one more week....i'm nervous....

@raclie (1732)
Singapore
September 11, 2008 8:41am CST
my mother is going to meet my brother's adpotive parents on the 18 this month... that makes it a week!!!! i am really scared about the whole idea that he may not be with us any longer. and him leaving us, (or is it us leaving him?) is just something i dont want to think about. i mean that having him in my life for such a long time... and him leaving.... i just dont know what to do... i think it will be too painful to think about it... i dont know.... just really have no idea how to handle it.... sorry that this is not a discussion... just want to voice it out...
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5 responses
lilsammilb
@lilsammilb (21)
• United States
11 Sep 08
Hello raclie,I hope all goes well for you!I can not wait for the day my sisters son now in 12/1 will be 19 years old,I have waited forever to meet him,just try to look at it like your brother and yourself can have two hopefully wonderful families to love you guys!The more the marrier.If your brother grew up with you I am sure he will not get up and leave you all,he may have been adopted,but by heart you guys is where he belongs,you can not break up a family,members do that themselves.You should talk to him,I am sure he is just as nervous as you are and it would do you both some good to get the tension and questions answered before yu all go meet the other family.Good luck to you,may this be a wonderful blessing!!
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sharonegan
@sharonegan (31)
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11 Sep 08
ok, i am not exactly certain of the situation that you have described, but it is obvously a sensitive and serious time for you and your family to deal with.. how long have you lived with your brother? whatever the time, if you have grown up together then you will always be a part of each other's lives... love and peace to you all..take care xxx
raclie
@raclie (1732)
• Singapore
19 Sep 08
he is my foster brother, and has been for 4 years. now he is getting adopted. i will really miss him... take care...
sharonegan
@sharonegan (31)
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19 Sep 08
ah ok... yes, i agree that this will make you nervous - it will be tough on all of you...but i sincerely hope that you will be able to keep in touch with him. all the best, take care xxx
sunshine4
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
11 Sep 08
Sorry, I am confused about this. Is your brother living with you and your mother, or with the adoptive parents and now he is going to meet your mother? What is the age of your brother. As I am reading this, it seems to me like your mother is giving your brother up for adoption? Is this the case?
raclie
@raclie (1732)
• Singapore
19 Sep 08
he is my foster brother. we had him when he was 1 month old, which was 4 years ago. now he is going to get adopted. my mom was going to meet his adoptive parents.. sorry if it confuses you. and sorry for the late response
sunshine4
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
20 Sep 08
Ok.....gotcha now! I hope that his adoptive parents are open to letting him keep a relationship with you and your parents. That is wonderful for him that he is going to be adopted, if not by your parents, by others that can give him a stable loving home. Good luck to you.
ahgong
@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
30 Sep 08
hmm... 18 came and went. How did that meeting go? I am sure everyone here will understand that you are voicing out here. We all need a listening ear every now and then.
sudalunts
@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
11 Sep 08
I do not know your circumstances, but I imagine to have to have your brother adopted after you have gotten to know and love him is really hard for you as well as your entire family I am sure. If your brother is old enought to know what is going on, imagine how he must be feeling. After the adoption, will you be allowed to see him, or is he going to be taken far away, and it would become difficult to see him? I hope the new parents will be a great inspiration in his life, and that somehow you all can still keep in touch. God bless you and your family