when you were young....
By checapricorn
@checapricorn (16061)
United States
September 15, 2008 6:30pm CST
did you care if you're date has a car?
In my experienced, I didn't consider this since no one has a car in our High School before..LOL! maybe even if someone has a car, I will not base my decision with what he has and what he owns!
I had some friends in College who will check first about "car, what type whatsoever" of their dates before they will say 'Yes" which is truly sad for those who don't have cars! ANyway, different cultures from different COuntries and I love to hear your stories!
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39 responses
@chengbeb (285)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
I didn't really care if my date has a car...it's a plus but it's not that really important. Here in the Philippines you have to be 18yrs old to drive a car and not all parents would really allow us to drive cars before we turn 20. It's a little bit strict here. But there are some rich families who let their kids drive their own cars once they reach 18. Whether my date has car or none it doesn't really matter as long as we enjoy our date.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
23 Sep 08
[i]Hi cheng,
I am from the Philippines also and in our school before, no one has a car..LOL! Not even parents allow their kids to drive their car..LOL! ANyway, it's also not a good criteria![/i]
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
19 Sep 08
[i]Hi Elic,
wow..lucky you to have a car as early as that but I know in some COuntries, it's necessary due to less public transportati[/i]on!
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
19 Sep 08
I agree Shaun, nice thinking! I know a lot of women are having the same perception!
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@xParanoiax (6987)
• United States
16 Sep 08
Er...no, even though I don't tend to make judgements based on what people own, it's especially true this day and age. May not be able to afford a car, maybe they're saving up for a more efficient vehicle, or they walk everywhere. It's all cool, to me.
I don't own a car, and probably won't for quite a few years. I hope to get a scooter in about a year...because it's cheaper, more efficient, and I don't mind that it'll be harsh to drive in the winter -- nor that people sometimes consider it dorky.
My scooter'll look like it's made out of spare parts for a space ship = awesome, to me.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
19 Sep 08
ohhh..I always love scooter but I never succeed when I tried driving..LOL! I love to have my own also and wish I will learn to drive!
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@SydneyHazelton (4586)
• Singapore
16 Sep 08
I didn't see having a car or wealth as a criteria for a date. My criteria is that that person must be comfortable with me and me him. We could talk and enjoy ourselves at every date. There were some guys at my college who drives around in cars their fathers bought for them and show them off at school. i did not like such people anyway. I prefer the humble ones.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
19 Sep 08
[i]Hi Sydney,
that is the great attitude for us to check, a humble guy..Proud and arrogant will always turn me off! lOL![/i]
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@carmela0210 (1591)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
whoa!!same here, it was just so fun reminiscing things way back, my friend, a guy friend has a car when we are in college, and she has this gf of his that we just think that girl just like our friend because he got car, hey its pretty awesome that your boyfriend has a car didnt it??lol but ewww having boyfriend because that guy has a car??duhhhh....shallow to those who do those things.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
19 Sep 08
[i]Hi carmela,
I agree...very shallow and for sure those type of girls will not stay in one relationship..LOL! Whoever got the best, she will be there..LOL![/i]
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@danishcanadian (28955)
• Canada
16 Sep 08
I didn't really date until I met my husband. He had a car at the time, but I would have loved him even if he didn't. Sure enough the car broke down before too long, and now we don't have one. That's OK, because he's going to be coming to Canada soon, and we'll be living in a big city where we won't need to drive.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
16 Sep 08
[i]Hi danish,
ohh..I will love a place like that! A place where every places or area is walking distance like mall to house to restaurant and all!cHeers![/i]
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@comeonmolly (828)
• China
17 Sep 08
Just as you mentioned ,now I am truly know why the united stats is call the country of cars..you know here in china there aren't so many cars as you are in the US.thus of course when we are dating with someone we don't care so much whether he has a car or not since we don't have that condation of owing a car .and the school don't allowed the high school student to drive a car to school .. Maybe in some university which has a lot of rich stuents theny own car ..but at least in my school ..I haven't notice the cars are so universal in the campus..
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
17 Sep 08
[i]Hi molly,
I grew up in the Philippines but I agree with you, here, almost everyone has a car due to distance of places as well as limited public vehicle! So, it's necessary for someone to have one when he is working or studying!
Unlike in our COuntry, 1 car is enough for 1 family and for less than an hour, The Father can drop the kids to school as well as wife to work before he will proceed to his work! Plus places are not too far al[/i]so!
@wotfpatty (2065)
• United States
16 Sep 08
No, I didn't care. I actually had an old car I bought when I was 17 so, if my date didn't have a car, I did anyway.
When I met my future husband, he did have a car but it wasn't in great shape. I used to worry all the time riding in it. Finally I said we should just take my car when we went out (By then I had a better car than my first one.). We did end up doing that for a bit and then he bought a better car.
But when I was in school, it didn't matter at all. We did a lot of walking when I was young and my idea of a "date" was just walking around and hanging out at the places where my friends were.
I still am not car crazy. I don't want a flashy car. As long as we have something that gets us where we're going, I'm happy.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
23 Sep 08
[i]Hi wot,
wow..you're lucky to have car but I know that is common here unlike in our Country, most of the places are walking distance and there are also a lot of public vehicle so not much of teens have cars and if they have, they have drivers with them!
ANyway, thanks for sharing![/i]
@Sharon38 (1912)
• Jamaica
16 Sep 08
Hi checapricorn, I check out his ambitions, his intentions towards me (why he wants to be friends with me), I chekc out he carries himself and how he treats his children and family members. If all these are in the positives then he is fine for the moment with me. I check out whether or not he wants me to meet his family members, I listen how he speaks about his ex and if these are positives then he will be fine for the moment.
What a guy has does not impact me because a person and I can start without anything in life and through love and ambition achieve alot. I beleive that tthe mistakes lie where a girl speaks with a guy because of what he has or what she thinks he has. That is a no no rule for entering in a relationship or for liking anyone.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
16 Sep 08
[i]Hi Sharon,
I am with you about these checklist..LOL! Those are very important to consider specially when we decide to date with a guy! I am picky also when I was single and end up having few dates only but no regrets![/i]
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@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
18 Sep 08
No, the guys back then didn't have cars, or most didn't. Cars were for the rich. But once I turned about 18 then we started to see more young guys driving and they were driving hot cars back then. The Mustangs and GTO's and Corvettes, you know the really hot cars.
I notice now a days that most of the high school kids have cars. I think this is wrong because it makes it too easy for them to skip out of school and go for joy rides with their friends. And I noticed that they are driving expensive cars today, must be daddy's car.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
18 Sep 08
[i]Hi chris,
Yea...very different back then specially also in our Country..and most of the times having their own cars made them think of cutting off classes because they can go anywhere, but, I know some are responsible also and good kids,,,maybe parents just need to monitor them often![/i]
@vera5d (4005)
• United States
17 Sep 08
I was lucky to have a car in high school (my parents made me get a job and get my license so i could drive my brothers everywhere instead of them!) so I dated a few guys without cars thinking it was no big deal...
well, by the time i was older i realized dating a guy with a car was important, it showed they had a sense of responsibility - and wouldn't use you just so you could drive them places! my hubby had a crappy car, but i was glad he had one when we started dating!
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
17 Sep 08
Hi [i]vera,
ohhh..that is cool! Thanks for sharing![/i]
@o2bnocn (2992)
• United States
17 Sep 08
I don't care if he has a car or not. Yes it would help greatly if he has a car so that way it would help for us to go out and everything. I am not going to say no to a guy just because he doesn't have a car. To me that doesn't matter. Most guys at my age or a little older than me should have cars by now though, I am out of high school so I would think they would but even then I would not say no to a guy because of it. I feel that is kind of selfish to do so. I would never ask a guy what type of car he has especially before we go out, that also doesn't matter to me. I don't know much about cars so I probably never would ask!
If a guy was to ask me that before we started dating or before we went on a date then it would make me feel kind of funny. I would probably end up asking him why he wants to know that, if he asked me later on in the relationship I might not care depending on how he asked me.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
18 Sep 08
[i]Hi Brooke,
ohhh...I know this time, car is a necessity unlike in our time..LOL! Anyway, still not a great basis for a girl to date with a guy but still it is more convenient!
I appreciate your sincere response and outlook about the post![/i]
@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
24 Sep 08
Well, not really..It just happened that they have a car..My main concern was their ultimate goal in dating me, their character if they are naughty or nice and fun to be with, is he a gentleman and stuff like that..Was very comfortable to go to a place we wanna hang out, if the guy has a car...
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
24 Sep 08
I agree eihdra, those quaities are more important to consider and having a car is just a bonus to have a convenient trip! LOL![i][/i]
@Ithink (9980)
• United States
16 Sep 08
Sad that people even young ones can be so into material things or how cool they can look. At 16 I had to choose between my poor boyfriend and a person that asked me out that had money along with a red convertible. I think I made the right pick, 26 years later married to the poor boyfriend =)
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
16 Sep 08
Wow...that is very sweet and nice love story Ithink..It's better really to spend time with the one whom we love and who loves us also!Thanks for inspiring us with a bit of your story!
@aseretdd (13730)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
That wasn't really an issue when i was still in my dating age... the school that i went to in highschool and college was not the school for the rich and famous... so all of the people i know doesn't even own one... so we all took the same mode of transportation... which is the ever reliable jeepney... but i heard that in some schools.. girl actually only date boys with cars... but i never met any of those girls...
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
17 Sep 08
[i]Hi aseretdd,
Oh..same in our town and sometimes, we prefer "potpot" hehehe...that time we will only pay 1 peso!
ANyway, I have known a classmate before who used to be like that but she is a nice girl also, she just want to enjoy having free rides maybe! LOL![/i]
@JanetBRudman (158)
• United States
17 Sep 08
In my 20's, most of my boyfriends /dates had cars. Two guys used their father's car, one rented a car, and one arranged double-dates. When I bought my own car (Olds), I met a man with no car. He traveled an hour to see me, but I had to drive us around (to the movie theater and restaurant). I soon tired of this arrangement, and since he wasn't too good romantically, I preferred dating someone who had wheels.
My husband (Jerry) had no car when I met him, so we car-pooled or double-dated with couples who had to pick us up. When he came back from the Vietnam War, the first thing he did was buy an auto so he could take me out!. When we finally married, I gave him my slightly used Buick (he had a beat up old Chevy.)
Bottom line is I judged a suitor by his personality, possessions/money, honesty, and generosity. Only 8 in 20 passed.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
18 Sep 08
[i]HI Janet,
wow..not half who made it huh! LOL! ANyway, it's really nice to have standards really and I love those you have mentioned, very necessary specially in lifetime relationship![/i]
@JannaLee (660)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
I'd love to go out with the guys who has their own car, however this would mean that they would be a lot older than me, since I started dating at age 13 and the legal age to attain a license in my place would be 18. Well, I didn't really care if the guy has a car or not...but if he does then it would give him a additional positive remarks in my checklist.
I still believe that strolling and navigating is much sweeter than driving and the like. So it's okay for me if the guy doesn't have a car at all^^ As long as he's nice to be with, then I would care less about the calf pains due to long walks^^
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
16 Sep 08
[i]Hi Janna,
LOL! Thanks for sharing, I understand what you mean about long walks, it's not fun for sure once it is too hot and the places are far from each other..LOL![/i]
@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
16 Sep 08
Hi Che,
We come from the same country where not all people can afford to have cars. I personally do not base my date upon what he owns and what he has, like you, I am not sort of materialistic? I am more of his talent. I like a date who is talented, has a good leadership, friendly and can lead a conversation. Somebody who make me feel comfortable. Honestly, in my younger years, I shun away with people who have wheels. Most of them are arrogant. I don't like to associate with them. That's during my days before. I preferred to be with simple individuals who have talents.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
16 Sep 08
[i]Hi Bebs,
those are the qualities I love also but in my High School days, I haven't tried dating alone..LOL! it was always a group date so it's always fun! LOL! But, like you I admire more guys who are leaders and can lead conversation![/i]
@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
16 Sep 08
Well, it didn't really matter to me if my date had a car or not when I was younger. I spent my high school and 3 years of college in a country where there is always public transportation. I had this crush on this guy during my junior year in high school and we ended up spending a short time together. He had a car and he and his driver picked me up from my house a few times, that was fun but then he ended up breaking my heart for actually liking one of my closest friends instead. Lol.
Though I must say that having a car was a plus, you get to go places and such without having to plan at all. There's that sense of freedom.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
18 Sep 08
[i]Hi Anne,
you're right about it..It's a plus really but not a good point for a girl to place this on top of her list for liking the guy!LOL!
ANyway, that was painful for you but I know it has a reason and for sure, you're thankful also that you know how shallow his feelings for you and I am sure, the reason is that someone who is real is waiting for you and maybe you have him NOw!.Cheers![/i]