Should I live apart from my husband for 8 months?

If you have a good job that you both depend on, I say, stay there. Eight months can be a long time, espeically if you have children (I don't know if you do). If you do that will be hard because all the parenting will be on you for eight months. But at least with technology now a days its easier to stay in touch. You have cell phones, email, even video chat and other ways to use video online. I do understand about it breaking your heart - I've been married for 12 years and I wouldn't want to do it. Especially since he couldn't drive home on the weekends. But I would if I had to.

I know it will be hard to do, but with the job market and economy in the condition it is in, I would definitely recommend you keep the job you have. I am currently looking for a job myself. If you like your job, I don't see the need to quit it for eight months to go live where you husband will be going to school, especially if he will be doing an internship in the town where you are living now. Doing so will only mean that you will end up back in the same town trying to find a job. I say stick it out for the eight months and keep the job you have now. You will end up better in the long run...

Well, practically speaking, it really makes sense for you to stay right where you are. They say that "absence makes the heart grow fonder", but in my opinion, when it comes to husband and wife relationships, it's much better for you to be together all the time. I mean, if I were in your place, I wouldn't want to know and to learn how it is to be away from my hubby. I don't want to get used to living apart from him. I guess if I were in your place, I'd go through the sacrifice of looking for a new job in the other city, and find a new job later on when we return, just to be by his side all the time. It's a sacrifice, but I guess I would do it. I love him, I could make little sacrifices like these, he's worth it. That's just my opinion, though.

That's a tough one. If your job you mentioned is the one for only 4 hrs a week, I'm not concerned that you have to keep that one anyway. Certainly not enough motivation for me to stay somewhere. But, since he will be returning to work in the town you currently live, it makes sense for you to stay. Plus, commuting 10hrs just for a 4hr a week job wouldn't make sense either. I guess it all boils down to how much you like the town you are currently in and if you want to settle and stay there. It will definitely test your relationship, but may also bring you closer, too, in the end. How does he feel about it? There are 2 opinions that matter the most, yours and his. Do you trust him to be faithful? If so, then, go with the flow.

No body can give you the real answer.But all we can do is help.It is mostly up to you's to decide.Whatever is right is right.Do what your heart tells you to do.If I had myself in that situation I would do whatever I could to make it better.I can't really answer your question cus I am not in that situation.But if my husband had to go and I don't have a job I would probably go with him. Then the bills,rent etc would be split and I would find a job in the new place maybe.I am at ends for you though not knowing what to do...lol.Good Luck though:)

I think its just a matter of 8 months.......

My bf and I live in different states. The drive from here to there is about 6 hrs and I do it every 4 weeks. Ive been doing it for 7 months now and in a way I think it's made our relationship stronger. It was a great career move for me and this move has opened so many doors for me. I have in fact just put in my transfer back to where he is. I will be making more money. I do miss him and my family but Im glad I did it. It was worth it. I think he should do it it would also give you guys a little break from each other and you guys will really enjoy your time when you see eachother.

[i]Hi wrld, 8 months is quite long..In my case, I will love to be with my husband and look for another job in the other city where he is moving! That is life and I will be ready with all those changes! ANyway, the last decision will still be up to you, just talk to him and discuss pros and cons about the situation! good Luck![/i]

Well, just to give you a quick breakdown of my situation and maybe it'll help you!! I've been best friends with my husband for over 7 years now and we just got married in February. He is of course a soldier and we live in two different countries. We have not had the time to live with eachother yet, but have spent a couple weeks here and there. We see eachother every few months...the last time we were together was the long weekend in July. The next time will be in November and then he is hopefully gonna be done for awhile come December. The way that we stay strong is we send eachother cards and letters by snail-mail, emails, phone calls (unlimited long distance plan!!) and we catch eachother on the webcam every now and then. It is possible to live apart for awhile and as long as you both love and trust eachother then there shouldn't be any problems. Don't let any temptations get to you either!! Just think of it as a time to grow. You will enjoy the time that you do get with eachother when it happens and you'll become closer to eachother. That is what has happened to my husband and I. Everytime we speak to eachother or see eachother, we are like kids....giddy, playful, caring, loving.......it's as if we keep reliving our first date!!!! We are not a young couple either and I'm not sure how old you are but once you have lived your life and gone through life......you know what you want and are more responsible in the final relationship, so that is why I know that know matter how long we are away from eachother, we will soon be together for the rest of our lives!!! Good luck to the two of you!!!

I say once the internship is over, everything would fall into place and you would not have to worry about being apart. This could only make your marriage stronger because absence makes the heart grow fonder. It is tough to be away from the ones we love and I know this won't be easy for you. I think if this is something he really wants, and you support him, then things should be okay.

It's hard to be apart from a husband and a best friend but this is a sacrifice you both need to make. 8 month is really not that long. after all, what he would be doing is for him and for you. besides internship will be in your town too and he doesn't have to be away again for that. it is also hard to be leaving your job which would also lead to another challenge of getting a job to where your hubby will be staying for 8 months. if he'd be away for 8 months, you can still instantly connect with each other thru emails, phones, and chats. you can also both agree to meet twice or thrice a month if your scheds would allow you to. This is really another life's challenge on your part and needs to think hard on it for your choice. Goodluck to whatever choice you gotta make.

i know you are love your husband, just like i love my boyfriend. we don't want to live apart. if this really happened, usually, in china, i will choose to leave him for 8 moths although i can't bare the apart. because he is to do sth that is very necessary, and i'm impossible to follow him, i have to think much for our future job. but you can ask for your husband's advice. if he agrees you to follow you, you should be proud, your husband loves your very much, so that he can't leave you. i advise you go together. job can be found again.

Well, you could look at it this way even if it sounds a bit harsh, but I've heard from some err... movies xD it works. It's kinda like separating, and trying to see how it would be your lives without each other, many things could happen, but I definitely think that everything will result in positive things =). Like when you meet again your gonna love each other even more and etc... xD sorry just not so good talking about this stuff but hey , its my two cents. I don't think it's a bad idea, it could even strengthen your relationship. Although it sucks to be so far away from your husband =(.

My mom's best advice "Stick together. It's got to be you and him against the world"! Don't know how that will work for you but your relationship should come before ANYTHING else.

wrldnharmony hi you would hate it after the second month, no better to uproot and find a new job,maybe your old employer can help you out, may be even have something else to hire you back after the 8 months, but go with your husband or you will really regret it, as you need to be with him. you know you are torn so find a way to go with him and then come back later, it can be done as others have done it. Its easier for women to fine jobs than men really.