He hurts my feelings

dear.. these men are mostly like this... they do not appreciate you for wht you do and your efforts... all they can do is criticise... its just they are too materialistic... they do not know much about feelings.... i've gone thru this stiuation before... so take a chill pill... dnt do any thing for him... and tell him that why you do not want to do anything for him... eveyone is sensitive dear... try critising his work... and then look at his expressions.. they just do not get what feelings are...

well it depends the tone and attitude he had when he did this.. u might be a lil sensitive.. he just might be a perfectionist like me ahah.. but he shouldnt get angry or get an attitude about it.. he should be happy you put forth your best effort.. no one is a pro at anything they dont do alot.. so dont be down on yourself.. if u gave your best effort.. thats all u can do and all that is expected from anybody..

[i]HI pink, I understand how you feel, I will feel the same way if my partner will handle the situation like that! There is a point to admire the work as well as thank with you effort but pointing out right away the negative side of it is very painful! Anyway, he hurt you already, I hope he knows how much and hope he will apologize since the time and effort you have exerted to finish the work is very special already if he look it that way![/i]

Some people are hard to please especially those that are self proclaimed perfect. I think the situation could have been handled better than that. He could have appreciated what you did or tried to do for him. Some things can't be changed and you learn from experience. So count that as an experience, and you will know how to handle it in the future. Try not to worry about it life goes on. I don't think you are sensitive at all you just got your feeling hurt.

this sounds like the beginning of an emotionally abusive relationship. i don't think you're being too sensitive i think he's being extremely hard on you. if he wanted the wall to be perfect he should have hired professionals. i'm sorry

well i guess hes not a perfectionist ahah.. but maybe just with you? thats good he wants to spend the rest of his life with you.. if u feel the same.. thats great.. but he still needs to think about what he does before he does.. if hes stressed about something or whatever he needs to learn how to control himself.. if he wants to spend the rest of his life with you.. he has to treat you like it and remember that nobody is perfect..

I think that you might just be a tich sensitive. I don't know how he is but if he is a perfectionist than the line did bother him in the paint. I know a couple of perfectionist and things like that would bother them. He did tell you it was not a reflection on you. He could have been a bit more understanding and told you he appreciated the job you did. I don't think you should say that this is a representation of your relationship. I think you are making a mountain out of a mole hill. But that is just my opinion.

Well, partly it could be your sensitivity but on the other hand, you were just trying to do something for him out of your goodwill so he shouldn't have said anything except appreciate what you did. Also, what was his tone when he said it? It could also be his tone that made you feel hurt and unappreciated. No one is perfect. Never think that somebody is perfect. Hugs to you!

hi pinkharleygirl no you are not too sensitive, and he is very harsh acting like that.If you are not married to Mr. Perfect I would suggest you tell him you are very hurt and dont feel that your relationship is going to work, See this is his house, and i have a feeling that there will be other things he will blow his stack about after having asked you to do them. a perfectionist is very hard to live with and usually it takes another perfectionist to get along with him. I would not feel bad but would tell him that you are a human being and humans unlike Mr Perfics do make ocassional errors. You are not ever going to be good enough to suit someone who is that much of a perfecionist. now is the time to say goodby sayonara, farewell and dont let the door hit your butt on the way out. his house, his perfection, note he did not say our house, no, never our house. Geta fellow who loves you a s you are and would say our house, and thanks honey you did a great job.

I wouldn't think much of it, unless it has happened a lot. Like if similar things have happened, you might want to talk to him and tell him how it hurts you. Men can be arrogant sometimes and women are naturally sensitive. Both need to meet in the middle somewhere. You, like all women, could probably afford to be a little less sensitive, while men in general should learn to be a little more appreciative of us and not so arrogant and selfish.

Well, I don't think that you are too sensitive..You were just expecting something from him like he would has "that's cool" or simple just a thank you for doing it..But since you did not reach your expectation to him so you just felt bad and hurt of what did he say.. Actually,it is not your fault if you didn't paint it well since you are not a carpenter to have a perfect job like painting a wall.. You just help him to paint his wall.. If I'm in your situation and if he said those words to me maybe I will get mad at him and live him in his house.. He shouldn't have the right to talked those things to me since I just help him.. He must also expect that the result of the painting isn't that perfect since you are not that perfect to do that kind of job.. Oh well, maybe he is just really expecting so much from you and also same as you to him...

Conciser this a wake up call. The man is emotionally abusive. It can only get worse. You need to get out of this relationship while you still have some self worth left. Do you really want to spend your life with someone who will be looking at everything you do under a microscope? It's way to much pressure for anyone and it's not psychologically healthy. Tell him by, and find yourself someone who will value you and appreciate you as you are.

I would say that if he wanted it to be perfect and was fussy about the job that was done then he should have done it himself. He should have been happy that you bothered to do it all, given that it was his wall and he wanted it done!

Do you see anything different from him lately? How long have you been living together? Does he look stressed? May be you need to ask him if his alright. Sometime people like him tend to keep problem to them selves not because they don't trust you, it is rather that they don't want to bother you with their problem. May be that is the reason he is unhappy about the job you've done. He is stressed on something else. Maybe that is his way of telling you that he got problem and the only thing he can do right now is to show that the things you do is not up to his standard...

Oh shame, I know how you feel. That sort of thing can kill a relationship, and if you feel strongly about the person it can slowly diminish your self-esteem and feelings of self worth. That sort of negativity has killed an important relationship for me in the past. I would for example spend hours and hours and hours cleaning and tidying, and be really proud of myself, only to tell this person and have them survey the house and say 'where did you tidy?'. So what if they cannot see where I tidied - I had just told them that I spent hours tidying - is that fact alone, the fact that I put so much effort into it, not good enough for them? If my partner had gone to the trouble of painting a wall for me, I would treasure their effort, not criticise it.

No you are not too sensitive. He is too critical and controlling.

No, you're too much of a DOORMAT. He walks all over you, & you LET him. Grow a backbone; tell him his disrespect is NOT ACCEPTABLE, & that he must CHANGE. If he chooses NOT to, then he obviously doesn't love you, & you should then move on. Only THEN will you have self respect. Maggiepie

Do not I think that by the act of your husband your feelings are hurt. It is more love he do with your because he want to correct you. He says today you have not done good, tomorrow you will do good and next time it will be better and best also.Just have courage and take it in other terms of happiness.

You will really get hurt if he told you those things with a high tone of voice. And tell you stupid words. He must appreaciate what you've done coz you try your best.I do also painted my baby's bedroom.I never done in properly and perfect but my husband just say on me that i never done it properly nice and he retouch the wall again. Just say nicely so nomore heartaches.

well you should sit down with him and talk with him. just tell him you tryed you best.