does money matter affects love?

Philippines
September 14, 2008 6:35am CST
why things get rough when money problem gets in the way. just wanna hear from you if these facts of life has already come in your way and what happen next?..my wife has been in a credit card tangles and its draining us of money..i felt lost sometimes and i feel some bitter feeling against her..
7 responses
@badkat83 (1620)
• United States
14 Sep 08
This is a problem for everyone. The rich and the poor. If we stop getting credit cards and stop buying on credit it would lessen things up. But it is too easy today to just go out and buy something. So who do we have to blame?
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• Philippines
14 Sep 08
Maybe in terms of Money we luck self-control on spending it. If you dont have self-control on spending then credit card is not for you. This will ruin your life. You should focus on necessary things and not on your luxuries. Learn to control yourself especially when you get merried you should focus on your desires but on the things the your family needs.
@vellibiz (297)
• United States
14 Sep 08
i guess ill finish your answer, its "us". starting out young u think you know everything and remain "very optimistic" in your life, then things dont go the way you planned and before you know it the bills hit you like bricks. to the lady in the marriage, you obviously arent happy and although your married, a divorce could help you rebound and focus entirely on yourself. i have a partner and her bills kinda got me in the hole i cant take care of basic things, like a car battery ive been needing for literally 3 months, starting to think i need to take my own advice,
@geekyjock (371)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
yes i understand your situation. Ever now and then people especially couples undergo these kinds of problems. We all know that money is an important factor in the human life and it is actually a big test to couples whether they could surpass all these kinds of problems. My parents also experienced the same problem and to be honest they've been to a rocky relationship of course I was affected to. But they didn't gave up and decided to slowly pick up the broken pieces and know the mistakes and how to fix it. What's important in these situations is both of you should stay strong and never give up on each other and be open to each other. And please don't disregard the fact that you have a problem that you need to solve. And have an open mind with the reality of a "problem" slowly i think you can get through it
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• Philippines
14 Sep 08
thanks friend for sharing that, i needed that now, it's so hard being in this situation and it's draining you inside, you feel like being knock down by a hard punch and its making you groggy all the time
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
Because of our weaknesses in money, yes it matters and affects our Love and that should not be. Its totally wrong. Love must be greater than money. You could talk about it ask husband and wife. You should take the steps to work on this issue.
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• Philippines
14 Sep 08
glad to hear that thing from you, i just can't see separation as the main course of action, however if really things get worse i dont know then what to do...
@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
14 Sep 08
Money matters can affect a person's relationship. I am now in a lot of debt, all of the credit cards are in my name, but my husband has put most of it there. I get angry at times, because he choose not to get an outside job, but to stay at home and try to be his own boss. When he saw that it was not working, instead of him getting a REAL, he still thought that his ventures had potential. Well, the bottom line, I was the main bread winner, and I lost my job three months ago. The debt is sky high and there is not much money coming in, from my unemployment benefits mind you. Some days, I do not like him at all, because of what he has financially put me through. I do not know whether breaking up the marriage would be the answer, since, I will still have the debt with or without him, since everything is in my name. YES, MONEY MATTERS DO AFFECT LOVE
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• Philippines
14 Sep 08
so sorry to hear that from you, i know there are people out there with the same problem the way we have it. and just like what our friends are saying many families will be broken, many will sort to divorce, others will go to an endless bickering which are all the effect of this problem.
@vellibiz (297)
• United States
14 Sep 08
i know how ure feeling though, its gets to the point where you think about where you could be without her. i guess its like this, if youre hurting and things are just getting worse like she just piling more debt, you gatta do whats ganna make you secure and happy ( you wont be happy for a while,but smile when you get your check and its all yours). people have to grow to survive the future, think of it like an investment to happiness.
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• Philippines
14 Sep 08
i'm sure you know how things are easy to say and hard to do, i just can't afford leaving my wife with such situation, i love her and what concern me now is checking that my kids will not wake up in the morning and no food to eat at all.
@vellibiz (297)
• United States
14 Sep 08
Hell yes, thats the No.1 cause of divorce people inheriting their partners debt.Of course if you truly love each other and have the patients you both could work it off...but people like me who wanna go now...and not be burdened by bad credit and debt, dont have that patients.its all in the individual.
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• Philippines
14 Sep 08
really money is the No. 1 cause of divorce? Wow, thats not good to hear. Money should not be greater than Love.
@rdvg3283 (78)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
I think thats the number one problem in a relationship... I saw many people broke up because of financial problems... It kinda boils each of your head... Thats why they say that money is the root of all evil... Just don't loose hope... Pray to God always...
• Philippines
15 Sep 08
thanks friend for reminding me of not losing hope, actually we did talk it over and we came up to a agreement that no more credit card anymore, but you know those bills from past are coming every now and then and they are pissing me off..i hope i can bear this for long.