Knowing What One Wants in Life..

you are most welcome my friend. I just shared what I thought about when I read your discussion. Never knew I could write like that as well. Heh heh heh... reading my own post again, I actually surprise myself. Thanks for being able to appreciate it as well.

Hehe.. we tend to surprise ourselves when we least expect to.. Lol, well that's human nature for you! Well, take care!

There are just so many of these people in the world and they call themselves the simple people who just wants to live simple lives. The worst thing to that comment is that they will then start to lament how lost they are, how they don't know why they were born and all that stuff. This comes from having no goals and no direction in their lives, just like what you had mentioned! With dreams -- goals -- plan -- action -- direction -- a life full of richness! It's all interlinked the process. But, not many people can get that.. and I myself don't get how these people think. I love how you put it - "To give life meaning, you have to be the one defining what kind of life you want. Then from there, you would be able to acquire the meaning of what you want in life. And then the goals and the direction that gives that defination some solidity that one can finally call life!" and "You have to be the one giving the meaning to life". It just about sums up everything! Thanks my friend for the quotes! Well take care!

Thanks for taking the time reading my response and of course commenting as well. I like your attitude, I hope that you'll be able to help that friend of yours to become some she's supposed to be. God bless...

It's always nicer to have a real conversation within a discussion, than a hit and run affair. Lol, I don't like to start discussions just for the sake of starting one, and then leaving all the people who had responded alone. I believe that it is also the case for you? Well, hopefully so.. Thanks for your response! ANd may you have a great day ahead! Happy Mylotting!

"Life is but a show, a show is but reality!" How true that Chinese saying is! Life is often dramatic, with all its ups and downs, twists and turns that it's just like a movie, but then a movie is also like reality as they are based on real life situations. How ironic! Always do remember one thing that planning for something does not guarantee and will never guarantee its success. But then remember this, dreams and goals will never change (destination), but plans will change to accomadate our circumstances in life. When there is an obstacle in us to achieve our goals, we will have to change our plans and take a different path to reach that destination. It may seem longer, but no matter what, the satisfaction in achieving what we want in life will outweigh the longer distance we will have to take! The worst thing in life to ignorance is blindness.. the blindness to our own faults and overestimating our own strengths and overlooking our own weaknesses. I'm really glad that you had learnt to embrace them and accepted them as it is. All is not lost as long as you are able to accept the facts, and change your plans accordingly to achieve what you want to achieve in life. Afterall, it's always the results that matters and not the process that matters. I hope that I had done enough for me, and that I had truely helped her out during this period of time. No doubt that I was too blunt, and I said too many things that might had hurt her heart, but I had never regretted saying all those stuff. At the age of 28, I believe it's time that she woke up from her pampered life, and start questioning herself on what she really wants in life. Once decided, don't waver. Thanks for your response and for sharing your story with us! Well, take care and I hope that everything would have turned out well for you in the end!

I keep thinking that any day now, it might be my last day. If I live to be 25, I will consider myself lucky.

Why would you think that all of these would not happen to you? {Scratches head} I feel that anything is possible as long as we go all out for what we want, with no hesitation nor any doubts on our side. Its all in the mindset! If these are your dreams, don't let anybody else steal your dreams. Set on what your dreams are, focus and work out a plan to achieve them. Dreams and goals don't change, but plans can change as we move towards our goals. Obstacles might prevent us to proceed on, but then there are always ways to get round them, so long as the heart and mind is willing. Always remember this! Anything is possible as long as we believe them to be. Just like the little kid who thinks that their parents are superman and superwoman as they watch in wide eyed wonder, thinking that everything in the world is just so wonderful. That is the innoncence of childhood and the naivity of a child. Be like the child again, and go towards your dreams. I wish you all the best in achieving them! Take care and happy mylotting!

Why would you want to think that way? Life is indeed beautiful, no matter how tough the going. Myself, I had also experienced a few serious hard knocks along the way, but then I always believe in the 'fighting' spirit.. So long as we don't give up on ourselves, no one else would give up on us! Come on! Bring out the fighting spirit in you and battle this life away. Once the demons are gone, you will be able to see the beautifulness of life! Well, I wish you all the best and may you be more optimistic in your life. No matter how tough or impossible it may seems to be, always remember that there is someone out there for you looking after you! You are your own poison, but yet, you can also be your own antidote. Change your mindset and enjoy what life has to offer you to the best!! Take care!

YEah ^_^ That's what and how life should be, with setbacks so that we can learn and also enjoy the process of geeting thru it, gain an experience to enhance our life even more ^_^ hehe Since she's always been pampered and had not been thru hard life b4, so all the more u should take advantage of this situation now, making it as worse as possible.. U try to help her in your usual way by shouting at her or saying all the hateful words to her, after which, find her a room, and telling her that it has got everything she wants in there.. Dun bother about if she likes it there or not, juts make sure she stays and sleeps in there.. From there, let her learn thru her own ways and dun help her anymore from there.. Because if u continue to help her in life, she will never learn.. Or maybe, u can even find her a room with landlord staying together and the landlord teach her.. This will work most of the time because she has got no choice at all.. Actually by helping her finding room all that, u are also pampering her some way or other.. So she knows that as long as u and other frenz continue to help her, she can always afford to be choosy because she can count on u or them to do the job for her.. SO what i recommend is that, u find a room for u, need not meet all her requirements, and tell her she will be staying there.. regardless of she wants or not, dun care about that.. Once she's left with no choive, she will have to accpet it.. hehe

So that is why they say that failure is the mother to succesS? Without tasting failure, one will never know the sweetness of success. Without failures, one would never know where they had gone wrong, and one would never learn from their mistakes. The most important thing in life is that when we fall, be sure to pick ourselves up again and then move on. Just a quick update. And that is my friend had found a room! It has the freedom that she craves for as there is no owner around, but there is a price to pay for that. It is so expensive that it eats into half of her salary, and at the same time, the room is pretty small with run down furnishings and no air-con. Oh well I could never know what she is thinking of, and perhapes now I don't even care. Thanks for your suggestions! Really appreciated the thought that goes into your response. Well, I think she has already started to learn how to live independently, I guess. Over these 2 months, we have kind of drifted apart.. so.. *shrugs*

When we fall, what's important is that we will stand up again, brush off the dust and blood and move on. That is what makes life interesting and that is what makes us stronger. If life is all so plain sailing and there is no troubles along the way, then we would all be weak and not strong at all. Setbacks and disappointments are all a part and parcel of our lives, and we should embrace them and learn from them. Well said on this, and I agree whole heartedly with you. =D Hmm.. I would have to say that it's time for someone to give my friend a hard shake and wake her up to life and to see clearly for the very first time not to live in her fairytale life. You get what I mean. She's that pampered and had never had really a hard knock in life before. That is why when things happen or when trouble comes, she just falls apart. Everybody treads around her softly, but i don't think I would be that sort of person. My hateful and hard words to her is all that to make her wake up and to realise that there are people out there who are living tougher lives than her, but are not complaining at all. And that is because they are contended with their lots. Now, she is about to move out of her house in another 5 days time, and still she had not found a room! That's just her for you. She needs people to do things for her even at the age of 28! I had helped her to source for rooms for the past two weeks, but up to now, no action was done.. to the extent I asked her today.. So what happens if you don't get a room by the end of this week? It's just that her demands are a bit tough to meet. She wants a room near the MRT, convenient for her to go to work, airconditioning, washing machine, can cook and have heater for under $400 a month. How to find? We had told her truthfully, but still she's choosy. What can we do? SigH!

Hehe, actually I am very clear on my life's direction and my dreams and goals that I want to achieve and at one age. I am working towards that direction, and am getting closer and closer to achieving all that I desire. This is something that I am very pleased with. I used to be someone with no self confidence and with no clear direction in life. As such, I was very miserable and confused about what I want and all that stuff. But then, things took a turn in beginning year 2007 (Feb) when all of a sudden, I woke up from the deep slumber and began to have a clear direction. I am proud to say that I am very clear on what I want, and how I want to go about achieving that goal =D When we are younger, we would like to think that we are invincible and no matter what happens, nothing will ever brings us down. In short, we are living our lives fast and furious. but, as we grew older, we will come to realise that this is not the life that we should be leading.. and that is when confusion and lostness sets in.. and we will begin to open our eyes and see the world as it is, and the importance of setting goals in life. That comes with maturity. But, sad to say, many people though old in age, are stuck in their teenage hood, unable to get out of that limbo, and then finding themselves lost with no way to get back to their original paths. That's why friends are so important in our lives, and they should be the good ones who would knock some sense into you and guide you on the right path. And I am glad that you had found that friend during your high school! Hopefully, I would be the one who would also guide my lost friend back into finding herself! Well, let us all work towards our goals and achieve them as we had planned! Take care!

How very true! Everybody should know what they really wants inside of them. Only when they know what they want, then they would have a clear direction in their lives, and not feel lost or emptiness when they are alone. Only we ourselves know ourselves best, and only us ourselves are able to guide ourselves to finish off the path in life. Not anybody else. No one else should complete us if we can't even complete ourselves! Thank friend for your comment! Happy Mylotting!

I am totaly agree with u... I am fine also. Thanks...

I'm fine! How about you!? Well, yes having goals in our lives will give us a sense of purpose, which in turn makes us happy and let us have something to work towards. Upon achieving our goals, hehe we will feel satisfied and happy too! Thanks for your response! Take care and happy mylotting!!

Hurmmm.. you are right but I got to have a decent-paying job first and it must be a job that allows me to have time to be an artist. yes we are unique and as much as I want to be unique I can't escape from the constraints such as finance and culture.^^

Yes, that's the reality of life. Sad. Well I am sure you will be able to do it! Go for it! Take care!

Well, if that is your dream, you can choose always to follow it~! There are many sorts of artist in the world, and that does not only includes those who can draw or paint. There are artist like those who do makeups, those who designs clothes, those who creates art out of garbarge. All of these people are artist in their own rights. Don't let anybody steal your dreams away! I respect that you would just want to follow what other normal people are doing in their lives - to have a good job, a good family and a group of good friends. Lol, but then that is not what I want in my life. I know that I am unique and there isn't a second person who is exactly like me. And so, why should I follow the crowd? Instead I should let my uniqueness shines through and do what I want to do in my life. In this way, I know that I would not leave any regrets behind in my life. Well, thanks for your response! Take care and have a nice day! Happy Mylotting!

I agree totally with you on this! That is exactly what I was thinking! Lol, great minds think alike?? Luckily for me, I had always know what I want in my life. Even when things don't turn out the way I want them to be, or I had taken a huge detour in my life, my goals and dreams still stays the same. Like what one of my friends always says. "Goals and dreams won't change, but plans to achieve them can be changed over time." This is also something that I firmly believe in. By changing your mindset, and having the sort of mindset like you, that's the halfway mark in achieving what you want! Good for you! With dreams comes goals and with goals comes a plan, and the work towards the goal with the plan is what gives everyone and everybody a meaning and a direction to focus on in their lives. Well, thanks for your comments! Take care and well, happy mylotting!

Well said! As what I had read somewhere, dreams and the final goal in our lives will always stays the same (what we want in life), but the plans to go about achieving them would change accordingly to our circumstances in life (the path in achieving our goals/dreams), but ultimately we would still get to the final destination in the end. Once we have achieved that, we would then go for higher heights! Our lives should not be like the undirected bull pulling the cart blindly. That is not what life should be. When that happens, we would feel 'lost' and would feel that life has no feeling in it. No matter what happens, life is always beautiful, it is just up to us on how we see it to be and what we want out of life. See the world as it is and not with blue tinted glasses! Well, take care and happy mylotting!!

You write like a philosopher. Keep it up!

I like your attitude in life. If only more people are this ooptimistic like you, the world would be a much better world to live in, and there would be lesser people being treated for depression! It's normal for us not to know or even understand where we are in life, but if we have an eventual goal that we want to reach, we would be alright in life. It's great to know that you have a goal in your life that you want to reach, even though you are still not sure where you are in life. Why wait? Get the enrolment today! Lol, I came to realise that procrastination is our poison, and the more we procrastinate, the more we wouldn't come about to do the stuff that we want to do. So, if you are motivated to return to school to study for a degree, GO FOR IT!! I am sure you will be able to achieve what you set out to achieve as long as you have the right attitude towards life! Patience is a virtue and it pays to be patient in some instances. I am sure you will be rewarded one of these days, and when payday comes, the satisfaction from achieving it is beyond any words! Well, take care and may all your dreams come true! Happy Mylotting too!!

Yes, I agree with you. i hope that life is going the way that you want and all is well with you! Take care and thanks for your comments! Happy Mylotting!

Well, first thing of all, I would like to wish you good luck in finding your direction and foothold in life! YOu can do it so long as you believe! Go for what you want, know it and go all out for it. You will be satisfied when that happens! Everyone of us would have lost our directions in life one way or another. So, do not feel so bad about it as you are not the only one. Though at times it may seem tough, hang on as I have confidence in everybody's ability to overcome the 'lost' period. Well, take care and thanks for your response! Happy Mylotting!