Have you resented losing friends because you had been bitter?

Hey there kharen, I guess when you decided to throw everything away from your life just because your friend is in a relationship with your ex, it is a very silly decision. But then again, any decision must have a consequence and you certainly must expect if not be prepared for it. I have done it and I don't resent it because I have prepared and expected the consequences.

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Resentment seems to be a very strong word to use. I've always been the "angry-in-the-moment" type of person, I don't really keep hatred and bitterness within me for I know I'll be at the losing end if I do so. I understand you though. It isn't easy to deal with something you've dealt with. Betrayal is not something we relish, we abhor it when people deceive us and betray our trusts. yup, it would cause your confidence to slide downhill faster than a speeding bullet. It isn't good however to despise and push away everybody because of the mistakes created by two or three people. Two years ago, I may have the same sentiments with you. I've been hurt and been so spiteful to everybody in the end I suffered the most because everybody left me. Living a solitary life is never fun. I had been alone and lonely for years now and though it made me a more independent and stronger person, it still hurts to contemplate that I've lost people who matters most in this life. In the end, all my so-called "achievements" if ever I do achieve them will be nothing since I'll have no one to share my triumph and happiness with. Still, there's enough time for us to change this. We can always try to reach out once more. We may not do it quickly, for in haste there's haste, we'll do it slowly but surely... Let's take one day at a time, and maybe, just maybe, the people we thought we lost were just waiting around the corner for us to let them enter our lives again... May God bless you always.. Be happy!

Yeah, I lost a few friends because I was bitter. What I've realised is that not too many people can bear someone who always has a black cloud hanging over their heads. These days I try not to hang on to hurts because I realise I end up injuring myself. Its like internal bleeding - unnoticed, but ends up killing you. It hurts, yes, but let go, and you will free yourself. Matt 18:21 Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, "Lord, how many times should I forgive my brother when his sins against me? Seven times?" Jesus answered, "I tell you, not seven times, but seventy times seven!" We should do likewise.

Well it happened to me but not in the same way as yours. I almost lost a friend because I really felt bitter about her. Good thing though our friendship remained but too bad it can't be like the friendship we had before.

Yes, i am since they look down on me and talking shi't i already cut down with them.I found the problem is i can't stay with their living style anymore. Its a bad sign now i could say i have less then 5 friend. Lonely is one of them. Maybe we can make friend?

Well, I have lost a couple of close friends due to this. One of them I still work with, and her and I used to get together at least 2-3 times a month and do things. It does hurt when you wish you still could get together and do things from time to time, and spend time with their kids, but yet, at the same time I know I am probably better off. Just wish sometimes I could take back maybe the way I acted as well so some people would not look so Bad at me as well.

I've had my share of losing friends and it has never been a good experience. Like you I also lost a friend because of my ex but it wasn't me who drifted away it was my friend she thought that I was still her rival even though my ex chose her over me. I even lost friends because of money and money is never a good topic when it comes to friendship. It totally destroys you. I can't bring back the past but I know in the future I can prevent this from happening again. Kharen please remember you may have lost a special someone in your life but it doesn't mean that you should be bitter. You may have lost a friend but always remember new ones will come your way. I can be your friend if you want to and I'll always be here for you even if we maybe miles apart.

It almost happened to me. When my ex-boyfriend and I broke up, I became so bitter, that I do not socialize anymore. I don't talk to people, I just stay in my room and cry. I don't text back my friends, I don't mingle because smiling for me that time is so hard. Then one day, I realized that my friends are slowly moving away from me. I don't know their gigs anymore. I don't know what are they doing during weekends (me and my friends usually go out to unwind). My world and their worlds became ver distant that I don't even know what's happening to their lives. When I realized this, I reached out to them. I realized that I have already lost a boyfriend... I don't want to lose my friends. My friends have nothing to do with the break-up, they should not be affected of my bitter experience. After realizing this, I promised to myself that no matter how bitter my life will become, I will never let it go through me and affect my relationship with my friends.

It is normal to be out of kilt sometime. No one is perfect. But, you need to get yourself together and function like a normal human being. If there is something wrong with your world you should try looking at yourself first and make changes where you can. Cheers!!