Some people have a happy face even amidst lot of problems ......?
By sumiirajj
@sumiirajj (1983)
India
September 17, 2008 12:06am CST
Hi friends,How is it possible that some people are happy even though they have lot of problems?I can never concenterate on anything when I have problems.I even lose the sense of thinking anything when I have problems.I cant even think and take a right decision when I get problems.But some people they have same thinking capacity and remain happy even amidst problems.how is it possible?What is your mental state when you have problems?
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@Gizmo6177 (77)
• Canada
17 Sep 08
Whenever I have problems, which is quite often due to the stuff that I'm dealing with in the last couple years, I am able to keep a pretty good, positive attitude and usually I'm good at hiding it so that others don't notice. I usually just take a deep breath, think of something positive and/or think of somebody that has it worse than me and that usually helps me to keep my mind in check. Those that are close to me and I mean really close can sometimes tell if I have problems but I can usally hide it from them pretty good too. I just keep reminding myself to smile and even laugh about it and it helps me to get through any problems.
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@Gizmo6177 (77)
• Canada
18 Sep 08
It took me a long time to get that way. Something changed me a long time ago and from then on I started to look at things more positively instead of negatively. I learned that even if things are bad and not going so well, smile and think of it as a learning curve. The more positive you can be, the better off you'll be and you will notice that things aren't all that bad!! Remember that someone else out that has it worse than you.....and that's too bad, but keep the smile and it helps to bring light into the situation that you may find difficult to deal with. Once you got the hang of it......you'll be a pro!!!!
@sumiirajj (1983)
• India
18 Sep 08
Hi friend,Very positive attitude you have.Not everyone get this kind of attitude.thanks for sharing.happy mylotting.![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@sassyangelee (340)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
There are lots of reason as to why some people tend to hide their feelings and put on a happy mask. Although most people are more transparent when they are unhappy. There are lots to consider why people react in such state.
I am the type of a person that could conceal my feelings and put on a smile to protect myself from hurting. There are reasons why people like me, has to stand up and take a stride. Problems is always hard when you are loosing the fight. But it is my own battle, and i don't wish anyone to see me in such situation.
I rather be remembered as a person that everyone can lean on. A person that makes everyone smile. A person that is strong despite all the hardship in life. Being able to share your burden from your love ones helps. I usually pray for God's guidance. It really helps me a lot and i find peace afterwards.
Happy mylotting sumiirajj. Wonderful post. Cheers!
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@sumiirajj (1983)
• India
19 Sep 08
Hi friend,I appreciate yout attitude towards life.I liked the words,"I rather be remembered as a person that everyone can lean on"
.This attitude must have won many loving hearts.If I had such a stron person to lean on I would feel like living in heaven even amidst all problems.thanks for sharing.happy mylotting.![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@mentalward (14690)
• United States
18 Sep 08
When at all possible, I will try to be happy. Sometimes, a situation will not be any better or worse if you are upset or happy, so I choose to be happy.
Some problems are so bad or overwhelming that it is hard to be happy, no matter what. That's when you need to deal with the problem and put it behind you as soon as you can. But if the problem is something like your car breaking down, you obviously know what you need to do... get it fixed. But, will that car be any better if you are upset? No. Even if you don't have the money to get it fixed right away, you will still need to find alternative transporation. Being happy will help you in that I fully believe that good attitudes bring about good results. Not all the time, but if I saw a happy person coming up to me and asking for help, I'd be more inclined to help them than if they were upset, angry, frustrated or anything else negative.
Sometimes, all it takes is a positive attitude to bring about positive results.
If you lose someone you love it can certainly hurt very badly. What you need to do in a situation like that is to find anything you can that will make you happy, no matter how small or how short it lasts. Even one small, genuine smile a day is better than no smile at all, right?
@sumiirajj (1983)
• India
18 Sep 08
Hi friend,very practical and useful advice.I really appreciate your attitude towards life and remember your advice when facing problems.thanks for sharing.happy mylotting.![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@iyah10 (4115)
• Kuwait
18 Sep 08
I am one of the people that I only have to forget my problems in where they are located I mean if I am in my working place for example then I do not mind of those problems at all i leave it in the office if it is regarding about my work and if it is my family problem i only talked with an open heart with the person concern and this is the life it might be harsh sometimes but at least you need to go on with it and wear a smile and for sure that those problem of yours would just be gone without knowing it ....![](/Content/images/emotes/lol.gif)
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@sumiirajj (1983)
• India
19 Sep 08
Hi friend,Nice attitude to forget things in a work place.thanks for sharing.happy mylotting.![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@sidwell1986 (160)
• India
18 Sep 08
Well those are the kind of people who feel that,if by them keeping a smile on their face,can put a smile on another person's face,then they will be very happy.Those people have a very positive attitude,they do not waste time pondering over,what has been lost,or the problems that have arrived,instead they try to solve those problems by keeping an open mind,and being happy.And as it is said "Dont Worry,Be Happy"
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@sumiirajj (1983)
• India
18 Sep 08
Hi friend,You are right,not everyone get that attitude towards life.thanks for sharing.happy mylotting.![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@Thomboishgurl (7)
• United States
18 Sep 08
Every cloud has a silver lining. I know that sounds cliche but I feel that it's true. When I'm faced with a difficult situation I try to find the positive side of it and play off of that. I also think that positive thinking generates positive energy which is a very helpful tool when dealing with problems. It's a challenge but try to find the positive side of every situation. That will help you keep a smile on your face.
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@sumiirajj (1983)
• India
19 Sep 08
Hi friend,thanks for your valuable advice,You have very nice attitude towards life.thanks for sharing.happy mylotting.![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@sang2k2 (1833)
• India
17 Sep 08
even i am like you and i generally loose my mental balance loose my peace of mind.i even tend to commit mistakes after getting upset or feeling low. and can never smile with anybody..i juz hate this..i woudnt mind my not smiling but this affecting my mental balance is sumthing which really hurts me a lot.i juz feel very loose and scattered. i cant handle my problems very well, even after praying to god i feel helpless and left out and lonely..
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@sumiirajj (1983)
• India
18 Sep 08
Hi friend,I thought only I have this attitude,but many are like us.We shall learn to be brave.thanks for sharing.happy mylotting.![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@izathewzia (5134)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
My mom told me never to show your problem on your face. You should always look bright and happy. So life will be easy to live for you. And you affect the people around you positively.
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@sumiirajj (1983)
• India
18 Sep 08
Hi friend,your moms attitude towards life is right one and she says as shes an experienced person.thanks for sharing.happy mylotting.![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@mychattime (1013)
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18 Sep 08
Hi, I must admit I'm one of those people that remains happy throughout problems, its a front as really inside I am worried, I've had several problems lately but I have a son so try and put on a show for his benefit, the same when I was working, my personal life stayed at home (as hard as it was!) I might be smiling when I have a problem but it doesn't always mean I am happy, if that makes sense!!
@sumiirajj (1983)
• India
19 Sep 08
Hi friend,There can never be a person in this world without problems.Each and everyone has problems may be the intensity differs.But you are gifted as you couldwear a smile atleast.I would become depressed and sit in a corner.thanks for sharing.happy mylotting.![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@vicky30 (4766)
• India
18 Sep 08
The people who remain happy after problems is because people know problems just last for a moment.After some days the problems vanish away.Thats the hope they have in their hearts.When i face problems,for the moment i remain sad.
when a solution comes to the problem i become happy.![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
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@sumiirajj (1983)
• India
18 Sep 08
Hi friend,yes its true that problems vanish in no time.but when we face problems we dont think of that and we only fear and get tensed.thanks for sharing.happy mylotting.![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
17 Sep 08
There are some people that could hide their emotion, but there are some people that couldn't. People that have the ability to hide their emotion usually looked more stable and sometimes they can just separate their life, the business life, the personal life and the love life. People like that usually able to overcome their problems without mixing their feeling so that they could still look happy when they actually have some problem in some areas.
Or... they are just pretending happy. I know some people that able to look happy every day, but in the night they're crying because they really don't know what to do. This is dangerous because they're forcing themselves too hard and that could be a depression if they are not able to overcome the problem real soon.
@sumiirajj (1983)
• India
17 Sep 08
Hi friend,yes its true and impossible to remain truely happy.However stable they are they have to worry sometime or other.howmuch ever we try to be happy in the inner mind we would certainly feel.thanks for sharing.happy mylotting.![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@lavender84 (8)
• China
18 Sep 08
life is difficult. i will not pretend to be happy when i'm really sad,my expression
will tell people whether i'm happy or not. you will feel more sad if you pretend to smile to others.
@candymarie (1368)
• Canada
18 Sep 08
It depends on what type of problem I have I guess. But I've worked in many jobs where I have to leave the emotional baggage at the door before I start the day.
Big example : When I worked at cancer clinic.
You might as well smile to also get a smile from them.
@sumiirajj (1983)
• India
19 Sep 08
Hi friend,I do agree with you,there are such situations when we must wear a smile,forgetting our problems.thanks for sharing.happy mylotting.![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@bestboy19 (5478)
• United States
18 Sep 08
I don't really have that many problems. I do have disappointments at times. I'm able to handle them because I know that God is with me and therefore, I know everything will turn out for my good.
@sumiirajj (1983)
• India
19 Sep 08
Hi friend,You are too lucky then not to have problems.Thats because you have good attitude.thanks for sharing.happy mylotting.![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
17 Sep 08
I think the difference is how you look at life. Many people have faith and know that among all of those problems is a solution and it is just a matter of finding that perfect solution. Others just know how to hide the fear and anxiety they feel when the world seems to be falling down around them. I can do it fairly well at times while at other times I just wear my heart on my sleeve and everyone knows something is wrong. I guess the saying, "If it doesn't kill us it makes us stronger" keeps me going many days. I haven't had an easy life and this past year has almost been unbearable but I can't wait to see how I emerge a stronger and better person because of it.
@sumiirajj (1983)
• India
18 Sep 08
Hi friend,Its true that experiences make you more stronger.Everyone facing some problem or other in life always.So we have to learn to keep cool.thanks for sharing.happy mylotting.![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@Ithink (9980)
• United States
18 Sep 08
With me I used to get all depressed and then I would think this isnt helping anything. It isnt fixing the problem(s) and it is just making everyone miserable and all I can do with any problem in life is do the best that I am capable of. I am at this moment under so much stress and I still can find the humour in things and just try the best I can.
What does it really accomplish except to make yourself miserable and those around you to be depressed about things all the time?
@sumiirajj (1983)
• India
18 Sep 08
Hi friend,Mostly everyone facing problems in life all the time but only the intensity differs.I appreciate your attitude.thanks for sharing.happy mylotting.![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Sep 08
hi su miirajj not me, when i have a lot of problems like I do right now, I cannot grin and pretend everthing is okay for I
know it is not okay and that the problems are not going to go away any time soon as they have to be handled as soon as possible. when this is my sons hands I just have to try and smile and wait for them to be solved. am not good waiting at all and I dont keep a smiley face as there is not a whole hell of a lot to smile about.
@sumiirajj (1983)
• India
18 Sep 08
Hi friend,Everyone is facing problems in life sometime or other and the way of handling differs from person to person.I can never smile too amidst problems.thanks for sharing.happy mylotting.![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
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@sweethomecatring (1563)
• India
18 Sep 08
Every body has their own way to think and act. When I face some real problem I use to get involved in some other matter to keep my self busy though some disturbance and I tried to make balance of mind. To keep busy is to get rid of some mention tension. Do you know that ideal brain is the Devil's workshop.
@sumiirajj (1983)
• India
18 Sep 08
Yes my friend,We should keep our mind occupied always.thanks for sharing.happy mylotting.
@dhisaw (304)
• United States
18 Sep 08
Well maybe it is just a cover or a front that they put on so that others dont see the problems or anything like that. I know for me when I have problems I try to think the best even when the worse is going on. I try to smile in the face of adversity. There are times when that is not possible. My friends in high school used to think I was nuts because I was always smiling even though they knew I had other things going on that they wouldnt be smiling about. Plus my husband told me the other day that he thinks that I am emotionally unstable. He thinks that because of the way my mood changes so very quickly and often but I dont know. I try to hide the way I feel from others and just keep it with me so that I am the only one who has to deal with whatever is going on in my own mind and other things.
@sumiirajj (1983)
• India
18 Sep 08
Hi friend,Its difficult to have smiling face when you have problems,in that way I appreciate your attitude.thanks for sharing.happy mylotting.![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@arianne1181 (7)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
I'm one those people who can show a happy face despite having problems. Our family is experiencing crisis for years now, and I've been through very though times already. Being the eldest among siblings isn't easy, I'm the only one working for us. Imaging supporting 3 growing kids and supporting my brothers and parents as well. That's not easy, I wanted to scream my heart out when I'm burned out and give up. But I know I can't. Despite of that I always keep a smile on my face. A part of me knew I have problems, but I can't bear to just stare and do nothing. I have lots of stuff to do and obligations, I have to socialize and work, I can't just frown on others all the time. You shouldn't let your emotions empower you, it will only pull you down. = )
@sumiirajj (1983)
• India
18 Sep 08
Hi friend,Problems are there for everyone but only the intensity differs and certainly it will vanish in no time.Then you would wonder that you had crossed and camme across such difficult times easily.thanks for sharing.happy mylotting.![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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