what am i supposed to do? plz help

We went away to get married and have our honeymoon in the same location. My hubby's family came to the wedding of course and then they stayed around. It wasn't all as bad as you would think though. They gave us space, and didn't hang around us we just did our own thing. We didn't stay in the same hotel or anything.

hi saroodebolan i would like to suggest you that you should go alone not with your sister. honeymoon is a period which husband wife should spend together without interference of third person. if you go with your sister in law then your husband will expect that you should take care of her or her children even he will also try not to ignore his sister. before my honeymoon my husband wanted to go with his friend family and asked me. i told him "NO". i want to spend time with you only not with anyone else.

I would first talk to my husband. I am not understanding a honeymoon with a man you are already calling your husband? are you already married? For me, a honeymoon begins the night of your wedding and it sounds like you are already married.

Lol for go with your husband's plan. In the part of the world you are there is necessity of security also. Do not mind you will feel secure. I think the kids are not going to sleep in your bed room. More over your sister in law is not going to be a hurdle in your affairs. Take it easy and enjoy lol.

There is no way I'd take anyone on my honeymoon. That's a special time for the newly weds to be alone and just enjoy each other. Stand up for what you want! It's your special time to be spent on how you want it. Your honeymoon needs to be something you both want!!!! Good luck!

I totally agree. You should never under any circumstances take family on your honeymoon. I mean that is a sacred time for two people to consumate their vows to eachother and also so eachother how much their in love. Its not a time to hear campfire stories or share rooms or who knows even babysit. There is pleanty of time for that in the future . Right now its time to love eachother and spend you special time in bliss alone with your signifigant other. Don't feel bad honey you deserve to have your man all to yourself for a few days. Cherish it!

If I were you, I would talk to my husband and tell him how I feel. I'll explain clearly that it is not the idea of spending time with his sister's family that bothers me but the idea that we will be spending our honeymoon, a supposedly exclusive time for the two of us, with them. I would just suggest a win-win deal, like, maybe they can just follow after a few days so at least we can have our time as honeymooners first and then spend some fun time with them later as well.

I think you need to tell your husband that your idea of a honeymoon involves just the two of you and no one else. It may sound a little selfish but I think that you need to express your unhappiness early before they start booking the hotel. You may want to consider another place which is more appealing to your husband instead or mention another good deal elsewhere to entice him to change his mind about going with his sister. I would definitely want my honeymoon undisturbed. But I do remember once when I was young, my family and I went on a vacation. My uncle came along with his wife. It was to be their honeymoon. But since they were not familiar with vacationing outside the country, so they tagged along. I don't know how they felt about it. My sister and I were just kids then. I hope they enjoyed it and did not feel like we were disturbing them.

I would be upset as well. I would tell my husband that it is our honeymoon and that WE are going to spend it alone. If he wants his sister and her family to join you on a vacation, then he should plan it for a later date. You must start NOW to speak up for yourself, because if you do not it is always going to be what your husband wants. Then the first time you rebel and stick to your grounds, he won't know how to handle it.

Wow!! Men can be so unaware. You should maybe sit down with your husband and explain the fact that you would like to be alone with him on your honeymoon. At the very least, maybe stay in a different hotel. But the most important thing is, you need to tell him how you are feeling about this. Communication is an essential key to any good marriage and it starts now. Don't keep things bottled up inside. I did that during my 1st marriage and let him decide everything for us. I had finally had enough, and we ended up divorced. But guess what, 4 years later we found each other once more and have been married for 14 years this time. I no longer keep things inside and let him know how I feel about everything. If this is REALLY bothering you, just sit down with him and talk it out. Good luck and I hope it works out for you.

first of all i will try to convince him to plan the tour at some other time of seperately from his sisters family,otherwise i will cancel it.Because with out intrest we con't enjoy and may raise some unsatifactory feelings in family.

Hmmmmmmmmmmmm it shld me upon its own personality 2 judge the situation and tak responsibility. I would suggest that u 1c think frm ur heart and then frm ur mind Aftr that the decision which suites u tak action upon that Its ur life u hav 2 tak decision no 1 else will.So chill out and act accordingly

For our honeymoon, my dad very kindly paid for us to spend two weeks in St Lucia. We were of course thankful and excited, but then came the but.... He and two of his children from his second marriage would be there too, and then his second wife was going to join them one week later. I was dreading it. There wasn't much I could do, and me and my husband were wondering if we should cancel and not have a honeymoon at all, or run with it. Well, we went, and we spent a week by ourselves, and then my dad's family joined us. We met up every day for every meal and in between times too, and to be honest it was really enjoyable. We left them whenever we wanted, but had other people there whenever we wanted, so we never got bored. As a bonus I met and got to really like two of my half-brothers, which would never have happened otherwise. Say your bit to your intended, but if it happens anyway, just make sure you have some alone time with your new husband when you want it, and go out as a group when you want some company. It's not the end of the world.

I definitely would talk to him about it. You're not going to have a good time if you're not happy, and I think you should be happy on your honeymoon! Tell him how you feel... I'm sure he'll understand! I mean, if that were me, there would've been noooo way that my hubby's sister came with us on our honeymoon!!

Of course, if I am in your situation I want it also to have our own place to go without any disturbances.. Since, as what you've said above you are a new wed then it is more fun and romantic if only both of you are there and no other people you know can disturb.. Well, if you don't really like his idea better tell him already so that you can still make an excuse to them.. Just tell him your reasons why you don't like his idea of course in a good way so that he will not get mad.. I think he will understand it..

Yeah i would be upset... I would totally not agree with going there with all those relatives.. the whole point is to be wife and husband together for a little while... you can vacation with them next time...

well, i would feel upset too... imagine, your newly wed couple and your'e going to have your very first honey moon then your hubby's sister will be there on your most awaited event? uh oh! if i were in your place, i will talk to my hubby(in a very nice way) that we should spend the honeymoon together. its our moment, you know.. we can just invite his family or friends next time..

First of all always be honest about your feelings with your husband, or you may end up resenting him because he wont understand why you are upset. Men are not mind readers, that's for sure, just tell him how you feel.. the truth. You will both be happier for it now and later in you marriage:)

How could your husband even suggest such an arrangement? I would never have liked it. Honey moon is just husband and wife. Sorry no baggage along. neither yours nor his. Why is he doing it? Is he trying to avoid the expenses? Are the expenses of a good hotel being met by his sister's husband? Just not done. i do not mind strangers around but prying relatives and that to children along too. That is too much. i pity you. Why don't you talk your husband out of it? When i got married I told my wife lets go out somewhere. anywhere where we can be alone on our own. Do freeky things act funny and be ourselves, with no on eto ask us what we are up to and when we ar eating or sleepign or going out or relaxing. Be totally by yourself. hey don't takeit lightly.