Is my friendship really taken for granted? Should i disown my friends?

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If you were in my shoes what would you do? I'm soemone who has a very big heart & with my very big heart I'm someone who'd make sure my friends are all home safe and sound when they've had a night out even though i hadn't gone out withthem, make sure my brothers take their medication on time when they're sick and ask them if they need any help with anything. send a basket of fruit and juice with a get well soon card to my friends when they're sick and visit a few that end up in hospital. when my friends have a break down,run into a problem, fall a million pieces and need help picking up the pieces, I'm the very first person that seams to come to their mind everytime as they know i'm always a call away, a text message away. even if its as early as 2 in the morning or sometimes they turn up on my door step and ask to stay the night. I turn to help everyone from my family to friends to eveb a stranger in need of help. But many a times I'm being told by my brothers and my parents that its time to put my foot down and sometimes say no, don't let my friends always run to me for their needs, comfort and help! When my friends have problems, i turn to see them a lot more often and get calls from them almost every 3-4 times aday. They're always around the house for comfort even stay over until they feel better to go back home but what makes me angry is that when they're in good times and problem free, i don't know them, they're hanging around with their friends they call friends. they don't even pay a courtesy to drop by at my place and say hello or call up and say hello and if i do give them a call, I'm always getting the same, ow i'm busy, ow i've gotta go, ow i'm in a hurry, ow i had a big night out so i need to get some good rest, I'll call you later and later is the day when they turn to buy another set of problems and need someone to hear them out! Emails are sometimes not replied or text messages get replied after 3 or 4 days with the usually, sorry i fogot to reply i was with so and so.... Sometimes i just hate to answer their calls or pretend i''m not home but then i feel this very bad feeling deep down that i'm not helping them in anyway if i don't answer their call or pretend not to be home. And if something bad was to happen that i'll feel bad and guily for the rest of my life that i never made an atempt to help. I turn to tell them many a times that they take my friendship for granted and turn to ask them... out of the many friends that you call friends, our of the many friends that you hang out with, the friends that you call your bosom buddies, the ones that you see everyday, the friends that you drink and party out with, the friends that you spend all your good and happy times with. How many of those friends let you into their house, sat the night with you, lend an ear to hear your problems, how many when they were too busy spared or made time to hear you out, gave you their hearts, put an arm around you when you needed it the most, which of them made know to you that you had a friend that cared.... Sometimes i hate myself for helping my friends. But then i feel bad if i don't! Should i change my numbers and tell them not to come around more often when they have problems and come more often when they're problem free so i'd apriciated their friendship and not feel like the friend they run to for help! I don't know how i should confront them or should i just not bother the next time they need help or turn them away the next time they arive on my door step tell them i'm sorry but this isn't a comfort resort.... I'm just kinda lost... I guess i'm tired of being Charity! Charity's my name and i'd love it to just be my name and not who i am.....