For tthe singles, what is your marrying age?
By divinegwapa
@divinegwapa (914)
Philippines
September 17, 2008 3:09am CST
Have you ever thought about what age you would like to get married? Or age doesn't matter to you but you're just waiting for the right one to come along?;D
A few years back, I made a decision that I will get married only when I'm 28 or older and not a year or so less. I just want to do and try a lot things being single before I tie the knot. I feel that if I get married, I'm not free to do what I want anymore. Because by then my hubby and future children will be my first priority.
I promised myself that 28 is the age. Given of course that I am financially, emotionally and spiritually ready by that time. I just hope that the right one wouldn't come along yet before I turn 28. Haha.
So, how about you? What's your marrying age? ;D
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53 responses
@carmela0210 (1591)
• Philippines
21 Sep 08
close to yours, lol, mine is 27, im 22 right now so i have 5 years so get settle, financially, emotionally and spiritually, i just think when i reach 27 that would be the time that marriage will be on my mind, i dont want to marry young cause it seems that im not mature enough for that kind of status, and i want to spend time for myself as single, and i want to do lot things that i think i cant do when i have my family of my own.
@divinegwapa (914)
• Philippines
24 Sep 08
Exactly. ;D Let's just enjoy life as it is. No strings attached and no commitments. Cheers for a good life ahead!
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@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
For me I decided that I would get married before I turn 30. There are still a lot of things to do like get a house, be financially stable. Also since marriage is a very big responsibility and a lifetime commitment we must first be mature enough to deal with whatever problems we might be facing with married life.
@divinegwapa (914)
• Philippines
24 Sep 08
Stability and maturity. Both are indeed important ingredients for a happy marriage. Thanks for your insights. ;D
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@wiseshopping1 (679)
• China
17 Sep 08
i'm already 25 years but i don't know when i will marry. i thik marriage is dreadful. i don't want but i have no choice. i'm confused, i'm hesitated. i'm waiting for my stable love. in a word, i'm not sure i can get marriage in three years.
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@divinegwapa (914)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
They say marriage is one of the most beautiful things in the world so no need to dread it. ;D Someday, somewhere you'll meet your special someone and I don't think that age would really matter much by then. ;D
@yadav8797 (1211)
• India
17 Sep 08
friends, i think that early marriage can create frustration in your life and more example of this type are the more number divorce cases in the younger age.every human has to marriage in a age when he/she she achieve the thing they want in life or become successful in life.there is no certain age for marriage.whenever you achieved your dream you can achieved the success.
because after marriage you will have take care of your husband or wife.and take the other responsibilities too.so,no career left marriage.
@divinegwapa (914)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
That's true. I say marriage is only beautiful when you are financially, emotionally and spiritually ready for it. For me, when I'm ready in those three aspects there is really nothing to fear about getting married. ;D
I guess, we really need to work hard on getting ourselves ready for that.
@jamesnogra (381)
• Philippines
21 Sep 08
marrying someone is the toughest decision you will ever make, if you want to change your partner, its not that easy anymore. if i want to marry someone, he should be at the five-year bracket with mine. i don't want to hate a husband in the long run because he is too young or too old.
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@divinegwapa (914)
• Philippines
24 Sep 08
I think age wouldn't really matter as long as the person you're going to marry is mature enough.;D
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
21 Sep 08
I really thought I'd be married at this age but I'm not. I'm not unhappy that I'm still unmarried, I have been with Boyfriend for more than 5 years and we have been talking about marriage. But right now, I'm the one who's not ready yet. Just like you, I still have a number of things I would want to do on my own but since Boyfriend and I do a lot of things pretty much together all the time, I don't really know if that still would happen.
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@divinegwapa (914)
• Philippines
24 Sep 08
Wow. 5 years is a long time. It's safe to say that you have an enduring relationship with your bf. ;D Well, I think if you're not ready yet then you got to give yourself some time and alone. ;D
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@sadlyboy (30)
• Malaysia
24 Sep 08
Although i still a student, but the marriage age of my is 28-30 because i need to achieved my dream and hope and have a stable financial, stable life and a stable love to come into marriage level. Just like other say, if we are too young to get marriage it will happen many thing to those who are young couple because they don't have a stable financial, emotion, spiritually ready as you divinegwapa. But in scientific principle to say, a woman should be marry early because when they become older and older to get marriage will get the high risk of abortion or they will not easy to get pregnant also.So if you are lady, i hope that you have to think twice before you become older than the age of 30 and above whether u want to get marriage before 30 years old or after 30 years old. Thank you.
@mansha (6298)
• India
24 Sep 08
I got married when I was twenty and never had the choice in this matter but I wish I hadn't, there was a lot I had wanted to see before I tied the knot, do not give up your dreams girl marry when you find the right person and not before then, because you get this chance to explre only once take advantage of it fully.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
21 Sep 08
28 is a good age. Not too young or too old. If you want kids, 28 or 29 is a good age to start.for me, I never want to get married. For others,I think your idea is ideal, Go and do all the things you can't do if you are married.Meet the One and marry by 28.Sounds great. I wish you luck.
@divinegwapa (914)
• Philippines
24 Sep 08
Hi Sarah....
Thanks for your affirmation. Now, I have someone on my side. Haha.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
17 Sep 08
H[i]i divine,
I want to marry early before but then I wasn't stable yet and wasn't find the right man...LOL!
For me, the earlier the better as long as both parties are responsible, stable and ready in all aspect, physical, mental and emotional!
Well, I have no regrets also that I waited until I was 30 since I found the right man for me! LOL![/i]
@divinegwapa (914)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
That's a beautiful story you got there. Being stable before getting married is very important for me too. And I think it should be a consideration for everyone who will later on embark the married life. For sure, it can lower the divorce rate around the world. haha.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
18 Sep 08
Maybe it helps since when "money" is the issue in the relationship like no money for bills and food, it is very annoying and a lot of headache..LOL!
@luckycat (220)
• Bolivia
18 Sep 08
LOL!I wanna get married when i am 22.I am 20 now,but i don't even have a boyfriend.SO it seems
imposible now.but i wanna marry as soon as possible.I just wanna share everyting in my life
with someone else,like my hubby.LOL.And i wanna have someone to rely on.I wanna settle down.
lol.
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@divinegwapa (914)
• Philippines
24 Sep 08
Really? You want to get married already? I hope you find the right man soon. ;D
@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
20 Sep 08
I feel the same as you about trying a lot of things before tieing the kNOT. And about being free to do what i want to do. I mistakenly got married at the age of 17 then 20 then tried a live in later. Only to discover there is no mr right. Just a lot of mr wrongs. I guess if i ever meet mr right the age of 65 or 70 may be the right age. As long as he has the same attitude as me...live and let live. Live in peace and harmony. Dont rock my boat cause i dont like my boat to be rocked. I like to just sail along nice and smooth.
@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
24 Sep 08
Well, i the way i see it. I do not need a signifiant other cause im pretty signifiant all by myself. It really doent matter to me if i met someone or not. If i do ok and if not ok. Im just easy smooth sailing. Free to be me. Too young at 52 to be tried down yet.
@divinegwapa (914)
• Philippines
24 Sep 08
Moving forward is the key. I hope you still find a mr. right. ;D
@manidhark (14)
• India
17 Sep 08
I think the right age for marriage would be between 25 to 30 if it is above 30 i think is very late. Any way every one will get settled between this age and this is the right time to enjoy even.
@divinegwapa (914)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
I have a friend who's 33 now and she's a woman. She's not married yet but she's enjoying life as it is. I guess the right age to get married would really depend on the persoon. ;D
@manidhark (14)
• India
17 Sep 08
I hope u took it in the wrong sence. I mean if u marry late u may have childern at very old age and taking care of childern will be come a bit problem.
@mercuryman3a (2477)
• India
18 Sep 08
I think a girl should get married by the time she is 25 and a boy should get married by 28 at the latest. Why not start a family early?
@divinegwapa (914)
• Philippines
24 Sep 08
I guess it depends on the preference of the person. As for me, I want to get married a lil older than 25.;D
@Chastised_Dreamz (559)
• United States
17 Sep 08
I told my boyfriend that I don't want to get married before 25. I want to get married somewhere between 25-30. I want to make sure that I'm financially stable and able to support myself before I get married. I don't want to run back to my mother for help unless I really need to and I have no choice.
I don't want to get married too young. I also want to make sure that I get to know my boyfriend as well as I can before we get married. I don't want to rush into marriage and then find out that we're incompatible. This month is going to make our 2 year anniversary and two years is nowhere near enough time to be going out before you get married.
What surprises and confuses me are people that I sometimes see on court shows that get married after only knowing the person a week or a couple of months. In that amount of time you definitely can't know what type or person someone really is because they show you their best side in the beginning.
@divinegwapa (914)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
That's ok. ;D Thanks for your insights. I think it's really important to get to know each other first before tying the knot. ;D In that way, when problems come during the married life you know each other too well that you know how to adjust with each other's mood. ;D
@Chastised_Dreamz (559)
• United States
17 Sep 08
Opps, my mistake. I responded to this without noticing the title "for the singles". I'm not single but that's my take on what age I should be married lol.
@divinegwapa (914)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
Hi Bestie!
That's the same case for me too. It's still a long way for us.
We just enjoy life for now.;D
@dramaking077 (5)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
i guess there is no definite age for marriage as long as you are already emotionally, spiritually and financially stable. i admit i am already 35 years old and i am still searching for someone whom i wanna spend the rest of my life with. he he
@divinegwapa (914)
• Philippines
24 Sep 08
Aaw. I hope you find that someone soon.;D Good luck!
And I agree! If you're ready in those three aspects, why not.
@lchiat (1070)
• Malaysia
21 Sep 08
Hi... Nice to meet you here. Ya i think of it before. For me i think it will be around 25 to 28. But i need to solve all financial problems first before i marry. I will plan it after i have steady income. I think it is very important for me to do so. It is impossible that i ask the my love one to pay all the marry thing. So the first thing we should do is get a good job and have a steady incomes then i will plan bout my marry. But i hope to marry before 28. Happy Myloting!!!
@divinegwapa (914)
• Philippines
24 Sep 08
That the right thing to do. If I were in your shoes, I'd do just that as well. I don't to burden my future hubby with my personal financial problems.
Good luck!
@kipluck (143)
• United States
20 Sep 08
When I was little I always thought somewhere between 22 and 25. HA! Heaven forbid I reach 30 and still be single. Well, I am 29, and don't have a hubby... or boy friend... or any foreseeable prospects. hee hee! I am okay about that, really. But you really can't SAY when it will happen for you, meeting someone that you could spend forever with.
@divinegwapa (914)
• Philippines
24 Sep 08
I just hope to God I don't meet him yet. Haha
I hope you meet your right man soon kipluck!;D
@jemalynjoy (215)
• Philippines
20 Sep 08
I dont have a definite number of when I want to get married. By the time i am financially, emotionally, psychologically mature, that's when i decide to settle down. I've got lots of things and ideas i wish to do and accomplish, so maybe getting married is not in my to do list for the next ten years. =0
@divinegwapa (914)
• Philippines
24 Sep 08
In ten years, a lot of things can happen. I hope you get to do everything you want to do in ten years! Cheers for a happy life ahead!
@chinniR (661)
• India
18 Sep 08
hi there, i would like to get married by the age of 25 or so. i want to settle in life and stand in my own legs. i don't want to marry before that. am the only daughter to my parents and i like to stay with them till 25 at least. i do have goals in my life which i want to accomplish first.
@divinegwapa (914)
• Philippines
24 Sep 08
What a sweet daughter you are to your family. I hope you find your right guy by 25! :D