Is your husband a romantic?

@rocketj1 (6955)
United States
September 12, 2008 8:36pm CST
My husband is sentimental. He remembers important dates in our relationship history much better than even I do. He CAN get wrapped up in work and sometimes I have to say "Hey, remember me?" But for the most part He enjoys surprising me occasionally with little things like flowers. He always says "Ive missed you" when we haven't seen each other much. I am home during the day and we spend lunchtime together. He says he was kind of happy when the kids went back to school because he likes having me all to himself! How about your guy? Sentimental? Romantic? Stuffy? Too serious? Tell me your story
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
13 Sep 08
sounds like u have a good one, good for you. i am divorced so have nothing to tell u. lol. y'all stay happy.
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@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
13 Sep 08
Thanks for the encouragement. Seems like maybe you just like to chat a bit just like I do:)
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
13 Sep 08
u are right, i do. lol
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• United States
13 Sep 08
You are kidding right? Not even close in my case. He is about as romantic or sentimental is my little pinky is. In 13 yrs together I have received one flower, maybe 2 anniversary cards since our 10 yr marriage, and well, thats about it. He thinks of the special days and will acknowledge them verbally but thats it. No extra effort thats for sure. Its ok though, i am a romantic and so i take and plan the things out, not all the time but a few times I have. He is definitely one of those who feel that, he is here in the home and bringing home the bacon, so he doesnt need to do anything more to show his love. I like the little extras, but I knew he was this way and i still somehow fell in love with him and wouldnt change him for the world, unless he wanted to change.
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• United States
13 Sep 08
Yes maam that is how he shows it and i am jsut fine with that. I find myself very blessed when i think of the women out there who are in relationships with controlling abusivie spouses or partners..i will take my non romantic anyday over that.
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@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
13 Sep 08
Sounds like the strong silent type:) I bet he shows you how he feels about you by taking care of your family and by his loyalty. Keep lovin' that man:) Thanks!
@limcyjain (3516)
• India
25 Sep 08
Mine is a romantic person always finding a reason for romance and love. Initially i would say that although he loved me like anything he did not know how to experss himself or may he his way of experssing it was somewhat different. He then changed to what i loved, the way i would like to be loved and i would say that he is a real romantic person.
@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
25 Sep 08
So he cares about what you like? That is wonderful! You're a lucky girl
• Singapore
19 Sep 08
My hubby is not the romantic sort. Before we got married, there was only once I received a flower. He did surprise me with a huge cuddly soft toy when I was sick. But after we got married, he no longer does those things. Although he remembers anniversary and birthdays and all, but he always get me somethign practical rather than romantic. Sometimes I wish that he would surprise me once in a while. But at least he remembers all the important dates! Sigh!
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@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
19 Sep 08
I have heard that people have different love languages. Some people say it. Some people give gifts. And some people show it in the little things. Also men tend to say "I love You" by protecting and doing acts of service (like changing the oil in your car" or fixing things to make it safer or easier for you. So, maybe your guy just has his own unique way of being romantic. Sometimes you just have to look a little harder to see it. Thanks:)
@kavinsh (78)
• India
19 Sep 08
hi rocketj1 my husband is not of this type. he almost forgot all important dates even our marriage anniversary. always he is saying that i can't carry the formalities. even he never want to take me for lunch or dinner. even he himself don't want to go. so.................. this is my husband.
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@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
19 Sep 08
I'm sure there are other reasons then why you love him:)
@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
19 Sep 08
My hubby is romantic as well. He calls me just to say he missed me or he loves me. And sometimes he just hug me tight and tells me how glad to have found me. He does a lot of sweet things for me almost everyday. Even though sometimes he makes me upset lol but he always say sorry everytime he knew he did something that hurts me. So i can definitely say that he is one of the sweetest person i ever meet.
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@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
19 Sep 08
I think when a lot of women think of romance, they think of jewelery or flowers, dining out or dancing. I think your husband is the same kind of romantic that mine is. He is always saying how he feels about you and loves to spend is time with you. He is sensitive to your feelings. That's the best kind!:)
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
13 Sep 08
I consider myself as romantic. I used to make her cards commemorating our small anniversaries. My wife still has a hand made card that I have made to her when we were three months and half together. At that time she really laughed when I gave it to her. She appreciated it more after years of marriage.
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@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
13 Sep 08
That is so sweet! You have a lucky lady. Thank you for posting:)
• Canada
17 Sep 08
My husband is one of the most unromatic men I know . He remember events but doesn't do anything for them as he always says we have no money or we can't afford it or he doesn't want anything so why should . And he is right we can't afford to waste money on things we don't need but what he doesn't realize is that being romantic doesn't have to only deal with money . Just coming up behind me and giving me a hug would be nice lol. He has tried to be romantice in the past and it has always failed on him and I believe this is one of the reasons he is not romantic . He was all excited to take me out one year in an attempt to be romantic and knowing how much I love Chinese food he thought he would take me out for dinner . It failed when he took me to the only restaurant I didn't like . I never told him I didn't care for it but he knew something was wrong when I didn't get overjoyed and when I didn't care to eat what I normally would .
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@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
17 Sep 08
I think men's feelings are more fragile than we know. I think it is important to be successful at what they do and not look foolish in a woman's eyes. Sounds like he tried, but doesn't know what he did wrong. I hope he doesn't give up altogether. Thanks:)
@elisa812 (3026)
• United States
13 Sep 08
I think my husband is pretty romantic. He does a pretty good job of remember dates for the most part, but sometimes he can be a little forgetful at times. I think he does pretty well though. Even though he does occasionally forget, he is still really sweet and is always helping me out around the house and saying how much he loves me, etc. He just recently got home after 14 months in Iraq, and the whole time he was gone, he would send flowers for no reason and leave me the sweetest messages about how much he appreciates me and everything. Of course, I melted every time! hehe I know he didn't have much free time to arrange stuff like that while he was over there, so it really made it even more special to me. *sigh* I'm getting all mushy now just thinking about it...hehe!
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@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
13 Sep 08
First of all, Thank you so much for the sacrifice that your family has made for the freedom of these United States of America! I got a little choked up reading your response. Keep lovin' that man!:)
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
13 Sep 08
my husband isn't romantic. he kind of was when we first started dating but then that went out the window. the only thing that surprised me is he remembered the first time we slept together. lol. oh well. i do wish he was more romantic but he's still a good man.
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@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
13 Sep 08
You know, you could have a bad guy who's romantic or you could have good guy who's not-so-romantic. I think I'd choose the second one. Thanks!
@Bluepatch (2476)
• Trinidad And Tobago
13 Sep 08
He sounds like a dreamer. When I was young and in school people told me I was a dreamer. I do like to surprise people with nice things. I don't have anyone right now but when I do get somebody I hope they appreciate little old dreaming me. It'll be a case of sentimental crooning all over again.
@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
13 Sep 08
Personally, I think being a dreamer is a great thing. Dreamers tend to be more positive people. Keep dreamin'!:)
@Humbug25 (12540)
13 Sep 08
Hi ya rocketj1 Awww that is wonderful, I think your husband sounds like every woman's dream partner!! I am no longer with my husband but he never had a romantic bone in his body and said that all that stuff was for kids! Rubbish I say!!!
@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
13 Sep 08
Rubbish, indeed! Thanks:)
@izhuce13 (158)
• China
14 Sep 08
you husband is o kind. you are so beatific. i suggest you just enjoy this.the more you feel surprise the more sense of accomplishment you husband your husband will have. and this is the best courage and gift you give him.
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@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
14 Sep 08
Thank you. I do enjoy my husband very much! He's my best friend. He also makes me laugh like no one else:)
@lkoenig07 (289)
• United States
17 Sep 08
My husband is definitely a romantic. He'll write me letters every now & then, come up with creative things to do for my birthday/Christmas. He'll remember things I've said I wanted & he'll get them for me... eventually. :) Sometimes on our way to/from somewhere, he'll randomly stop at Dunkin' Donuts and get me a coffee, just because. He scratches/massages my back a lot, and plays with my hair. He does lots of nice, sweet things for me.
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@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
17 Sep 08
You are very blessed!:) Make sure and reciprocate too.:) Thanks!
@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
25 Sep 08
My husband is a sweet person. Sometimes he can be grumpy lol but most of the time he is sweet.He see to it that i am ok and he never missed the day without saying how much he loves me.Everytime he says some stuff that hurts my feelings he never let the day goes by without saying sorry. He sometimes jokes around just to make me laugh.
@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
25 Sep 08
That sounds very wonderful!
@Kit3185 (16)
• China
13 Sep 08
my husband too! I used to forgetting his birthday and he was angry with me!
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@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
13 Sep 08
Hey, thanks for being the first answer on this discussion! Take good care of that romantic guy of yours!:)
• United States
13 Sep 08
I don't know, is putting the toilet seat down romantic? What about cleaning the kitchen? I think there are different levels to some people. I have been married now for going on 6 years and although Marcus will remember my birthday, anniversary and some others, he doesn't exactly write out poetry. He can cook like a Prince and make a fantastic meal but he knows my po$n equivalence is cleaning the kitchen or a load of laundry, it's sure to get him laid and I love him a little more.
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@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
13 Sep 08
I have read that some guys tell you they love you by the stuff that they physically do for you. Thanks