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They themselves begin to believe the lie as well. I think you answered it, darlin, right there. Sometimes people just have to believe what they want to believe and they'll go to any lengths to make a lie into a truth, even though by its very nature, a lie can't be truth. But one person's truth isn't always another's. Our perspectives can be so vastly, diametrically opposed, what's true for one couldn't possibly ever be true for another. There are universal truths, scientific truths, religious truths, those truths that everyone pretty much agrees on, and there are also personal truths and those are the ones that get things so skewed. I don't know much that's more subjective than truth. Isn't that a weird thing to say??? How can truth be subjective? Some truth isn't. Some is. And the truth in that statement is just crazy. You, however, aren't talking about that kind of truth. I understand a little of what you're talking about here, Tess, and I would never presume to tell you you're wrong here. I don't believe you are wrong, not one little bit. And I know that your ethic about truth is written in stone and that you don't negotiate about truth. You struggle so much with your eldest daughter and the kind of person she is, and you've had some unimaginable things to deal with recently, and it must have been hell to be you. But you prevail, sweety, you always do. And you question. You demand answers to things - it's that ethic I mentioned earlier. It's just you. A hell of a force to be reckoned with. But worth it, definitely worth it. I sort of hesitate to post this, although I'm not sure why. But I will. It's just that it doesn't necessarily make all that much sense...it does to me, but it might not to you, Tess, I dunno. But. Here it is, all the same. xx

some peoples lives are so very meaningless to them,they feel the need to spread their bile to anyone who is naive enough to listen. It is hard when it is your family. My sister is a pathalogical liar and yet everyone seems to believe every word she says. I found out recently that she had told one of my friends that her son had cancer when he does not! What the hell made her think that lie would not be revealed, there is something seriously wrong with her to say something like that, i told my mother and she said that my friend was making it up and why would she say he had cancer? why would my friend make it up?! no disrespest to your family but these people are not even worth your time. Dont waste your words on them

Must be the same motivation for printing stories in tabloid newspapers.. except at least they're making a buck out of their lies... I am fascinated by people's ability to live in a world of their own fueled by misconceptions about themselves and how it would affect them to be confronted with the raw truth. I think we all do it to a small degree, IE our self-conception not being exactly how others see us, but some people take it to the extreme. As for those who like to sensationalise, I think much of it is to do with deflection onto something or someone else. IE. if they are feeling bad about something they have done, they want to highlight just how bad someone else is... Otherwise it is a desire to appear interesting by having an interesting story to relate, if their isn't actually an interesting story, then one has to be invented or a mundane story has to be given a twist...

Hi tessah, I am so sorry that your relationship with your grandmother has come to a halt, it is such a shame things like this happenes, her life must have been so boring that she makes up stories to make it sound interesting for people to listen to he and to gossip. Once a person start lying they forget it lies and do think it is a truth, but I think there is some wrong with her deep down, have ever talked to her and asked why she is doing this? it is something deep rooted there. Tamara

I was once married to a compulsive liar. I seriously don't think he could help himself, it was a real sickness. He HAD to lie. He lied about everything from what he had for breakfast, to these grand stories about a girl who killed herself because of him. It was so elaborate that I believed it and felt so sorry for him. I later found out the girl never existed. Maybe there is something wrong in their brains, some sort of misfire. Maybe it started out innocently, but then they became so used to lying that it jus became such a major habit they couldn't break, like smoking or biting your nails.