Anxiety over trust
@pinkharleygirl (10)
United States
September 15, 2008 4:04pm CST
I have anxiety over trusting my boyfriend. I know he loves me and we are engaged. But I am always a bit fearfull he is going to leave. He has dated a lot of women and has used the phrase I love you for most of his relationships. He has been married twice. He is not that trusting either. We have been dating for over three years and this is the third time I have actully had a ring on my finger. ( It is still the same ring.) I am a recovering alcoholic which has been a lot of the problem in the past. I have been sober nine months now and believe he meant it this time when he put the ring on. But he also told me when he put the ring on that he had lied to me about where he went the weekend before we got back together. (Nine months previously) He went to an ex girlfriends to "get away". Says he slept on the couch and I needed to trust him. I can not seem to let go of this. She still was texting him until a couple months ago. He says they do not talk at all now. Am I stupid to let this bother me and how do I get rid of my anxiety?
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@tastymoon1 (86)
• Pakistan
15 Sep 08
I think relationship, I mean anxiety over trust.... for your convenience that is not trust which create anxiety .... Trust mean total satisfaction.
I am not here to tell you the bad side of your relationship but I would say that "if it getting me stressful and anxiety full" should i continue the relationship???
@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
15 Sep 08
You are not stupid to be bothered about trust issue. You have every reason to be bothered knowing that he had done it several times. He told you that he sees his ex gf before you get back together yet he said that nothing happen is something that you should not believe. Try to weigh things first and make sure you are not committing a mistake of marrying someone who is not worth trusting for. He was use to telling lies and cheating so i cant blame you if you have this anxiety. Talk to him about your fears and worries. Let him know that you are not at all at peace thinking if he had an affair with his ex gf or not. Let him know that you deserved to be happy and that if he cant give his 100% dedication on you then he better just tell you before its too late. I bet he doesnt want to be hurt as well so explain to him your side why your feeling this way. Marriage is a lifetime commitment so make sure you are marrying someone who is worth trusting for.
