arrange marriage vs. love marriage
By lalu21
@lalu21 (16)
India
November 6, 2006 3:37am CST
now a days love marriage is increasing in india....
but i think that arrange marriage is the best one...
because if ur parents are not ready to permit u to marrige to whom u love....then those who run away from home for marriage
and cut out ralationship with family they are very sick...
and they have no right to do this...
12 responses
@mere2180 (70)
• United States
28 Nov 06
If i went with an arranged marriage. i prolly wouldn't be happy. Its my belief to find somebody whom you will spend the rest of your life with. But thats my culture. Your culture is different and arranged marriages are common. I would go with what your parents approve of because in your culture disobeying your parents is a no no
@cnlrjr1010 (108)
• United States
28 Nov 06
I'm sorry but I have to disagree with you. I think you have every right to be independent and fall in love with a person of your choice. Arranged marriages are very old fashioned. I think marriage should be a happy union where two people agree to marry each other, it shouldn't be forced. I remember watching on the news that an Indian woman who lived in Canada was killed by her uncle because she refused to marry a man her family picked and she married the man she truly loved. Today, she is gone and her husband is in jail in India because he was falsely accused of killing her. It was one of the saddest stories I have heard.
@tiibbaamm (613)
• Indonesia
6 Nov 06
for me, i rather go through love marriage than arranged.if my parents doesn't approve with the person i'm seeing,it means that i have to wait untill they approve.if they still won't approve,then it is time for me to find another person.maybe my parents could see something that i couldn't,you know what they say..love is blind. without my parents approval,i don't have the guts to disobey them.
@euniceeleanor (5966)
• Singapore
6 Nov 06
i will go for love marriage anytime!! I find it kind of weird to let my parents choose my future husband for me, would he be the right one? do I like that type? Marriage is suppose to be everlasting union and should be with the person whom you chose by yourself, never by others.
@caribe (2465)
• United States
28 Nov 06
I would go with the love marriage, but I am from another culture and culture is an important part of who you are. Only you can make that decision of marrying for love or for your parents happiness.
@neeraj07 (577)
• India
6 Nov 06
Its gives me a sick feeling that still in this 21st century you are so narrow minded and how could you decide that people who opt out for a love marriage have no right to this. Its really a pity that in this developing world still u have
thoughts that are more suited to the 17th century.
Coming on the issue, I believe if the couple love each other and have faith on their partners, then it doesn't matter whether is a love or arranged marriage.
@lalu21 (16)
• India
6 Nov 06
my parents doesn't approve with the person i'm seeing,it means that i have to wait untill they approve.if they still won't approve,then it is time for me to find another person.maybe my parents could see something that i couldn't,you know what they say..love is blind. without my parents approval,i don't have the guts to disobey them....
i think it's the greast response....
u think that u r modern boy of 21st century.....
but u forget that u r indian...
u r ready to brekup relaton with them those make u able to do this discussion...on ur computer..they take care of u for 22 years and u just break the relation with them for a person whom u know from last few months....now it's up to u to map the relation of 22 years is better or one year..but don't talk abt 21 century...we must not forget our culture..
@dumbpenguin (418)
• Indonesia
6 Nov 06
i think arrange marriage is so old fashion
i think ppl should decide whom they're gonna marry by themselves,not by their parents
