I don't enjoy life
@tmskinnyminny (13)
United States
September 16, 2008 4:56am CST
I don't enjoy my life any more! All I do is go to work. I come home and to fight to
get help with the house chores and and get dinner done. There is 5 of us in this house.
My husband is usually gone all the time. He will not help around the house. He says he
don't make the mess, so he is not going to help clean it up. I believe that is why it
is so hard for me to get the boys to help. What should I do?
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3 responses
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
16 Sep 08
Maybe you should go on a short break to let your husband know that he should value you more. I suggest visiting friends or family for a few days. You could take your children with you. I think that you should reward your boys when they help you. You could do clutter clearing in your house to make it easier to clean. I suggest each of your boys has two boxes of toys and they must put all their toys away into one of the boxes otherwise the toy will be sent to charity. That would encourage your boys not to leave toys on the floor once you they have gone to bed. If your husband works outside the home you work in the home. Marriage is a partnership and so you could try build your husband up to doing some light household duties like make the bed, open the curtains and sweep the floor. You could even say that you are thinking of getting a job because you are so fed up with being treated like a maid rather than a wife. Good luck.
@tmskinnyminny (13)
• United States
18 Sep 08
Those are really great ideas, but two of my children are in there teen years. It is just the daily chores that need to be done. Like take out the trash, sweeping, and laundry. My husband and I both work outside the home. He refuses to do anything around the house. He won't even fix things that needs to be fixed. He don't act like we have a parnership at all! He does what he wants to and I do what I have to. I have to take on all the responsibilties around the house too. The boys are starting to be like him. Dad don't do any thing why should I! I try not to let it get to me, but some times I just get sick of it all!
@khatri_50 (225)
• India
16 Sep 08
I donot agree to u my dear friend because i am also in the same position
because my husband have a shop and reaches the home very late but i never
think that i am not enjoying the the life .i take the help of son and i
have make my wroth enjoying . a woman has to compromise according to time.
never compliant agaist the life because the life is a work . be happy
with lot . GOD will help u.
@sunita64 (6469)
• India
16 Sep 08
When you are not enjoying chores then it is better to make it enjoyable, for example I do not like ironing clothes and at times they become one heap of clothes, then I do one thing put on loud music and start ironing the clothes and believe me in no time work is over and it does not look like a burden. To involve your sons in it is to first enjoy yourselves then only they will think it is worth doing. Try some reward system for the work.
