What do you and your partner avoid talking about?

Philippines
September 15, 2008 1:11am CST
Communication is very important in a relationship but of course we have to be careful of what we say to avoid conflicts in it. So tell me is there anything that you and your partner avoid discussing about?
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• Philippines
15 Sep 08
We talk about everything. I tell her all my thoughts, and she does the same. In case of sensitive topics, I first let her know that what I'm about to say is what I really feel, and that she doesn't really have to get upset about it and just hear me out. She basically does the same thing. Our marriage isn't perfect. We do fight a lot, but it's the healthy kind of fight that easily gets resolved because we always say how we feel.
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• Philippines
15 Sep 08
Thanks for that tip. Telling them beforehand about what you're going to say is really good. In that way you could tell your partner just about everything.
• Philippines
15 Sep 08
Exactly! Keeping things to myself really stresses me out so I tell her that this is the way I feel at the moment and that it may change when I get to share it with her.
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@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
15 Sep 08
Me and my husband always talk about so many things.. politics, our childhood, the music we love, movies and almost anything under the sun. But your question makes me realized that we never talk about our exes. I never know about his past relationship and I never bothered to tell him about mine. I think because we choose not to know about that to avoid future complications in our relationship.
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• Philippines
16 Sep 08
Yup we all want to avoid complications in the future. Thanks for responding
• India
15 Sep 08
as per me : i say any couple in marriage sould talk everything under the sun. practically everything. but to my dismay and as my fate would have it, my husband had only spoken to me about salary, expenditure, budget, only incomes and expenditures and nothing else anytime in all 12 years of marriage. unless couples speak out they really cannot...............
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• Philippines
15 Sep 08
Thanks for responding
@lrglara (1334)
• Philippines
15 Sep 08
most of the time, its money... basically its because i have and he doesnt. he hates it if i tell him how to manage the money wisely because for him, its not easy to get money. for him, no one will give him money and no one is there to support him. if he doesnt work, he cant have anything. unlike me, my parents pretty much supports me especially if i really need something. and that's what he doesnt like. another thing that we don't usually talk about is religion. he's catholic, im protestant! :)
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• Philippines
15 Sep 08
I agree money is really one big issue that is most of the time avoided but should be confronted. It goes with religion too especially each has his or her own views. Thanks for responding.
@alecz23 (486)
• Philippines
15 Sep 08
we avoid talking about our past, or exes because talking about them will only mean your not yet over him/her... we also avoid talking bad things in her family or my family...
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• Philippines
15 Sep 08
Thanks for responding
@tatiana07 (497)
• Philippines
15 Sep 08
we definitely avoid talking about our exes..actually i loved to talked about his exes but my husband don't want to talk about it coz in the end of our conversation we tend to quarrel its because i got jealous..lol..i'm the one started the talk but in the end i'm in the losing end because of that green eyed monster.lol.,(",)
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• Philippines
16 Sep 08
I agree talking about the past is often avoided because in the end one feels jealous. Thanks for responding
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
26 Feb 09
There isn't anything we don't talk about but there are things that we don't discuss often mostly our pasts...we're also careful about discussing politics b/c they can lead to arguements. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]