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Yes its hard to mend a broken heart... but it can. for me what i did personally is to date someone else pamper yourself keep yourself busy is he really that attractive that's why your not over him?

Happy you are mending and glad you are my friend! How do i move..with prunes..lol..sorry about that

Well, it all depends on the situation. Sometimes some people will never get over it, and refuse to ever talk with the person again. I know in one instance in my life or two, there were some like this. But over all, the Best advice I could offer someone going thru this, is to learn to forgive the person you are upset with, and move on. If they choose not to ever want to have anything to do with you from there, you are probably better off anyways. Just my thoughts.

I think it takes a life time, it will get eaiser but you will always remember. you will find someone else and as garth brooks says thank god for unanswered prayers. maybe it was not ment to be, and maybe in a while things will mend, you just never know. good luck and im glad you are doing well with it all.

I recently went through a break up with my partner of 6 years. It really was one of the most horrible things that I have ever gone through. This happened in May and its October now. I found that the only way for me to get through was to surround myself with great people. Friends and family. In the proscess I found a new best friend. He was there every second. I could call him at three in the morning crying and he would comfort me until I fell back asleep. I could not ask for anything more. And now that I am healing, its amazing to me that he is still there, and rather interested in me. Breakups take time to get over. I myself am just starting to accept that I will not be with my ex again, and when the time is right I will move on. I know that you will too.

I really do not know how long it takes. I mean I must have had my heart broken at some point but I can never really recall taking that long to get over anything. I have this thing where I just brood about it for a while and then I gather it all together and stick it in a box in my head and forget it, refuse to think about it consider it or anything. I know that I have been doing that since being about 18 so it is just a habit, the only downside of it is that I do not many memories of things!

focus on somthing are someone else to rid yourself of pain is going to take time. don,t let this destroy you,sometime loves hurt sometime the person you love the most hurt us the most.pray and ask god to help you with this pain so you want become resentful toward the next person that come in your life.simple let it go and just move on you can,t change what has happen. don,t jump into another relationship until you are sure you are ready and have healed from this pain.

If you choose to mend your broken heart then it will in time. But if you choose to further dwell on pain, the broken heart will remain broken for the rest of your life. We should make a decision. And works toward that decision. To materialize it.

Once I was hurt very badly and I thought I would never love again. Time heals, but it took me a lot of time to mend my broken heart. I thought that I could never trust to anybody again. Luckily I was wrong. And I also heard that to mend your broken heart and to forget everything takes 2 years. Well it took me almost so.

Hi Tessa, Sorry to hear that you are going through all this hurt and pain right now. I don't think it ever really goes away there is usually a dull ache and a trigger than can set it off but not so frequently or painfully as time goes on. It is lovely to know that there are still people that love and care and are helping support you and get back up from this. How do I move on? Usually spend some time doing an escape and invasion exercise by not admitting I am hurt, then crumble for a while and want the world to go away, go into a cleaning frenzy and when absolutely shattered by it all am ready to face the world again a step at a time. I guess it is different for everyone as some people don't even allow themselves to go through any hurt and just blank it all and hold insed instead of realising. I would much rather get it all out by rabting, crying, getting drunk, listening to sad songs whatever I feel like at that moment in time. Huggles. Ellie :D

Well... the first time I split with somebody I was still young, and I think I told my mom my life was ruined and I was NEVER going to feel better lol. As I know now from experience, that was just short term. I think you always remember the loves in your life, the ones you enjoyed, the ones you lost, and time helps to filter what you remember. I remember the good times, not the times when my heart got broken severely. I think one of the best ways to get on with life is to take a good hard look at yourself. If the person you were in a relationship with ever put you down or made you believe you were less than you are, let that GO. Don't believe ANYBODY who makes mean, nasty, or derogatory comments about you. I know it's not a ton of fun being alone after a long relationship, especially if you thought it was going to last, but what they want (if they perpetuated the breakup) is to leave you broken, sad, and unable to pick up the pieces. The best revenge is not to be that way. Plus there's a lot of fun things you can do on your own - think of all the things that you weren't able to do as part of a couple because he or she wasn't interested or didn't like something you really did so you never got to do it together. I never underestimate the presence of a few very good close friends during a crisis in life, because sometimes they mean the difference between survival at all or something much worse. I also believe people are very very adaptable and much stronger than most believe - until tested. When something is very hard, I shorten my horizon too... just one step at a time. Then after a little bit of time I can be amazed at how many steps I took looking back.

Oh my, a broken heart, that's by far the worse mix of feelings one can experience =(. I share your pain, it has happened to me a couple of times. I usually just stayed in bed staring at the ceiling xD, remembering all the good times. But... really, time is the only thing that can heal you. Although a scar will always stay, time is the one that will fix your heart. There's, obviously your friends and family, and all the people that care for you. Those are the ones that you know that will love you unconditionally, they are your shoulder to cry on... heck, I feel a bit melancholic right now xD! Well, just remember, there's always someone out there that is worth waiting for. Just do something to keep your mind off thinking about it. Bye bye and good luck =)!

Hey Tessah, et al! I think you captured my view on it, when you point out how it has happened before and you survived that and will survive this too. That is what I remind myself of anytime I feel too down for words. Have I been in that place before, YES-- did it last forever-- Nope. You pick yourself up, shake it off and move on-- with prunes if need be! I remember days where everything reminded me of him and I'd cry at the drop of a hat, I felt betrayed, disrespected, and all those things. Then I had to take a step back and remind myself of times where I was the one in the wrong, where I was less than loyal, imperfect, preoccupied, in some other relationship where I could have done much better, where I hurt somebody. So I guess I got paid back, lol. Now the score is even, so hopefully next time around, if there even is one, that I will be older, wiser, kinder and so will they! (I've opted to focus on making it as a single parent, less complicated and I'm getting used to having the toilet seat STAY PUT! I'm open to meeting people, but I've sort of gotten used to this now. The only place I feel really needy is doing without that second income-- and, okay truth be known, when it rains or snows out, for some reason that makes me wish there was that special someone in life= I'm NOT convinced that doesn't have something to do with the potential need to patch a roof, or do a lot of shoveling though-- 8 ) Millionmalls

It really depends on how your heart was broken. If she/he was a b*tch, it shouldn't take long to mend. If your relationship didn't work out even though you felt a strong bond, it takes a while. Find something to do that'll keep your mind off of it. Spend more time with your friends. Go out clubbing. Just have a good time. Relax. If you really can't stop thinking about it, talk to your closest friend(s) about it. Sometimes it helps to let things out.