is it bad that i still like him?
By flance101
@flance101 (137)
Philippines
September 16, 2008 6:27am CST
my last post here was about me and my friend liking the same guy. though between the two of us, the guy shows interest in me, i gave way. my friend knew from the start that i like the guy, but its not her fault for liking him too. and i dont want her to get hurt because of me. so im giving way.
however, deep inside me, i still like the guy. i still cant help but smile when he talks to me. knowing that he's feeling the same way makes me happy. but guilty because i feel like im betraying my friend, indirectly.
have you been into this situation? is there something that i can do? i really dont want to hurt my friend..
4 responses
@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
19 Sep 08
Well, it isn't your fault also if you like the guy.. You and your friend don't have fault if both of you like the same guy.. I'm so impressed that you will give way for your friend no matter how much you like the guy..I don't see that you are betraying your friend just because you like the guy unless you know it first before you know that you also like him.. Well, it is not you who'll decide whether which one of you should be right for the guy... It is the guy who will choose if who's own his heart.. No matter how you give way for your friend but if the guy likes you too then you can't continue giving way for your friend since you can't command the heart of the guy to like your friend.. I hope I didn't offend you.. 
@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
19 Sep 08
By the way, I haven't experienced same experienced as you.. Actually, she is just only my classmate but we never become friend.. It was in my first year college when it happens (that was 4 years ago).. Aside she is my classmate in some of my subject, she is also my groupmate in one of the organizations in our school.. So, I can't deny that I know who is his crush.. Then one time, there was an event in our organization and we have an outing.. Her crush was there in the outing since this guy friends was also our groupmates.. Anyways, I met this guy very well in this outing.. For the entire over nights or outing we were together talking and having fun swimming.. I didn't realized that there was someone who's mad at me and I'm already hurting her.. Actually, I really forgot that the guy I'm having fun with was the guy that she liked.. So, after that she never talked to me and when were in the classroom she was shouting that there was in the class who was a traitor.. Of course, I was hurt and confront her about that guy.. Then luckily she stopped hating me.. But still we never become friend.. Actually, the guy I'm talking is already my boyfriend.. Because of that outing we become very close and I fell in love with him since he is so nice and very sincere person.. 
@flance101 (137)
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
well, my situation is like this, i was the first one to met him, then i introduced him to my friend. my friend, knowing that i admire the guy, eventually learned to like him too. im not mad or anything because she's my friend, and its not her fault to have a crush on him. :)
well, its true that no matter what i say and do, it is gonna be the guy to decide. but im kinda scared. what if he chooses me? surely my friend will get hurt. i scared that she'll stop being my friend.
thanks for the reply, i appreciate it.. :)
@coolkeeva (38)
• India
17 Sep 08
these type of situations are very crappy, because there will be at least one person who will be the one to suffer and to endure the pain.
i believe that the thing which you did is really great and it does require a lot of courage to do such a thing. and for this i really appreciate you. and i really respect you since you sacrificed your love to save your friendship.
but its also not like this that- "since my friend likes Eiffel tower then i have to quit liking it because my friend likes it."
no one can change and neither can you hide your feelings from him.
at the end of the day it all comes to the fact that its not only you but also with the guy and and with whom he will b staying happy. because its neither yours nor only your friends decision to make. it should be the decision of yours along with 'him'
i guess you should give it one sound mind thought because at the end of the day its gonna decide not only yours but his future too. and i guess that if you truly love him then you are going to take the decision which will make him happy.
wish you all the best.
@flance101 (137)
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
hi! well, as a matter of fact, i just kinda like the guy. im not inlove with him, well, yet. what we have is some sort of a mutual understanding. so im not giving the situation much thought. its just that i kinda feel guilty, since i have given way for my friend, and yet i still like him.
thanks for the reply. :)
@nengs10 (3180)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
It's never bad at all to like someone. I actually admire you since you let go the guy for him to be with your friend. I would say that it's such a sad recourse of things. Anyway, just have faith in yourself and these things will just pass like the wind later on.
@flance101 (137)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
yeah, thats what i thought at first. my problem is that we have a communication everyday. he is my coworker, and my manager. as his assistant, we have to be in contact everyday. well, it makes things a little harder, but i cant quit my job just for something like this. :)
@flance101 (137)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
yeah, i know yo have a point there. its just that i dont want my friend to get hurt. well, at least i can continue liking him secretly. :) haha..
