How was your pregnancies

@scorpio19 (1363)
September 12, 2008 3:28pm CST
I met a friend today while I was in the supermarket and she has three weeks to go before her baby's is due and obviously she was feeling very fed up and couldn't wait for it all to be over with now and to have her baby. She was telling me how much harder she had found this pregnacy from her first pregnancy, her sons ten years old now this is her second baby. so got me thinking because I had one baby then got pregnant straight afterwards so there is only 12 months apart with my first two and I coped fine but then I had my third and last child a few years later and I found it a much harder pregnacy than my first two. So I'm wondering what your views and experiences are in your pregnancies and how did you cope with it ?
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@SweetNkky (119)
• United States
12 Sep 08
I loved my first pregnancy. I felt like I was only pregnany for a few months though. I found out I was pregnant at 3 months and then had no problems or complications. I didn't have morning sickness or anything. They only thing that bothered me was my back (Im a very small person) so me having a big belly is like putting a watermelon on an ants back.. lol.. I went into labor a month early and was only in labor for 10 minutes with no pain meds. So I kinda feel cheated. I didn't get the hard labor that you see on tv or hear about from other mothers. People say that your second is supposed to be easier?? Well I plan to start trying for another within the next couple years so I will tell you how it goes then.
• United States
12 Sep 08
You feel cheated because you didn't get hard labor? I wish I could say the same thing! Believe me, you are not missing out on anything fun! Be hopeful that your second pregnancy goes as easy as the first!
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@scorpio19 (1363)
12 Sep 08
It's nice when you really enjoy your pregnancies I did with my first two, had really trouble free pregnancies and very quick deliveries but it was a different story with my third the pregnancy was fine but the birth was a long hard labour and boy did I know about it... lol... good luck for your future pregnacy and my second was very, very easy so hope yours will be too.
@mona269 (133)
• Philippines
13 Sep 08
I've had two high risk pregnancies due to my myasthenia gravis. I had to stay in bed through most of the nine months! Grrr! I always needed assistance to get up from bed and back again. I needed help even in taking a bath because the doctor told me to restrain from too much moving around. As a result, I gained a lot of weight. Even more Grrrr! Which I still have on me up to now. GRRRR! Well, I thought that was the hardest part but I was in for a lot more after I gave birth by CS. I had 8 doctors in attendance inside the delivery room in case of an emergency....which means so whether there was an emergency or not, we had to pay all of them for just being there. But that's not all, I had to stay for 3 days in intensive care. The best part, of course, is having normal babies who we all initially feared would be suffering from myasthenia as well.
@mona269 (133)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
Myasthenia is a neuromuscular disorder. It's not as awful as it sounds because it's basically characterized by feeling extremely fatigued and weak. My neuro said that something went wrong with my immune system that it's attacking the "links" between the impulse from the brain and my muscles. So when I say "weak", it's like really weak. There are times when I can't even keep my eyes open because my eyelids keep drooping. Anyway, I've got it more or less under control with my medication so i could function normally day to day. It was just complicated when i was pregnant because i had to limit my meds intake plus of course there's the risk of passing it on to my child.
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@scorpio19 (1363)
15 Sep 08
thanks alot for making that clearer for me.. you poor thing it must of been pretty awful especially when women feel tired enough when they are pregnant anyways.
@scorpio19 (1363)
13 Sep 08
excuse my ignorance but what is myasthensia gravis ? I've never heard of it before it does sound horrific though also is it passed onto your babies ? does sound like it does but just wanted to check. I'm just fascinated.
• Canada
13 Sep 08
My pregnancies were all very difficult . I have been pregnant eight times and although each was different from the one before they were all difficult in there own way . Four of them resulted in miscarriage and three of them landed me in the hospital for fear of losing the baby . My last was by far my easiest to have but I didn't feel good and ended up in a depression because of the medication they had me on as a result of high blood pressure . I did notice that with each pregnancy that the older I was the more difficult it felt at the time and I feel this is due to the fact that we are getting older with each child we have and this does take a toll on our bodies .
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@scorpio19 (1363)
13 Sep 08
I agree with you it does seem to get harder with each pregnancy, especially if you leave a gap between each child..sorry to hear about all you went through in your pregnancies..thanks so much for responding.
• United States
14 Sep 08
well, my first pregnancy was horrible. I found out the my immune system was too high to take prenatal vitamins (which in turn sent me to the hospital on my birthday for a spinal tap) let alone the pain and agony I was in throughout my whole pregnancy. With my second one, so far everything seems to be way better... except now I am getting braxton-hicks contractions (I am almost 30 weeks along) - I think these were caused from pushing myself to the limit but I never got them with my son so I am not sure where they are coming from. I just hope that she doesnt try to come too early - as most of you know, the DUE DATE is exactly 40 weeks from conception (10 months for people who dont know this) but you can have your baby any time from 36-40 weeks - or more for those "overdue" types lol... I dont need to have my baby 7 weeks early - thats almost 2 months early!!!! I have been in a lot of pain lately (within the past week) and have been wayyyyyy more tired and nauseous than I have been throughout this whole pregnancy but I have to say she doesnt kick me in the ribs and grab onto my ribs or anything like that like my son did (which is the weirdest feeling in the world lol) she just kicks my bladder.
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@scorpio19 (1363)
14 Sep 08
thanks so much for responding...it's a pain when your pregnant especially in the latter stages because you know it's to early for your baby to arrive and really don't want it to arrive early but I know I longed for it all to be over and have my baby, it's tough pregnancy is and men just don't fully realise it do they ? Good luck with you pregnancy and thanks so much for sharing with us.
@jbe570 (22)
• United States
13 Sep 08
It's amazing how a thread like this tends to make women bare it all on the internet. The thing to remember is that just as all of us are different, every pregnancy is different. Some women have an easy time with all their pregnancies and some do not. Some women have mixed pregnancies, some being easy and some not. My first pregnancy consisted of nausea in the evening for 3 months and ended with 23 hours of labor with constant vomiting when I entered stage II labor. I was so out of it with the antinausea medication that my son was actually crowning before they got me to the delivery room. That was 36 years ago when they routinely used anesthesia. The second son 3 years later involved round the clock nausea for 5 months and 16 hours of labor, again with vomiting during second stage labor. But upon entering second stage, he came pretty fast so there was no time for any pan medicine. I quit at 2 and felt very blessed. Our youth pastor's wife has always had fast deliveries, so much so that her fourth child born just a few months ago was born at home because he came so fast. Was a perfect delivery and he is so cute. And in answer to the question of coping with it -- what choice do you have? You simply find what works best for you and cope the best you can. We all manage to get through it and have been since the beginning of mankind. Remember, however, that pregnancy is a dangerous condition and nothing to be trifled with. We still lose too many women in childbirth for an industrialized nation. Our health care system fails too much in this regard.
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@scorpio19 (1363)
13 Sep 08
Thanks so much for sharing you experience with us and I had to laugh at the first part of your post, it's so true, talk about childbirth and we all can't wait to tell what we went through. I think it's because we do feel like we are amazing for creating life.
@mikaray (15)
• United States
13 Sep 08
My first pregnancy was a hard one. I was not aware of a lot of things that you would normaly go through. The morning sickness lasted past the first trimester. I had exscrusiating headaches and lower back pain. My second pregnancy five years later was a whole lot better, because I had gone through a lot of the first time pregnacny discomforts, along with some facial redness of veins in my face due to vomiting. For the most part I worked all the way up to my due date less five days. My third pregnancy three years later, I was more tired and week compared to the other pregnancies, but I will admit it was the best one because with my first two I had to indure natural labor, not by choice. I didn't get to the hospital in time for pain medication to be administered, but my last pregnancy thank god, I got pain medication and the rest was smooth sailing.
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@scorpio19 (1363)
13 Sep 08
Thanks so much for responding I've really enjoyed this discussion.
@moneyandgc (3428)
• United States
12 Sep 08
I have had 4 pregnancies that have gone to term (well almost). My first was fairly easy. I think most of it was because I was so excited about my first baby. There are no other kids so I wasn't as tired all the time either. My next baby was born 17 months later. This pregnancy was harder because I had gestational diabetes and I also had another baby to take care of. My daughter was born a little over 2 years after my son. Her pregnancy wasn't too bad for some reason. Maybe I had gotten into a routine. I don't know. I also didn't have the gestational diabetes with this one. My last pregnancy came 9 years after the first. It was by far my most difficult. I had the gestational diabetes again. I was tired all the time too. I was 19 with my first pregnancy and 28 with my last. I chalk it up to being old and tired.
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@scorpio19 (1363)
12 Sep 08
Gosh you have got your hands full..I like you put my last pregnancy down to been older so I just felt tired and washed out all the time..thanks I enjoyed reading your response.
• United States
13 Sep 08
I didn't mind being pg for the most part especially since I didn't get morning sickness :p w/ any of them. But I was really exhausted with my first baby and swollen + a gallbladder attack I was hospitalized for @ 34 weeks. The second I was fine except the last month or so my hips were absolutly killing me. The last was the easiest except that he decided to go from breach, to vertex, and back to breach & I had a c/s. I don't know how others cope w/ repeat c/s but ONE WAS MORE THAN enough & threw me into PPD.
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@scorpio19 (1363)
13 Sep 08
poor you.. I had post natal depression after my third and it really wasn't a good time in my life and went on for a long time. Thanks for responding.
@zeny_zion (1283)
• Philippines
13 Sep 08
my first pregnancy was really hard. i always dont feel good. i always vomit everytime i ate food. feeling dizzy and always have to spit because my mouth is always fool of saliva. ive lost a lot of weight. ive been like that for 4 mos. my life is so miserable for 4 mos. i just gained weight and feel great when i passed the 4 mos.
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@scorpio19 (1363)
13 Sep 08
Gosh it must make you feel terrible, I sympathise with you especially during those first few months of pregnancy..thanks for your response
@pam210 (344)
• United States
13 Sep 08
My first 3 were very easy. No problems with the pregnancy and delivery was really easy. Three natural deliveries and very short labors. I had 3 really big babies - all 9 and 10 lbs. I never wanted pain medicine because I was terrified to get the shot in my back. Well then I get pregnant for the fourth time and I had a terrible time. I had gestational diabetes and had to have insulin 4 times a day and take my blood 2 times a day. I had to be really careful of what I ate. About a month before the baby was born my doctor sent me for an ultrasound and infomed me that he thought we should do a c-section because of the size of the baby. Gestational diabetic babies tend to be big - not weight big but broad chested so it becomes difficult to deliver. So after 3 natural I had to have a c-section which was horrible. I found out I can't have morphine and got violently ill during the c-section. But the doctor was right - the baby although weighted less then all my others at 9 lbs 4 oz. He was very broad and looked like a little football player coming out. He is also my only boy. So I joke and say for all of the pain he gave me before he was born - he better take care of me later. The one benefit thought of having a c-section was I had my tubes tied so I don't have to worry about a fifth pregnancy.
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@scorpio19 (1363)
13 Sep 08
I was told by midwives because I also hemorrhaged after having my third son and nearly lost my own life, that it is quite common for women to experience really healthy pregnancies and good births like you have and I did with my first two, then they have one full of difficulties like you experienced with your son and I was the same with my last one, so after reading all you went through makes me think perhaps it is very common,they also said that women then went on to have normal deliveries again, I've never wanted to test that theory having my last son put me off having anymore. Thank you for response I really enjoyed reading it.
@rainmark (4302)
13 Sep 08
My belly was so big when i have my first pregnancy, but i stay slim. People said i looked like a post who swallowed a ball or watermelon. It was so hard because im studying while im pregnant until my last trimester. I got only week of excuse from shcool when i delivered the baby and im a ceasarian section. During pregnancy you can't really explained how you feel.But i can still managed that even i worried alot.
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@scorpio19 (1363)
13 Sep 08
Thankfully I never had a C section with any of mine so it really must of been a worry for you...thanks for your response.
• United States
13 Sep 08
last time one of my relative had a baby. She was like i cant wait I cant wait. At the hospital, everyones like whats taking so long to just get one baby out. usually in the movies there are hair on the baby when it is born but i was talking to my friend like you are born with no hair.. That baby was sooooooooooo cute
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@scorpio19 (1363)
13 Sep 08
awww bless..thanks for responding.