What are the bad habits that can ruin a marriage?

I am married. I am married for life. I have no intention of leaving, we have a good relationship. Things that would cause me to consider leaving: infidelity, lies, lack of trust and lack of communication. These are the big ones. Other problems we can work through. One thing I learned early on in my relationship was to ask myself if whatever was bothering me was big enough to cause a divorce. If not, they don't push it and get over it. We've been married for 14 years. Amazingly enough, we got married on our 6th date and we had only known each other long distance for 8 months. We have two children. I love my life with him more than anything under God.

You can put selfish things on this list, or you can put equally beneficial things. This is the issue really. The problem that occurs is that people are very selfish. They think about what they want; and do not consider that the other person may not relate to their ideas or desires. That is why it is so important to communicate effectively. You have to come to an agreement that matches both as equally as possible. Marriage is a desire to help another and be with another. Two people are very different. Because of that, you have to realize that each person will have times of not being pleased. the trick is to make sure that it is as equal as possible. that is not easy. Hence the problem with so much divorce.

Yes some habits can cause a lot of damage in a relationship period. One of the worst habits that could ruin a relationship is a person with a big mouth. A person who criticizes a lot, without being constructive in their criticism. The quickest way to destroy a relationship is when the person picks at you, instead of helping you to over come or to show some understanding. Anything can cause the relationship to dissolve. Manners is anothr thing that can do destroy a relationship. You have to be very observant when choosing a partner for life. Get to know the person, if you can, before you become personal with them. Most of all, believe what you see, hear, and everything else. Make sure its somebody you can be proud of. Someone who has your best interest at heart. Selfishness will definitely kill a relationship.

Some actions that can affect marriage include laziness, distrust, unfaithfulness, dishonesty, disrespect and lying (this one is the worst). Trust and respect are essential to any happy relationship, however I do not believe that little things like not putting the toilet seat down should factor into it. Everyone has their annoying little habits but you should be more tolerant. I really dislike smoking so my partner should be aware that I would not marry nor have children with a smoker. I would not marry expecting change and then separate due to not getting what I want!

i would give a list!!! he shouldn't be a smoker he shouldn't be a drunk ed he shouldn't be a selfish he shouldn't be a egoistic he shouldn't be a flirt he shouldn't be a atheist

I thing,the bad habits was about selfish. people become one is so difficult. Everyone still have selfish although that was a kind people. So, if 2 people can forget the selfish and understant about what their couple need and want, that couple can be forever..thx^^..Richard.

telling lies to your partner i guess is first on my list. And then everything comes next. Upon telling lies you are not just being untruthful to your wife but to your family and i guess its not just a simple thing. If your not being honest with little things then im sure you can tell lies for things that are need to be said and your partner needs to know. HAppy mylotting cheers!

jenaisle, i hope you're married? these are my inputs: 1. inability to provide for the family, like food, shelter, clothing, bills, school fees etc. any man that is unable to provide for his family is worse than an infidel says the bble. 2. unfaithfulness: couples that are unfaithful to themselves can destroy their marriage. flirting like others said could be dangerous to a marriage and family togetherness. 3. lack of love: love covers a multitude of sin, if you love your spouse there will be peace and harmony. 4. mother in inlaw or father in inlaw problems: like some african countries, this one of the greatest issues breaking the homes. unless both partners agrees, understands each other and break the bond of mother inlaw and fatherinlaw. let me stop here!

Bad habits, I have to say the promises that are never met and the lies. It is the small lies that really bugs me. I feel they are not taking responsbility of their actions and their words don't mean anything. I can catch my husband saying a bad word in front of our kids and I said you should not say that, and he would say "I did not say anything" Now, this happens too often for me to believe that I am hearing things. How can I set a good example when I have a grown adult not commited to being a better role model. It is one of those, "do as I say and not as I do" Which is horrible. I hate that way of thinking.

I have several habits that my wife hates. First I always go to my friends house and sleep overnight when my wife and kids are not around. I usually get bored without them so I wonder off to my bestfriend. Second she hates it when she sees me smoking I know how she cares about it but I just cant get enough of it. I just got tired of promising to quit year after year. Third I alwas forget things, things that she wanted me bring buy or order. I dont know why I just keep on forgetting them. Well no matter how hard this guy is I still love my wife shes like the candle of life A light that always watches me and my children are the angels. Well corny it may seem but its lovely to feel!!! LOL!!! Happy mylotting!

I do believe in the saying that change your habits but do not change your friends. So When ever there appears to be a factor appearing creating problems in relationship I would like to rather shun it may it be at the part of m partner or me. It really work. In a marriage I think in few days we can understand what each other partner like and dislike. If we can respect each others sentiments there is no question of things going break.

one i marry a man, I won't give up my marriage except he falls in love with another girl, or he betrays me in affection.

There are at times many bad habits that really ruin a marriage life. One must try to maintain the same kind of love and affection even years after marriage. The main thing which really ruins marriage life sometimes is spending more time with in-laws and relatives without giving necessary attention to the spouse. what ever one person does he/she must discuss the same with the other person and anything must be done with mutual understanding. It is also essential to maintain that kind of romance and love which was there once at the beginning of the marriage.

Well, I dislike lazy people, people who smoke, people who are flirts, and people who don't trust me. Trust is the most important factor in marriage.

Disbelief, untrust, unfaithfulness, sishonesty, lying, disrespect, are the parameters for separatioon in any relation. not necessary it should be only marriage. even among brothers, sisters, parents and childres, reiends, relatives etcc, etc. Anything really anything can be adjusted and compromised. but for dishonesty, lying, belief in each other, and respect to each other ever if respect is absence, atleast non public humiliation, or social degradation cannot be tolerated. it goes over head of either of the spouses/persons, it leads to separation of that relation and persons.

Well,although im not married,my point of view regarding to your topic is this.It is hard to comment on that.The firszt thing that comes to my mind is that "There is perfect marriage",we can't exclude ourselves to those couples who might experience those things in life because thereis no perfect person too all of us can do things that might get hurt to other people and we don't have the same point of views in life,maybe it depends on how clearly you will understand those situations that you've experienced in life.All of us has different walks in life but from there we get or learn lessons fom the mistakes that we've done.In marriage you must expect that flow of your life will not be the same because you're going to adjust all of the things ,that's why others get quarrel easily it is just because they can't adjust to the things that they've adopt when they are single,they are stuglling with that,but it is in the first stage only that you will adjust because of having a big responsibility in a family.In marriage there must be a give and take relationship so that both sides will understand each other and have a good relationship not just with your wife or husband but with your relatives,friends and other people around you.

lying would definitely ruin ANY marriage. I mean, if you can't trust your partner with simple things how can you entrust your whole future to him/her?

I think the things that can ruin marriage is.Unfaithful hasband, selfish,nagger,dominant, authoritarian,demanding,childish, rude, gambler,drinker and lazy.About finances well couple always fighting when they have no enough money for living.Sometimes relatives also get in the way. Sometimes some of our relatives don't like our husband and then they started to talk against each other and then start of big fight.

this is good question..yes i hate his srniking and smoking habit.