Would you move to another country for your husband/wife if you THEY HAD TO MOVE?
By Sarah1108
@Sarah1108 (310)
United States
September 12, 2008 3:36pm CST
I am engaged to a man that may have to go back to his home country of Haiti. I am planning on going with him. I get mixed reactions from my family and friends when i tell them i will be going to Haiti with him. My question is would you go with your husband/wife if they had to leave the country? why or why not?
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5 responses
@Adeliza1220 (877)
• United States
15 Sep 08
I would definetly follow my partner where ever it is needed although it is hard to leave family and friends. Your partner is now your immediate family and should be put before any one and you are doing right in going with him. I am happy to read that you are 100% there for your partner regardless of what you have to go through.
@Adeliza1220 (877)
• United States
16 Sep 08
:0) That is what we are here for. Well that is great that you are preparing yourself with time and that you are not going to let it catch you off gaurd since it can happen at any time.
@Sarah1108 (310)
• United States
15 Sep 08
Thank you! it feels good having support of someone i dont even know. strange how something like that can make you feel good. we hope he does not get sent back to Haiti but if he does i have started to learn the language and also getting my passport
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@carmela0210 (1591)
• Philippines
15 Sep 08
id rather go with him, you can start a new life with him there, and you wont worry too much cause youre with someone that you truly love, youre husband. And i just think that it will make you a better person and explore other place, i bet the first months would be difficult but soon youll adapt and enjoy the place.
@Sarah1108 (310)
• United States
15 Sep 08
Thats the way i feel. I know the first few weeks i will do a lot of crying but i will be with my husband and the person i love. i believe that i have to try it. thats part of loving its a give and take kind of thing. i will gain so much from living in a 3rd world country. i think as Americans not many of use can grasp how good we really have it
@sk66rc (4250)
• United States
12 Sep 08
Most definitely... My girl friend & I live together & we're a mixed couple... I'm Korean & she's white... There are times when I asked her if she would come with me if I ever end up going back to Korea... Of course curiocity was the majority part of it, the idea of moving with me was a part of her learning how to speak Korean... I also have a daughter who is mixed from my previous relationship... My girl friend always tells me where ever we end up, we end up as a family... Of course I feel the same way as she does about her... I don't get into a relationship for convenient reasons, or I should say I don't intent on getting out of a relationship for inconvenient reasons... She & I made a commitment & for better or worse, we intent on sticking together... In my opinion, relationship is not worth it if I don't put my 100% into it... If I don't, there always will be "what if's" in my head... At least if I gave it all I had, then I know for sure my best wasn't enough for the relationship if it doesn't work out... I don't have time for "what if I've done this?", "what if I've done that?" "I wonder what if I went with her?"... I don't wanna go on my life wondering what if....
@relundad (2310)
• United States
17 Sep 08
I would not move to a 3rd world country. Honestly I wouldn't! Love my partner as I do, I still want a certain quality of life. And I don't think that I would have the same quality of life. And contrary to what most people think, I think that it takes a well balance of different aspects of a relationship for it to be a successful long relaionship. Some people think that all you need is love. Though an important element, I want more.
@Rachel85044 (426)
• United States
15 Sep 08
It would probably depend on the country because I am expecting has health problems and I wouldn't want to be in a country that could not care for her.
But if I was a woman without chilren and I had a strong relationship and I could handle being away from family and friends then sure! I guess it all depends if he is enough to keep you satisfied because if he isn't and you go you might resent him!
@Sarah1108 (310)
• United States
15 Sep 08
Yeah thats how we feel i would not move to Haiti (which is the country we would be moving to) if we had children. We have even planned to not have children while living in Haiti He is one of 5 children they were all born in Haiti but its just not for me and he understands that. Things are a lot worse there than when he lived there too