Did your BF/GF fought with you because of a dream?! Don't you hate it!

Philippines
September 12, 2008 1:35pm CST
One morning my Gf called me very angry because of a bad dream she just had of me cheating and ignoring her for another woman. She's just so furious! At first I was just laughing at her not taking it seriously but later I realized she's not joking, and sooner the argument escalated to a serious fight. We didn't talk for days because of that, but later she apologized to me for that stupid argument. Now we just treat it as a joke everytime we talked about it. But I just can't understand why she got berserk just for a dream? Did this happened to you before?
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@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
14 Sep 08
LOL.. That happened to me some months ago. I dreamed that my partner cheated on my and it makes me very angry. Don't take it as a joke, be thoughtful. It might be her nightmare and she needs you to tell her than it won't happening and that would be just a nightmare. She dreamed like that because it was her worst fear, she feared to lose you that's why she became like that. :) Don't worry about that. For you it might be just an ordinary nightmare, but it scared the hell of her
• Philippines
15 Sep 08
Yeah later I realized that she wasn't joking and it really scared the crap out of her that's why it escalated to a fight. But I assure you when I realized it I try not to laugh and joke about it. Anyways as days passed by she slowly realized it and we both compromised although I didn't made a sin to her. lol Now we just joke about it.
@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
15 Sep 08
I think it is good to be able to laugh at our own mistake and see it as a silly past experiences that has nothing to do with the future. I am glad to hear that you are good with your partner. I hope you two would be happy. And if I am not mistaken it is you who made a discussion about marriage soon, isn't it? I believe this kind of problem solving would be a good sign because I think both of you are a little bit more mature in handling situations. Good luck :)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
Yes that's me who started the discussion about marriage. Thank you for your kind comment. Yes me and my girlfriend are actually lovers at the same time we're buddies and best friends. Maybe that makes it easier for us to sort things out. And just laugh away out problems and misunderstanding. have a great day
• Pakistan
12 Sep 08
lolzzz. well dear.. i am the one who had a fight with my husband coz of a bad dream... i saw a bad dream... i i faught over it with him.... he alos first took it nonseriously... but later it turned into a big fight.... its just the women are so insecure... soo chill
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
lol i would have to say this. WOmen are sometimes really hard to understand. haha Anyways we're ok now it's just that everytime i remember it i can't really figure it out why did she associated her dream to reality. anyways now you know how your husband felt lol
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• Pakistan
12 Sep 08
well.. its same here.. we women do not get what the men think... hmmm... your Gf must be very insecure... and every woman is... coz women are more sentimental, more emotional, more effected by environment.. they need a lot of love and care so that they can trust a man...
• Canada
15 Sep 08
Your friend needs to chill out lol , it was a dream . She must have fears that you would go after her boyfriend or something like that to get so upset over a dream . You should have asked her if she was awake yet and hadn't called you still half asleep to get so upset over something you didn't do . I can't imagine getting mad at someone over a dream lol . Good to see she realized how crazy she was acting and you can now laugh and joke about it :)
@Sarah1108 (310)
• United States
13 Sep 08
Hahaha....my boyfriend and i have been living in different areas for the past 8 months. We only get to talk once a day. When he called me last night he was mad because of a dream he had about me. He at first didnt want to tell me what the dream was about he just kept saying he was mad. I made him tell me and he said it was a dream about me cheating on him. he said he beat the guy up and killed him and all these crazy things. i didnt let it turn into a fight because its just stupid yes i do have dreams like that some times. i dont think i would ever let it get to a serious fight it is just a dream. that is what i told him last night. He knows that i love him very much and would never cheat on him. i trust him just the same.
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
Another victim of a bad dream! ANyways glad it didn't turned out to be a fight. But it's so funny how a dream can turn into a fight huh? But I think that kind of emotional stress will not last long. Because at the end of the day you'll realize how stupid is to be mad at someone because of a "bad thing" he did to you in a dream, but then later I think reality will hit you and you'll just say: " Hey I was such a je%k" thnx for sharing your opinion
• United States
14 Sep 08
yeah i never understood why females got so upset over dreams, i would always say that was stupid and then recently i had a bad dream about my fiance' and it happened like 3 days in a row and i found myself getting upset and irritated with him whenever we spoke, and i began to get all worried, the thing is that we are in the same company and we are deployed to afghanistan right now but we are split up in different places so i cant see him at all so I get worried not bein able to see him everyday like im used to, but i got over it and i realized i was jus like those females that i cant stand lol. I hope i dont get that way again.
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
Oh So you're working for the US army? take care of yourself there. I hope sooner you'll return home safe. It's not easy to be there and it's so dangerous out there. Yeah you're right it is mostly on women that they over react on dreams that isn't really desirable but I know is that not too long they will somehow realize that it was just a dream.
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
not really. but the dreams that we have really somehow affect us. for instance, when i dreamed about marrying another person, it really made me sad because i really love my boyfriend and i cant think of anything else that would happen for us not to have each other.
• Philippines
13 Sep 08
So let me get this, do women get more affected because of dreams? I mean my GF, and both of you gals have the same experience or rather the same weight of emotions when it comes to dream. Yeah maybe my Gf is insecure but I don't know why, I think hundreds of men are jealous of me because she's my GF. And she's a head turner wherever she goes that I can't really understand about women sometimes, even their so beautiful and everything but they are somehow insecure about something
@aowaow (1516)
• Indonesia
14 Sep 08
Because you're adding the alibi for the situation, by laughing when she mentioned to you, or you're doing some sort of emotional or body language, which adding an alibi for her curiosity or insecurity about you. This may seem not important to you, but when you do. In her heart, she already thought that "as if" you really did this. Your step at that time , was wrong taken. What you need to do, is listen to her, emphatically. Convince her and show your intention to secure her "chaotic-emotional" at that time. She felt really in insecure phase, what she needs at that time was your denial (emotionally). But you didn't make it happened, and laugh for it. If you really never have it (I trust you're not), but you must to know that a woman needs heavy emotional-security, because we respect details. It's not about the story that made her sad, but it's your response which were not in the right one. Now, you needs more time to compound her emotional wounds, just because of "not paying attention" and "not providing emotional security" for her -at that time-. Talk to her. Good luck. Don't use aggressive statements.