll tell him soon that i like him. i just like him, that's all. i like the way he treats me... and i like his attitude.
maybe their is some sparks, but im not expecting him to like me the way i like him...
@medney1988 (560)
• United States
11 Sep 08
love?? i wouldn't go so far as to say that she loves him. it's an infatuation she has with someone who probably doesn't even know she exists. she just needs to buck up and tell him.
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@nlcapricorn (1114)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
I had been experience that when i was in fourth year high school. I got a crush to a new student that is new in our school. He was just transfered and i like him very much. He so good in Physics the subject that i dont like most and also Math. I thought he likes me too but that was a wrong thought of me. He is just a friendly boy that i misinterpret it. Instead he likes my bestfriend so much. I really felt jealous when i will see them talking together or going home together after school. I even cried once because i was hurt. I cant believe that was happening. I was just expecting much. But that was only a puppy love for now if i will recall it, I will just smile myself and oh wow..what a funny experience.
@chechuva (1275)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
hello!
if you don't mind, are you related with checapricorn? just curious..
anyway, it all started because of our friends starting to tease us.. im not really expecting that he likes me more than a friend.. and i know you'll agree with me that i must not expect...
@nlcapricorn (1114)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
Hi.! i Dont know checapricorn. We had just the same zodiac sign maybe. That is why shes using it and i am using it too. Happy posting!
@medney1988 (560)
• United States
11 Sep 08
you can't really be jealous. you haven't told the guy you like him therefore you have no rights. i could understand if you told him you liked him and he flaunted these girls in your face but you haven't.
i wouldn't recommend telling a co-worker that you like him. getting personally involved with people you work with can be dangerous and cause lots of issues in the long run.
you can always bring up the friendstar account and see if he'll give you more info about the girl in the picture but he might not.
i hope i've been helpful.
@Sarah1108 (310)
• United States
11 Sep 08
From looking at the picture i would say she might be a sister or something. I think it is okay being jealous because i get jealous often. Maybe you should ask him who she is. say something like that girl in your picture is pretty and her hair is nice or something like that and he will likely tell you who she is. you maybe getting jealous over nothing. That way you can also find out if he has a girlfriend or not. that may give you more power to tell him you like him
@kbrck1986 (13)
• India
12 Sep 08
According to me being jealous on someone u love can't be avoided even though it's wrong because it's human nature. If u want to clear ur thoughts about him u should better confess ur feelings towards him.
This same situation happened to me I had a crush with a girl who is my college mate. But i was not able to tell her my feelings towards her. One day I saw her with a boy so close going out somewhere, it made me worried and jealous like u. It disturbed my mind a lot I couldn't concentrate in my studies.So, in order to over come this problem I went her and proposed and she suddenly accepted my proposal i was surprised by her. Then later she told me that boy is her close friend since her child hood. That made me feel very bad for feeling jealous that something that never happened.
So, feel free express ur feelings and clear ur mind and go on with ur life. May be he also likes u. unless u try u can't stop this.
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@jmsmontecillo (95)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
Do not be jealous... its not good to be jealous to someone that you don't have any relation. Control yourself and I know its not that easy. If you have feelings for him first make sure of it. Also ask yourself why you like that guy? why I have crush on him? its just because of his appearance or his attitude? or make standard for yourself in what are you looking for a partner. Not just because of mere appearances or a good looking guy who doesnt have an attitude or good manner. Know the guy first, know what he has inside, you can see it by his attitude, hobby, or doing. By working on that part now you can learn how to act or talk with him. Don't play easy to get okey. Respect yourself. His not the only guy in this world. Only trust the Creator of all then you will have peace. Happy mylotting
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@chechuva (1275)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
i would say that i like his attitude more than his appearance. he's not that good looking but he is so gentleman and fun to be with. when he talks he always make sure that i'll laugh..
thanks for the advice and reminder. i'm sure this feeling is not because i love him already. i just admire his kindness and gentleness...
@madmoney (32)
• Bangladesh
12 Sep 08
In this world you are alone not only you we all are alone.
You like some one that is because you want to feel not alone you need to be with some one. When you understand that you are not alone you think you will be happy.
But you cant be happy unless you stop searching for happiness.
When you are searching for happiness you are letting the thing away from you and that's why you cant catch it in time.
So the thing you need to do now is to stop thinking about him think about some one you like more then him like an actor or you parents.
Try to forget him , try to make him go away from your life , try to give him the imprecation that you don't need him.
Only then you can have him when you can start to hate him.
Do that and tell me what it feels like because i know it feels so life like.
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@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
Well being jealous has different degrees depending on how much you love someone. We could say that the jealousy that you're feeling is the type that comes with having a crush or liking to someone. It's quite good that you know that you just like him and therefore it would be easier for you to get over him. Maybe you could add him as a friend too in friendster too then ask him about his picture. If he says that it is her girlfriend then you must start accepting the fact that there are a lot of other guys that you might like. Good luck to you.
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@rhyannefranz (770)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
Jealousy is a natural thing, but getting jealous even though you don't have the right is a big deal. Maybe you should know first if she really is his girlfriend. If not, I think it's time to tell him what you feel for him. Maybe he also have a crush on you and wanted to court you, but he is shy that you might turn him down. Go for it, let him know how you feel. That is the only way I think will be the best to know what's your stand. But if she really is his girlfriend, I suggest that find another guy. There's so many guys out there that I think is much worthy than him.
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@madmoney (32)
• Bangladesh
12 Sep 08
Yea you don't need to feel jealous its not because he is not your BF it's because you does not deserve him.
The right person you deserve for your life will come to you and you will feel long life connection with him.
You see we all are like magnets. Like magnets pushes away the think it does not like so as we do. But as like magnets we keep attract the think i like as long we don't have it.
You the right person will come for you and will knock on your door and will tell you :
I love you
I need you
I feel alone when i am not with you.
I want to marry you
I want to have kids with you
I can't live without you
So keep walking one day you will see some one is waiting for you with a flower on his hand.
@rekcart83 (149)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
I know how you feel. I've been there. And same as you I just can't tell her how I feel about her. Feeling jealous is natural in a situation like that. But there's nothing you can do about it. You can stop being jealous only if you stop liking that guy. I did. I gave up on the girl since she always has someone going home with her. But just recently that it becomes clear that they're really just friends. Oh well I've got someone now. And I'm really happy with her. Love you honeey. Umwah!
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@neulichuang (85)
• China
11 Sep 08
I am a man,but I understand the heart of girls.So I can understand your mood, when you find the man who you like be with another woman together.I think at first you clear the relationship the man between the woman,If they are not lover relationship, that's great, I think this is what you want,you have a great chance,then you can probe whether the man have a crush on you too.If the man have a crush on you too,OK, you can go on and do want what you want to do.If the man just want to be general friends with you. I think you'd better give hime up,of course, you don't quit if you want, untill the man change his mind.If the man and the woman are lover relationship, you can confirm whether the man have a crush on you, If the man have a crush on you, you can express yourself to the man carefully,If the man don't decline,then you can have a try and do your best,maybe the man will choose you at last.A kind-hearted and considerate girl, all men like and are attracted.
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@samtaylorskykierajen (7977)
• Canada
12 Sep 08
She is pretty but I am sure you are just as pretty and you know she really could be just a good friend or even a realtive . If you really like this guy you should let him know , you have nothing to lose by letting him know how you feel as right now you are in a limbo stage because you like but you are not sure if he likes you and you think he has a girlfriend but you are not really sure so you are clinging on to hope that maybe one day !!
I believe everyone experiences jealousy at some point in there life it is how well you handle your jealousy that counts . Try to keep in mind that you are a good person and no matter what someone else has there is always something they would like to have that they don't . There is no one out there who is ever fully happy with what they have in life and wouldn't change something if given the opportunity which means you are like everyone else as we are all the same .
Being human is what causes us to be jealous and we are all human so we all suffer from this from time to time . We just have to learn how to get through it . You can do it ... I know you can ... believe in yourself and tell him how you feel . If he says he doesn't feel the same way well at least you will know and you will be able to move on from there .
Best of luck in whatever you decide :)