Should She Stay or Should he GO!
By Amywrites
@Amywrites (143)
United States
September 14, 2008 11:06am CST
Hello All!
Ok, I know this young woman who can be very sucessful in life there are just a few things I think is holding her back.
She recently moved out of her Dad's house to live with this guy who I think she is not compatible with. She has told me all they ever do is fight and it is not that great in the bedroom. They have been together for 6 months and she feels she is waisting her time but at the same time does not want to hurt him because they have been friends from the beginning of high school. She stays with him I think to make sure he is happy instead of herself.
On the other side of the plate is this wonderful man who she dated before him. She told me she ended it with him because she was scared. Scared because he told her he loved her and treated her like a lady. She told me she was scared because all she was use to was bad relationships.
Just recently she told me he text messaged her saying I MISS YOU! She misses him too! She is really confused about what she should do.
A Little advice from MYLOT would be helpful!
2 responses
@welawai (102)
• Mali
14 Sep 08
No, no there is no help need. Why people want the others to be happy and makes themself unhappy? I don't get it it's so stupid and it smells like selfishness hmm and woman are strange ... most of the time they doen't know what they want, and when somebody doesn't know what he/she want it's going to nowhere. Sometimes you have to hurt somebody, you have to choice. Everybody has own life and NOBODY know what's good for you, even your mother, your best friend, your husband or grandma. They are friends? hm I don't think so, friends don't hurt each other, right? If they were friends it's simple to understand and just say it's going nowhere I looking for somebody else who can give me what I want, but it's also selfishness:) If she afraid to tell him the truth, he must be REALLY pu***sy. And 6 months, what is six months? it's almost impossible to fall in love with somebody, but als you said she even doesn't love him so what the point? If someone is missing somebody hm isn't it so easy to go to this person? if this person don't want to see you then you know his nobody good to you so why waisting time? We can't change people, we just can change ourselfs. Well it's very simple, there is nothing to discuse I think, she has to know either she wants to be happy or unhappy.
@Amywrites (143)
• United States
14 Sep 08
The man she is with at the moment has known her since high school and has told her he has been in love with her for a long time. She does love this man but feels she has made the mistake with moving in with him. She does not want to hurt him she has a very big heart. People tend to change at times when they move in with one another. You see things and hear things as far as actions bad habits ect more closely then you did before you moved in together and actually share the same bed together. I agree she does need to find out if she wants to be happy or unhappy.
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@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
14 Sep 08
Well, I think you should tell her to follow her heart.....
The most important thing is that she be happy in life!
She would not want to grow to have regrets and if she has any children with the guy she is with now...It would not be fair to the children either!
She deserves better and she should realize that!
Good luck Amy in talking to your friend!
~Heavens~
@Amywrites (143)
• United States
14 Sep 08
I agree! Thank you so much. I plan to show her this dicussion and maybe it will help her to do what is right.
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@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
14 Sep 08
I do hope that it helps her!
You are a very good friend for trying to look out for her!
~Heavens~
