The Middle child Syndrome

it is not in our family. our family ha sno middle children. i am the youngest. i have only 1 elder brother. but i think its very true that in nmost cases the middle one is not very well treated in families. may be attention is more with eldest or youngest

yes! that is so true! sometimes i realy dont know whose on my side.... sometimes i cry because i realy dont know if they understand the situation or not or are they just considering the age? i realy dont understand...

I am a middle child too. We're 4, and of the four of us, there are two middle children - me and my younger brother. I am an only girl. It's hard being an only girl and a middle child because my brothers usually connive and would tease me till I would end up crying. My younger brother who's a middle child too, would feel that he's being compared to my eldest brother and to my youngest brother. This notion made him pretty vulnerable to insecurities. Though, we have issues in birth order, I am still glad that I have my brothers in this lifetime.

i'm a middle child. i didn't have to deal with those conflicting stuff from my parents, but when i was younger, i would have this feeling of being less important like you mentioned. like with my sister, she is the oldest, so they expect a lot from her, whereas with my brother, who is the youngest, so they fawn over him a lot. now of course i understand better and i no longer begrudge the attention my parents give my siblings, and i realized that i get just as much attention too.

Hello there again, in my family I think we don't have that kind of issue, because my mom treats us all well, now that I have three kids, I am quite cautious to my middle child. I am really doing my best not to ignore him, but I do love them equally, but sometimes I am harsh to my first born because I don't want him to grow weak because he is the first born in the family and he really should stand strong for his siblings.

I'm a middle child. I have an older brother, an older sister, and a younger brother. However, everybody treats my like the youngest because I'm the shortest and my cousins always say that I'm the sweetest. I guess my middle child syndrome helped me a lot in accomplishing a lot. Since my older sister was a genius, I had to become an achiever and things worked out fine for me :D I like having older and younger siblings.

Oh you are very right. I am a middle child and that somehow confused me a bit when I was a child. Little did I know that my parents have good reasons. Now that I am already a mother, I know better. It is just that my parents would not want us children to quarrel with one another to preserve the good and harmonious relationship inside the home.

I am a middle child (3rd out of 5 children) The problem that I really have is that most of the time my parents don't understand me because I think differently from my other siblings. I really don't care much for attention because it's appreciation that I'm after. That's why I decide that If I would heave children I would make sure that in all that they do they would be appreciated.

hi red_amethyst. enjoying mylot? =) well, am a middle child. and i think i didn't get this syndrome. first, when i was born, i took all of the attention from dear sister. she hasn't enjoyed being the apple of the eye for a long time, there i came, brought to the world. hehehe. then when my brother was born, it wasn't much of a problem for me because i enjoyed my childhood being the youngest for 5 years. for my situation, there has been a couple of instances where i didnt wanna be in that position. first i dont have authority over my sister, cuz i should respect her in all angles. secondly, i can't be too abusive and too authoritative to my brother because as his elder sister, i should still respect him being the youngest in the family. what i like about how i was raised is, the responsibility was given to me by my parents. they'd trust me with money among the three of us. they'd talk to me when my sister and brother need the talking. i didn't get any jealous feelings towards my siblings while growing up. i think if you want to get more "amore" and attention from your parents you have to step up and let them see your weight in your family. take responsibility. don't be too complacent. even if you're the middle child you can own your spot by doing what your elder sibling/s can do. =)