I was wondering what order are you when it comes to being a family?

I work from my home office only right now. I am bookkeeper, doing bookkeeping/payroll for a company right now. It is part time, so I am looking for another part time job to supplement.

Thanks laurie that would be wonderful if you could get me a list of places that really pay. I have joined a few, but not making much. Needing to get something to supplement the part time job I have. Thanks you!

Thanks for sharing. I agree with you there. Computers are wonderful and I know that there are lots of ways making money online. I have used some and it worked out fine. I would like to make more though than what I am getting. My brother and I are different but I still love him despite that we are a few years apart. I'm the oldest between him and I. Like you, I hate the idea of being force to take some other classes in order for me to take the ones that I really want so I chose a community college within my area that let me take mandarin chinese without having to take the other ones. The next one that is closer required me to take english and I don't have extra time to take it. Maybe I will take english later on but for now, I would like to work on my mandarin chinese. There are lots of online jobs that I see, it's rediculous how some people don't see that you can work at home. In the meantime, make money doing something despite not making the amount that you are happy with. Better than not having any money at all, right? I was wondering. What are you doing for work at home? DO you work outside of the house at all or just at home?

It's wonderful that both of you get along so well and know what have been through to get to where you both got to where you are. Very interesting that both of you did a lot of same stuff as being a teacher, both of you are creative and love to write and publish. Both of you seem to be very smart which is great. My brother have always been academically gifted compare to me but I don't mind. I see myself as a pioneer on wanting what I want. i am going to go back to school to take mandarin chinese so then I could combo it with freelance writing. I have always love writing but didn't take any action until July 26 when I started with ehow to write for them. I love writing and translating more than anything. I love the freedom, flexibility, and be able to be at home with my girls. I will be at school twice a week for a few hours which are great for me to take it. My other two will be at school while my younest will be with daddy and/or grandma.

Thanks. I'm glad that I now know what my purpose in life is besides just being a mom. I was lost for a long time while my brother, who is 2 years and 8 days younger than me, already know what to do. The thing is, he doesn't have that entrepreneurial spirit like I do. I love the freedom to do whatever I want and get paid for it while also get to be at home doing it with the kids with me and if they are at school. Have you decided what you wanted to do with your life for sure? I was just wondering.

I think it's great when you can figure out exactly what you want and be able to get it. Good luck with all of it!

Like you, I'm the oldest. I have a younger brother who is my only sib that I have. He have always been academically gifted compare to me. I went to a vocational college and passed it with a certification in microcomputer applications while I was pregnant while my bro have a degree in business going to a local university for 4 years. I am the one that love freedom and flexibility to work while he is into working for an employer. And yes. As you can see, we have our differences but I couldn't have askecd for a better sibling than him. I used to wish I have a older sib but I guess it wasn't meant to be and have accepted it.

I know how you feel. You both have your ups and downs as well. My brother is more intelligent than I when it comes to having a better grade than I did in school. I have been doing some soul searching lately and wanted to get into freelance writing and translation ever since as i can remember but didn't do anything. I wanted independence while he wanted to work for a company forever which i am not saying it's bad. We both have our ups and downs as well and I am the oldest between my brother and I. I have three girls while he have none. I am certified for microcomputer applications while he have a degree in business. Everybody's different which is good. More variety of people the better. I am living with my hon's mom and such while my brother still live with our dad. I wish you luck on getting your own place if that is one of your many goals. It certainly is mine as well. Besides being on here, are you on any other place online? I have a myspace profile as well. It's at http://www,myspace.com/chinesemom and let me know what you think if you have the time. I am also looking to network with other moms online too.

I checked out your myspace and I really like your page. I used to be on myspace but have since started using facebook and have neglected my myspace account. There are a lot of groups on Facebook for parents, single parents, young parents and so on. I tend to use that when I need advice on something or help others that need advice.

Thanks. I am on facebook too. Look for Laurie Tam and that would be me with my second daughter in the picture. I don't usually check up on facebook as much as with myspace since I have way more friends on there than on facebook. I was wondering about something. Besides being on here, you do anythng else to earn yourself money? Are you ok with the amount you get each month from this place? It's passive income being on here, right? I am on ehow and on some other writing sites.

My brother is the high achiever compare to me even though I am the oldest between me and him. He went and finish his 4 year college with a degree in business while I got a certification of microcomputer applications. I have three girls (ages are 7, 3 and a 8 month old) while my brother are kidless. I live with my hon and his mom while he still live with our dad. Why do you say that the ones that went to technical school have a better chance at getting a job compare to the university ones? My brother got his degree at our local college which is University of Washington here in seattle. It's a pretty good school as one of the many schools we have here. I went to a vocational school back in 04 and graduated before my second child was born. I was happy about that because I accomplished it. I am going to go back to school but at my local community college so then I can take mandarin chinese to conbime it with writing.

Sorry it took so long to get back to you. The reason I think technical school is better than university is because at technical school you're learning a useful trade. I'm not saying that what is learned at university is not useful, it just doesn't seem to be much in demand.

I agree with you both and we do have advantages as well as some disadvantages. No matter what birth order you are, there will always some cons and pros on something. I'm the oldest between my brother and I. He's 2 years and 8 days younger than me and I remember when we were younger, I used to not be so crazy about him. I think usually the older child does tend to be jealous of the younger ones. I have three girls and the good thing for me was that the two oldest love my 8 month old girl as well. I love that they get along so great but with sometimes the two older ones do tend to fight and such. I love having a brother since i grew to love him and admire him for being here. I'm sure my girls will feel the same with each other. When I was younger and such, I did wish I have a older sister or brother but it was meant to be that I am the oldest between my brother and I.

I think that part of what you say is true, they just don't have the energy once that second or third child comes along. However, part of parents being strict on the first child is, they are learning how to be parents. We older kids are the ones that have ideas on parenting tested on them, Oh, that didn't work, we won't do that with the next one,etc. But, we do reap some of the better benefits, because until the other one, two or three other kids come along, we get all the attention. I don't know if that is a good trade off or not, sometimes.*L*

Very interesting. I have been disappointing my parents of not going to a university like my brother did. I consider myself the black sheep of the family since my brother went to a university while I did not. Although, I did get a certification from a vocational college. That school no longer exist and finished it before my second child was born. Now a mom of three girls and will be going back to school. We are living with my hon's mom and she tried to discourage me from going to school and suggesting that I wait. If I listened to her, i would never get around to it. I know that her intention was who will be watching the baby while I'm gone but at least it's done when my two girls are in school. She tried to pull that on me after i enroll at the vocational college. If I did listen to her, I would of resent her for sure. SOmetimes listening to what others say that are within your family is not the best and the only way to go in life. I think my parents expected the best of me and both were happy that I graduated high school though and I am sure both are disappointed that I am not married at all despite that I have been with him for 13 years now.

I'm the oldest and it's interesting to read what some of you say. you're the youngest and was wondering what your family situation was when you were growing up. I have three girls myself that are still pretty young.

It's funny since you mention it. I am the oldest between my brother and I for 2 years and 8 days apart. Despite our very small age differences, he have always been more intelligent than I am when it comes to school but I am more intelligent than him when it comes to something else. I am not saying that his idea is bad but I have that side of me that prefer freedom to learn whatever I want kind of thing. I went to a vocational college and finished it before my second child was born so i was proud and happy with myself. going to go back to school this late month in order to combine it with freelance writing. I have been a freelance writing since July 26 so it isn't that long but recently for under 2 months now. I'm a stay at home mom with three girls that I take care of.

I am talking about the position that you are in as well as anybody. Some have been encouraged to do something while for others wasn't so lucky. No. I don't think that I should of gone to the university. I prefer not to because it wasn't my style. I prefer going to a school where I can learn whatever I want that they have. I love having the freedom to instead of doing everything that the school wanted you to do just because in my opinion, they wanted you to end up paying more than you have to in order for you to take a particular class that you want. The school I am going to go to real soon this month have a class that I wanted to take. There is no requirement to take some other class compare to the other community college that is second to being the next closest one from where I am. That one required me to take english. I'm already fluent with it and plus, my youngest is 8 months. I don't need to waste more time than I should when it comes for me to wanting to learn something. I am thinking about taking nutrition class after I ama ll done with chinese. I had always love learning but not being forced to learn every single thing if i wanted to take some particular class just because I enrolled there. In every family when it comes to birth order, for the most part, the siblings will always love and respect each other no matter what. My brother and I have some different viewpoints and even then, I love him and glad that he is here on earth too.

I'm the oldest between my brother and I. He is 2 years and 8 days younger than me. He had done academically better than I did in school and he was the one that went to a University while I went and got my certification at a vocational college. He graduated already and got his degree in business while my certification was in microcomputer applications. I had fun going to that class meeting new people and stuff. I will be going back to school within this season and this month which will go really good with my freelance writing thing. I had been told and heard that translators make really good money. I am not just into the money part but love using what I have to help others in order to help myself. I know how to write more than reading and speaking which I need work on. Plus, it's a way for me to get out of the house and network with others at the school twice a week for a few hours being there. I have been viewed as the blacksheep between my brother and I since I am not married and have three kids already. I have been with my kids father for 13 years now. There were times that it did bother me but when I come to think about it, marriage isn't for everybody look at Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell and they've been together longer than my hon and I did.

I'm the oldest between my bro and I. He went to a Univerisity while I went to a vocational school and graduated before I gave birth to my 2nd daughter. I have three girls myself. I will be going to a local community college in my area twice a week for a few hours being away from my 8 month old while my other two will be at school.

That's good that you wanted to do good in your life. I didn't feel that way for a long time until wanting to do something on JUly 26. Been writing for ehow ever since and need to make some more articles. I have the determination and the drive to improve my life without having to work outside of the house and have been doing ok. I am going to go back to school to combine it with freelance writing of translation since with two of them together, would be able to make more money than just freelance writing alone. I'm the oldest between my brother and I and he is academically smarter than me ever since i could remember when it comes to school. I hate learning something that i wasn't interested in just because of some other class I wanted to take without all the other mumbo jumbo stuff in the mix.

Hi there. I'm the oldest between my brother and I so I know what it feels like. Everybody is smart about something whether they know it or not. She may be smarter than you when it comes to school but ar least you and her were able to get in the university. I'm older than my brother by 2 years and 8 days and our birthdays are next month. He may be school smarter than me but I am smarter than him with my chinese and other things.

She says it was hard to let me go easier for my next sister and even easier for the third...hard because i was the first to leave and she wanted me to stay a year longer...the last one thats left..she was home every weekend because she was only an hour away so it wasnt as hard... With my baby sister when she graduates and moves iout its going to be atleast 10 years behind the last one...thats the age difference there...and with her having cancer and all that...mom spends alot more time with her and it will be hard for her because she will be alone 2 out of every 3 weeks because dad works away from home.

No wonder. She is alone and that is what she felt. I would ask her what her interest are before she even had any of you. What did she enjoy doing in her younger years? Sounds like she doesn't the idea of the "empty nest" kind of thing. I was listening to one about it yesterday even though I am not christian. There are moms and dads that are in the empty nester area now and they mention about what to do with their own life since all of their kids moved away. Someday, I will have that day coming too but for now, before that day comes, I am preparing myself financially so then if anything bad does happen, I have something to cushion me for the fall. Unfortunately, most people don't take advantage to cushion themselves so they suffer financially. I'm the oldest between me and my brother which we are just 2 years and 8 days apart. He still live with our dad while I am not living with him but my hon's mom's house now. I moved out for sure when I was 15 after I met my hon. Then was living at his place when I was 21 after I had my first child. Then we finally got to move in with his mom when my oldest was 2 and now, she's 7. I hope that you would ask your mom about it and that way, she can find out what she likes before it's too late. She needs to get a social life going on. I wanted to go check out the crochet group thing tomorrow but because I have to be here before my 3 year old goes to school. I would have to miss that. I have always wanted to learn how to crochet and knit. My mom knows how to do both. I only know single stitch when it comes to crochet. I even have books about it but never gotten around to it since I am more into wanting to earn income for the time being.

I'm the oldest between my brother and I. I have always felt somewhat out of place when it comes to being academically gifted like my brother. In this case, I do not have the oldest member being gifted when it comes to school thing. I have three girls. He have none. He went to a university and have a degree in business while I finished mine with a microcomputer applications certification. Going to be going back to school this coming month and hoping that I will be able to finish it withou any probs. I live with my hon and his mom while bro live with our dad where my dad's wife also live at as well as our stepbrother who is related to our stepmom (it's his mom). Why would your mom have a problem with you and the baby of the family move out? I guess I can see why but wanted to know why. I guess she couldn't let go of her babies in my opinion.

Wow. I don't know if i could of handled it better than you did when I was your age. I'm almost 29 and my brother is almost 27. My brother have that independent streak to him too. My brother and I though did see each other. He never ever visited my mom at all even though he could of came to see her. I remember once when we were younger, he did hug me but I didn't do it back. i regret not doing that ever since. I'm happy that you cherish your sister too just like I cherish my baby brother. I can't wait to someday be a aunty.

You know, I believe it is true when it comes to birth order. I have three girls myself (7, 3 and a 8 month old). Some only child get spoiled while others turned out fine. I don't know too many people that are an only child but I guess it's neat for them and that some are used to getting everything what they want from their parents. Birth order does matter actually. YOu know the part where it's usually the oldest that goes to a 4 year college and have everything worked out in life? Well, I am the oldest between my brother and I. Here's the difference between me and my brother. Me: went to a vocational college and will be going back to school this coming fall to take a class twice a week kind of thing. I have three girls. I know how to speak and read some chinese and fluent with writing only (this is the reason why I am going back to school to take chinese). I live with my hon's mom which we both are until we can have enough to get our own. I have been with my hon for 13 years now. I'm almost 29 now. I like freedom and flexibility in life so I recently chose to get into freelance writing and wanted to mix it with translation so then I can be a freelancer and work when I want whenever I want. Brother: My parents did send him to Hong Kong when he was really young since they couldn't take care both of us. I can just imagine that it was heartbreaking. He's 2 years and 8 days younger than me. He stil live with our dad which we have s stepmom and a stepbrother from her previous marriage. He finished a 4 year college thing and got a degree in business. He believe in working for employers and doesn't think about wanting to get into his own business since he doesn't want to take risks. Well, there's everything that is the difference between my brother and I. My oldest who is 7 likes being a older sister because she love her sisters so much. I let her hold my 8 month old sometimes when she ask me to as well as my 3 year old but I have her sit down on the couch to do that since she is still so little herself. Here are the facts about me and my brother.

My mom was the middle child and she ended up doing fine, but I have known some people who always seem to think they weren't treated as well. I would imagine it just depends on the situation.

I may not know what it's like to be a middle child but It's great that you and your sister are turning out great. my bro had better grades than I did in school and even though I am the oldest, I have more knowledge than him that he doesn't. It's not just the part that I am a parent myself but I know how to write and read some words in chinese compare to him. I'm going to be enrolling at my local community college real soon when school starts on the 25th. I am fluent on writing but not reading and speaking it. I am planning to take my own kids to china someday and me being able to prepare that day will get me so far so then I wouldn't need to get a translator when I am there. I would be able to speak with the people in china if they only speak mandarin and at least practice and do small talk when I am there. There are people that do know how to speak mandarin but there are some like the older generation that don't.

That's wonderful. I haven't been to china since i was 4. Back in 84, my mom, bro and I were in Hong Kong since my mom's side of the family live there still. I miss not being able to get to travel at all especially if traveling outside the US. I'm 100% chinese so I know that you are very understanding on that. My kids are half chinese, and half white (their dad is mainly norwegian with a little bit of german, dutch and irish as his mom said). I wish that he knew how to speak norwegian so then that way, if we ever do go to Norway, would be able to communicate with people there. I've been told Norwegian is mainly like Russian since they are mainly alike. Do you have kids yourself or no? I have three very wonderful girls. If you want, check out my myspace profile. Unfortunately, I don't have any recent pics of my newest addition. I'll get around one of these days since they are pretty much taken with my cell.

That trip would be a great experience for your kids. My husband has a friend who is married to someone from China. Her parents still live there so they go every year which is great for her parents because each time they've gone (the past three years) they always have another child so her parents get to see their grandkids and introduce some of their culture.

I'm the oldest between my brother and I. The thing is that he's an adult now so he can do whatever he want as well. Being the oldest have its ups and downs like anything else in life. For example, as the oldest, you were expected to know better than the younger ones which is somewhat understandable and depending on the oldest child's age, it can get pretty ugly for some of the oldest kid. Some if anything, turned out alright while for others can turn that into well, it would be sibling rivalry or something like that. I do tend to sometimes wish I have a older sibling but already accepted my fate as the oldest. I guess I need some guidance from someone else that is older than me. I have three girls which their ages are 7, 3 and 8 months old., Sometimes we are much more harder and stricter with our 7 year old since as you know, is the oldest. Being the oldest is sometimes not fair for punishment though.