Do you get more done when your husband isn't home?
By pam210
@pam210 (344)
United States
September 13, 2008 7:08pm CST
I never seem to get anything accomplished when my husband is home on the weekends. I don't know why but I never can completely clean the house or get all of the wash done. Today my husband had to work all day. He left the house at 11 am and got back at 7 pm. I cleaned the whole house, baked cookies and brownies, made dinner and got some wash done. It was like nothing was in my way and I was motivated to get everything done. I felt so good when he got home because I completed what I set out to do. Does anyone else have that problem? Maybe I should just tell my husband to leave once a week so I can get what I need done.
14 responses
@miller23231 (873)
• United States
14 Sep 08
Not a chance!! When my boyfriend is at home, we get so much more done. He's such a huge help. I finally found a good one!
@youngsweetheart (772)
• United States
14 Sep 08
Oh my God, I thought that was just me! I can't seem to get anything done when my husband's home...but I think I know why.
I'm a stay at home mom, so I do the bulk of the housework. He doesn't do much when he's home - trash, maybe the dishes, helps with the kids...but he doesn't really CLEAN that much. So I see him sitting down, relaxing, and then I lose ALL the drive to clean or do housework - I want to relax too!
When you're around people who maybe aren't as motivated as you, it's hard to keep your energy level up. That's my theory, anyway. So I usually just try to do as much as I can when he's at work, so I don't have much to feel guilty about when I join him on the couch!
@pam210 (344)
• United States
16 Sep 08
Thats exactly what my problem is. When he is home and sitting on the couch reading the paper or watching tv I just lose all of my motivation to get things done. My problem is that he stays home during the week and I work. He gets alot of the everyday cleaning done during the week but when I what to do the heavy weekend cleaning and he is home - I never get anything done. It's hard to be mopping the kichen floor or scrubbing bathrooms when he is just relaxing away.
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
16 Sep 08
I go either way on this one, it just depends. Mine doesn't help much with anything so having him here isn't much of a benefit in that respect BUT when he's home I sometimes find myself bustling around him doing everything in the hopes that maybe he'll notice how being a stay at home mom is a fulltime job plus. On the other hand I also seem to take more breaks and get interupted more often because he's here. (and then there are those times when I get annoyed with him and whip everything together as a way of blowing off steam).
When he's NOT here though, I have more time to get the big stuff done like mopping and vacuuming because he's not in the way or watching tv. And I can pick up all his dirty clothes and get them washed...he can't seem to find the hamper in my bedroom so his clothes end up on the floor when he's home.
@rainmark (4302)
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16 Sep 08
Even my husband is at home i can still able to do household chorse done than he is not around coz no one will play and look after the baby. But as long as i can, i managed well the baby-sitting and cleaning the hosue when im alone. Sometimes on weekends he work together at home, from cleaning, looking afte the baby and cooking we have always have a turns.Then loving time!
@caudill2883 (60)
• United States
14 Sep 08
God yes when my husband is gone i get soo much done! he's deployed right now and even though i miss him soo much my house stays clean almost everyday, and i don't have to do as much during the day!!!
@pam210 (344)
• United States
16 Sep 08
That is true I didn't even think about how the house is much cleaner when he is not around. Not so much from his mess - he is pretty clean except for leaving dishes in the sink, but the mess the kids make. I can't stand having toys all over the house and to him that makes the house look "lived in". So when he is home - and he is home alot since he is a stay at home dad - toys are spread out all over and I am always telling him and the kids to pick up your toys and put them away. Hope your husband returns home to you soon!
@lkoenig07 (289)
• United States
17 Sep 08
I'm the same way!!! My husband works in remodeling, so every now & then he gets a day or two off here & there, if it's raining or they have no work. And on those days that he's home, I don't do anything! I just lounge around with him, or do things with him, and I get nothing accomplished. Unless he's busy doing something that day.
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
14 Sep 08
LOL omg I get TONS more done when my husband and the kids arent home!! Crazy i know but they just get in my way and mess with my groove..
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
15 Sep 08
My husband works every weekend, so I get everything done that i want on the weekends. He has one day off during the week and I might as well not plan on doing anything that day, because my husband has this thing that I should be entertaining him. He will even go out to mow the lawn and ring the doorbell wanting me to answer it to give him some water or something like that. He drives me crazy when he is home!!!
@illfavors (590)
• United States
14 Sep 08
It all depends on what I have to do to be honest. If I am working at the computer, then yes I do get more done because he isn't in the office with me distracting me or watching over my shoulder. Now when it comes to housework, I get more done because my husband helps me and that makes the work load go by even faster.
@marisriel (1156)
• Philippines
15 Sep 08
Hi! It's totally different with me. You see, my husband and I both work at home. He gets projects as a video editor from a foreign company and he does them all at our room. And for me, I am a freelance virtual assistant so I also do my online works in our room. We have a fair share of tasks. I don't think I can manage all our household chores singly since I also work full time. So what we do is we really divide our chores in half. For example, he takes the kids at school in the morning while I fetch the kids in the afternoon. During meal time, if I do the cooking, he will do the washing. And if he does the cooking, I will do the washing. Same to all other chores and we do them automatically, without asking.
@Sarah1108 (310)
• United States
14 Sep 08
I get a lot more done when i am home alone. i dont have someone in my way. telling me that i am doing something wrong. when i get up and start cleaning i dont turn the tv on i dont get anything to drink or eat i just start cleaning. other people in my house dont work that way. i like to just get things done. i have days that i will do things and when someone is home they dont want to go by my list. so i get off track.
@stylioJ (403)
• United States
16 Sep 08
I get so many things done when my husband is gone...to the point where I'm happy when he has a couple of nights of late work or band practice throughout the week. The problem is that we get so busy that, when we have time together, we just want to have fun. I certainly don't fault us for that; in fact, I love that aspect of our lives. But it does get difficult to get anything done when someone else is around.
@Amywrites (143)
• United States
14 Sep 08
Ha!!! I bet alot of woman feel this way! I think the reason I feel I never get anything done when he is home is because I use the time I would on housework ect... With him.. I have come to terms with my weekends are gonna be busy with him and the kids, and Monday is a new day to get the to do list done.
Your not alone with this one
@Rachel85044 (426)
• United States
14 Sep 08
without a doudt! My husband completely holds me back! he wants to talk or tell me thats not how his mother would do it! Drives you crazy! Honestly though I don't even attempt to get things done when he is around because we fight I wait for him to leave!
Hugs
Rachel