Knowing What One Wants in Life..

I am very sure your friend is not the only person who has no direction in life. It is good that you have a direction in life. Knowing exactly what you want and how to get it is very important. For without a goal, life would be meaningless. I know of people who just live life one day at a time. Not knowing what they want. OR knowing where they want to go in life. It is just one sun up, one sun down, another gone kind of life. Totally meaningless. The worst part of it is, they seem to be aware of this. And is always lamenting on how life is meaningless. Duh~~~! To give life meaning, you have to the one defining what kind of life you want. Then from there you would be able to acquire the meaning you want in life. And then the goals and the direction that gives that definition some solidity that one can finally call life! Moping around all day in the home is not going to get you meaning in life. Neither is the meaning of life going to fall on your lap from the sky. You have to be the one giving the meaning to life. It is good that you mention this. One has to know what wants in life to give it meaning. Thanks for the reminder as well my friend.

Your friend's story is somewhat like a mirror, it reflects my futile years of wandering in this world. My friends are pained as well to see me living this life when I'm supposed to be living a good life that I'd planned to have. Well, knowing what we want in this life, even planning for it isn't always a guarantee of accomplishing it. That's a fact that I had difficulty of accepting before but I think I'm learning to embrace it no matter how painful it is. I thought my life will be great you see. I always know what I wanted in life and I have been an "achiever" enough to get all that I wanted. Everything have been planned since then. After graduating at the age of 20, life has been beautiful, all plans have been working, then fate suddenly took a different path. Things started to crumble down, all the carefully laid out plans have vanished... Now I'm nearing 30, have been jumping from one job to another, separated from my monstrous ex-hubby, abandoned by my parents, alone and lonely... I was supposed to be mad, but to whom? I didn't want this life, I worked hard to have a good life, and I'm sure nobody cruel enough wants me to have this life as well. Then I realized I cannot question the mystery of life. Things happened because they're supposed to happen no matter what we do to stop them. I am positive however that my time will come. This isn't the end of the world. Plenty of time for me. Your friend, and I, and all the other people who had such heartbreaking experiences would appreciate the support of others at this crucial time in our lives... God bless you always.

I wish that I knew what I really wanted, but I do not know what it is. I would love to graduate college, have a career as a teacher and a writer, own a home, and have a family, but for some reason, I do not think that any of this will happen for me.

Everybody has got our own dreams, goals, as well as direction in life ^_^ As long as we have dreams, we already know what we wanted and where we wanna head to ^_^ BUt at times, we will be lost with our directions, because of some setbacks and disappointment in life, and that's normal ^_^ Just take it as a lesson learnt, or treat it as a break away from our goal, relax, and slowly we will know what we want in life again ^_^ Though life is short, but we still have a long way to go b4 we lived our life to the max ^_^ As from what i have heard and i find it true, for everything that's long, there will be a short ^_^ SO, y push ourselves so hard when we know that we are gonna reach there someday somehow ^_^ WHen one is stress or frustrated, they are more prone to lose track of life, and that's the time when frenz and family are very important.. Frenz like u, should support her now, with whatever her decisions, and not being hard on her like b4 ^_^ Guide her back slowly, and no matter how helpless u feel, she will still be gald for your help, even it's just emotional support ^_^ Direction and goals are just things to keep us interested in life, something to look forward too, and if we lose interest in that, just find other things, because they are so many things in life to look forward too ^_^ It can be short term goals, to build up self confidence, after which, slowly looking further and to the ultmost goals ^_^

Yeah, I agree with you. I used to think that looking for what we truly want from our life, or having a goal and direction isn't that important. Actually I even thought that our lives are (especially mine) is totally pointless!! I thought that when I was like 7th or 8th grade? Maybe I was being too pessimistic back then, but that's what I used to think. I was discouraged by too many people and the entire society, and I was the "loser" almost everyday. I do agree that living your life without too much goals or just living plain carelessly is just like taking the random paths without knowing where you are actually going. I'm sorry to hear that you are seeing your friend (is she?) who is heading wrong directions, or just being confused with her life. But don't just hate yourself because you felt helpless... I know it feels really depressing to see a friend of yours who is not living his/her life effectively and happily, but don't discourage yourself as well just because you feel helpless. I'm pretty sure you will find some way to help your friend out, just like my friend did back when we were sophomores. :) Well... hopefully you can at least find your strengths and weaknesses, and have some goals for your life :) just like me, I'm working to seek my true goals in my life, as well as my strengths and weaknesses... I'm sure you can do it :) happy mylotting :D

It is indeed important to know what we want in life. Without targets and the motivation to achieve it, we won't know what we really want in life. In short it really seems meaningful. Find a passion and goal, achieve it, and not only will you feel a sense of satisfaction, but also joy. We must really know what we want.

I had to read this twice!! I am past thirty, and I am confused too!! So what do you think of me? Another dumbo??? Just kidding!! LOL Ok, regarding wanting something from life. I was a strict "I know what I want and I will get what I WANT" type when I was in my early teens. When I was 17, I wanted to learn Naturopathy, and against everybody's wishes I headed over to do Naturopathy. What happened there? I had a big aggravation of anxiety and depression problems and had to return broken. For a few years, I just did my BA English literature and decided to stop "wanting anything." After BA, I did my MA and still wanted nothing. Even before the MA results were out, I got my appointment order from a reputed college, and started working. Still did not want anything. Then suddenly, I started "wanting" again. This time I wanted a man, a relationship, marriage, and kids. And I WANTED them. And once this terrible woman wants something, she gets it. I got it, of course. The only problem was that I had to divorce the skunk one and a half years later. You see, these experiences made me seriously question those self-help books that I read. Life is not that simple... that you want something and get something and then everything is smooth sailing. If it sails smoothly, fine, and usually it doesn't!! The very thing you want poisons you when you get it!! And what next? I decided to stop wanting anything and get on with life. It was only after that I managed to overcome my problems of depression and anxiety. I quit teaching too, which I was beginning to dislike. And now? I can't say I want anything. I don't!! Life has given enough -- a nice home, lovely pets, a nice garden, the ability to read and write and earn, and what more could I "want"? All the things I wanted in the past make me sick now. I definitely don't want them anymore. At the same time, I am not free from questions. I have lots of deep life questions for which I seek answers. Yup, it is the confusion and seeking the end of confusion that makes life interesting. I do understand you point. I used to think that way once. If someone approaches me, I guess I would preach about goals and being sure about what you want too. But I don't wish to be a "wanter" any more. Wanting something and getting it turned out too stressful for me. Right now, I am happy being a "seeker," living life as it comes. Have I written a book? Gosh, hope I haven't bored you to tears. Cheers and happy mylotting

Hello angelia,, How are u??? u know I truly agree with u... it is very important to have goals in life without which, our life will be miserable and no meaning...

Hey there angelina286, yes it is important that we know what we want in life so that we have something to achieve in this life but sometimes it is not applicable if the dream is too big liek myself I want to be a an artist because these things require talent and luck. However, soemtimes we just have to follow what normal people want in their life which is to have a good job, happy life and a lot of friends. ^^

I agree that having no direction is really a big disappointment and pain in life. For me in order to have direction we should have a goal and it would be good if that goal is something that we really want and something that we have been dreaming of. In that way by trying to achieve something that we really want, there would be direction in our life.

You are absolutely correct. Without a goal or target our lives are just like undirected bull pulling the cart. Sometimes it is bit difficult to identify what we really wants. But it is not so always. We must have simple aims. Once we acheive it we may look for better one. We must always have a very high ambition as our last point. That should be achieved by passing small milestones. To much of desire of things risks our lives being met with sorrowful moments. More you desire, more the risk.

You are right. It is important for us to have a direction and goal in life. Sometimes I am not sure where I am in life but I do have some goal still. I feel motivated to return to school one day and earn a degree in psychology. It is good to be true to ourselves and thing about ourselves and our needs. Since I do have a husband and child I kind of put myself on the back burner for now. I do feel helpless sometimes over the things I cannot change now but in time if I am patient I will be rewarded.

For each and everybody we can hear a story but living life with some goal is lies with only to some nos of peoples say 30% as whole what i seen, But everybody lives with some goals in which something are not required in life and something are not equivalent to their ages or something are not worthy at all so all these somethings are depend on the maturitylevel and fixing the goals and direction in life requires maturity for being thou..if not life will ends up with something what comes and what others says...so get mature enought to lead your own life

I have a serious problem of finding my direction and goals in life recently,I feel so bad my current circumstance.I haven't contact my parents for a while,they may thought I am not a good boy,but I just feel shameed to let them know that I have nothing done until now.hope I can find the direction soon and make myself refreshed.