how are you doing ?

When I ask someone how they are doing, I really do want to know how things are going for them. But I think it is very easy to get into the "fine, fine" syndrome. When someone asks us this question, we simply answer with "fine, fine" rather than telling them the truth. It is an easy way to not get into a full conversation with a person.

Awww poor lil walk. Have you got some panadol, lemon juice with garlic and honey and a warm blanky? I would give you a massage and tuck you in if I could. Don't you hate it when someone says "How 're ya going?" and you tell them and you get a blank look. I think people don't really mean it. It's more of a greeting here than a question. If they say "How are you feeling?" that's permission to tell the truth...otherwise you're supposed to say "fine" or "good thanks" or "great!...You?" Feel better soon...ok?

Sorry to hear that you are not feeling well at the time of this posting. It is true that most of the people who will ask this question are just asking it, and not really matter how a person is really feeling. I work with someone who is like this who always asks and never really has much to say if you respond with anything other than OK, or not bad, etc. Sometimes I think that person might be asking just to hear their own voice. Right now, I am feeling stressed, and trying to keep everything together in my life so it does not cause other problems as well. I have been where you are at twice this yr. with a sore throat, cold, etc. and it is not Fun. Even ended up missing a lot of work once from it as well. I hope this finds you feeling more yourself as well.

Walk... I never say that to a stranger cause i know they will never stick around to find out how i am..lol..but boy do they love coming in my store and saying "Hi How are you" as they look around the store like robots trained what to say..so i ignore them and if they need help they can find me..lol.. Hunny How come you aren't getting babied? you should be in bed resting then being here...Please drink lots of water, take your echinacea and rest rest rest Huggles

i will admit that asking how someone is a automatic response to a hello. i work in the healthcare field so i normally ask a way to be nice but i don't really care. i don't normally ask how my friends are because we're friends and if they need to talk they just talk. i mean you are right no one really wants to know how you are anymore.

In some cases,it is really just a form of conversation,but it indicate people's politeness,though sometimes they don't care at all.To us ,it is also a way to show our kindness towards others. IF we don't say it ,or just say nothing when we meet,then that situation will be a little embarrassing,I think.So maybe that is a way to start a conversation between us.

Whenever people ask you, "How are you doing?", they really do not care. They are just asking it for the sake of asking. The right answer to say to most people is "okay" or "I am well". If it is a doctor, you are to be honest about how you are doing of course, but around anyone else, most people just do not want to hear it.

For me I generally care, How ever I do find myself when writing a letter I always ask,"how are You" maybe that is just a habbit.... I am intersted in how people are really feeling as I am a caring person.... You must be feeling terrible you poor thing I do hope you feel better soon... Lots of rest and hot Lemon and Honey drinks will sooth your throat... Get well soon Pinklilly :-)

bonjour iam sorry you are not feeling well i hope you feel better soon?

[i]Hi walk, I am sorry to hear about your situation just take your pills for that and I am sure you will feel better sooN! ANyway, I am frustrated also when I am asked and then when I answered them the real feelings I have, it seems that they are no longer interested to listen, why bother? ANyway, when I asked "how are you" I mean it and I will be very willing to follow up and listen to the answer and when I have no time to talk too, I will just say hello![/i]

I hate being sick and I know how you feel. I do hope that you feel better soon. Drink some warm tea with a dash of honey, then take a warm bath and relax. I do say "how are you doing?" all the time, I guess it's just one of those things that come out automatically. I suppose it depends on who the person is if I really care about how they are doing or not. I know that sounds bad, but for the most I really do mean it and am interested in how people around me are. Feel better soon!

Hi my bestest friend! I really care! I'm sorry that you don't feel well! Actually, I have been sick too! But now it's in my tummy. It started out like yours but never came fully out and then went into a stomach thing. All I know is that I've been sick since Saturday and I cut a shopping trip short so I know that I am sick! When I ask someone "how are you?" I mean it. If they tell me that they aren't feeling well, I am genuinely concerned. I wouldn't ask someone if I didn't care. Oh, just looked at your new pic, nice-don't look sick! Wasn't there a few minutes ago. Now stop that, you're freaking me out. Well, get better quick! Me, gotta run back to el bano!

Every time that somebody asking you"how are you" we are always telling that we are fine.Sometimes i just answered it that way but the reality is i'm not feeling well.It is our nature that we make sure that people seeing us okay and good.

When i ask how my friend been doing i really mean it. Not just for conversation. Its sad to hear that the people over you there doesn't care when they ask how are you doing. Do rest yourself and drink more water so that you can recover from the sick soon and i hope you doing fine over there. Have a nice day ahead. Cheers

When I saw your topic, I can't help but respond to it. Since yesterday, I feel a little chest pain near my heart. I am a little scared because this was the first time I felt this pain. I also feel dizzy, I feel it every time I stand for about two minutes. I am afraid to go to the doctor because I'm afraid to know the findings. I am also afraid of spending too much if the doctor founds out that there is something wrong with me.

It depends! If I kind of start a conversation with a stanger. How are u is just show my regards or something. It is a habit, I guess! In some other country, people will ask "do u have dinner instead" U may get weird to hear that. Why people bother asking your meal? It is another habit! I hope everything will be fine!

you know its sometimes just the jist of conversation but really they just want to get into your buisness your personal life , and its really anyoing and if you dont place input into the conversatino they act as if your disrepecting them by not giving much up on your current situation , like why do you need to know !?! lol its not ur right to know what im doing day by day lol ....

Sometimes I really want to know and others it is really automatic.

It's conversation. I am very very rarely the slightest bit interested in how somebody is, and I get very distressed if ever anyone stops and begins to tell me exactly how they are...

I think people have become habitutual for this kind of word.when anyone ask about me i am telling i am fine without any reason.though i am sick or unhappy.i think if i say that i am not fine that people will think what is he saying???????