would you ever forgive someone you love if they cheated on you?

for me i will feel betrayed but that person and it will be hard to forgive him how about you? what will you feel?

I have to admit that I have done it in the past; it's hard, because usually when someone really hurts you that badly, it's someone you really care about. The situation was very complicated, but in the end I did forgive this person. We did continue to date for a little longer, before realizing that we just were not meant to be anymore. We remain pretty good friends; she's admitted that it was a bad mistake and apologized. I have forgiven, but I have not forgotten. It's always something that sticks with me, in terms of experience anyways.

As a wife and a mother, I still think about infidelity, I have this "what if's" questions in my mind in my marriage... So far, in our three years together, I don't have any headaches about infidelity, I wish that, if my husband is doing that thing,( hope not!) I rather not know about it..because I really don't know what to do.. :( I always pray that our vows be blessed forever.

i am currently handling an open relation of my husband with his colleague. i have forgiven him for what he has done and what he has bee doing all these years. but the fact that he DITCHED ME is tremondously unforgettable and is pinching my heart and mind. i am getting along cos my son should not have its impact of it. i really do not hw long i can jsut go on like this. but i know my quiteness is a calm before a storm. and what the future storm is going to be like i wonder!

Well i would be fairly mad about it and he'd have to go. If i loved the person they'd still have to go because id never be able to trust them again and if the person they cheated on me with was someone in my family or even close to my family id never trust them againa nd wouldnt have anything to do with them either. I know they say blood is thicker than water but there is times when it dont even matter. And id have to say that would be one of them times they was both in the wrong and the knew better to begin with and they still done it anyway so they could have each other and not bother with me anymore.

Don't deal with it. Don't waste your time with someone like that.

First, have you proved that your love one is having an affair? Did you caught him/her in the act? Or did your love one admitted his/her infidelity? There's a lot of ways you can deal with this dilemma. It's up to you, really, how strong you are emotionally, mentally, psychologically and spiritually. If your love one chose to mend his/her ways and start a new beginning with you by closing that bitter chapter of your lives, then help yourself to move on by accepting of what happened. Blaming each other can't help the situation. It will make things worst for both of you because no one will admit whose at fault and why it happened. It's better to accept what things are and help each other find ways to make things better in your marriage. It's not an easy road. Nothing can erase the memories of unwanted third party in your marriage. But you can make new memories with your love one if you want to move on in your life. If the love you share with your husband/wife is not that deep to sustain you both, then, you need to seek a counselor's help. From a church or another elder in your family who is not biased to take sides from either one of you. This way, some light will be shed of how you can build your marriage more stronger and deeper. There's a lot of resources in the internet on how to cope up INFIDELITY and how to accept your love one again in your life. The most important thing in this moving on is, your willing to do it. No one knows how you want this marriage to work or not, but it's really up to you-the VICTIM of the spouse's lies and selfish act-whether you want to make things work between your spouse or not. Good luck.