Do you get jealous?
By cjfoust
@cjfoust (614)
United States
September 16, 2008 7:55pm CST
Maybe I'm going overboard, but I was just wondering how many of you feel or have felt jealous before over a boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife. Recently my husband and I attended a viewing for one of his good friends that passed away. While there, one of his friends that he went to school with ran into us. I don't know the boy that well. My husband and I have been together for the past 7 years, married for the past 4. This "friend" had the nerve to mention "By the way, your friend ____ is pregnant now". After we left, I asked him who this "friend" was and he informed me that it was an old girlfriend.
First I want to know why the boy felt the need to even bring that up - one at a funeral and two with me standing right there. I have no desire whatsoever to hear about my husbands past relationships and definately could care less what they are doing now.
Am I crazy for feeling this way? Has anyone else been in this situation before? What did you think or do?
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4 responses
@chabawel (329)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
The question is, why did it bother you? If you don't have the desire to learn about your husband's past, then why a simple "manly talk" affected you?
If you dwell more on to this, then there is insecurity building up that you're not noticing. Talk to your husband about your feelings but ask yourself first what he can to do make your negative feeling go away. It will not help you and your husband if you say all these negative feelings and don't have a solution for it.
This is not really jealousy. How can you be jealous over someone whom your husband didn't marry. It's you whom he married to. It's you who bears his name. And the girl was not even at the party.
Probably you felt unwanted because you're not the one being the topic of your husband and his friend's conversation.
Think about it.
@worldbestwriter2008 (1633)
• Philippines
20 Sep 08
You just love your husband too much. If you don't love your husband then, you might not feeling jealous at all. cjfoust this is just a normal feeling. Don't worry too much.
@sweetbabyjane (1929)
• United States
17 Sep 08
I used to be so jealous and would get so angry and about to explode the way women that my boyfried knew treated him. They would talk to him right in front of me about things that I knew nothing about. I thought that was a rude thing to do. You are not crazy? I would have felt the same way you did
@simply_complex (45)
• United States
17 Sep 08
If both of them were good friends with his ex, it's just friendly news. Don't pay it any mind.
