girls kissing girls
By grandpa_lash
@grandpa_lash (5225)
Australia
September 17, 2008 6:12am CST
I recently had to give some advice to my 24yo son. It seems he picked up his girlfriend from a lunch date with a lesbian friend, and as they parted they kissed, on the lips lol. On the way home, she started singing the Kate Perry song "I kissed a girl", and he is freaking out because he thinks his girlfriend might be a lesbian.
I tried to tell him that girls approach that sort of intimacy quite differently than men, and that it probably meant nothing at all, but I have to admit to some lingering doubts.
Any wise advice from girls I can pass on to him?
Lash
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8 responses
@xParanoiax (6987)
• United States
19 Oct 08
I'm a little bit surprised, but then I forgot how rural and country I am and all the people around here are. Not to mention how religious. So I was just a little off guard here lol.
Around here, there's not alot of "just friends" girls that kiss.
So, while it's OK to question it...freaking out's not the right policy, imo.
He can calmly ask her, and she might even find the question cute if he does it right.
It's true that alot of girls do kiss and it's a just friends thing, though.
I don't personally do this, because kisses on the lips I categorize as relationship things. And there's too many religious straight girls around here, especially among the few of them that I consider friends, that I'd rather not buy myself some drama. (I'm bi).
I'm not afraid of lots of hugs, kisses on the cheek, and holding hands though since this is strictly non-intimate signs of affection =)
But that's me.
Girls are wonderfully varied. But I think it's quite likely that your son's girlfriend isn't a lesbian lol.
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@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
18 Sep 08
Hes a lucky guy to have found a girl with this kind of openness. If she has bi tendencies he might get some interesting benefits. Bi women love three-somes and many enjoy watching and participating as the male makes it with the guest female. These kind of relationships are more common than many believe. I believe your advise to your son was right on!
@grandpa_lash (5225)
• Australia
19 Sep 08
Berkee, that wasn't sarcasm, just clarity.
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@moneytree (188)
• India
18 Sep 08
Well we need such girls, It's fun to see and imagine..
LOL!
Anyways it's better for him to keep a watch on his girl and confirm if thinks are really lesbian types and if there is then he should keep away if there is a problem or share if he doesnt have any.
@kisanchhantyal (420)
• Nepal
18 Sep 08
you may suggest him but can't stop because the trend is dangerous. I thought that its the mentality problem and each and every lesbian and gay have to go to the mental hospital. If not why they are doing bizzare things.
@chai37 (142)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
LOL.
grandpa_lash you are so cute sharing this to us. I can see that you're very close to your grandson for him to share this topic with you...that's really very cool.
i miss my granpa.
Maybe the girls are just teasing him. Girls do that. Maybe they just want to see his reaction. naughty girls. LOL
@grandpa_lash (5225)
• Australia
18 Sep 08
That's son, not grandson lol. But thank you for your comment.
Lash
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@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
17 Sep 08
Tell him to listen to the song closer! lol It didn't mean she is lesbian. Sorry I'm laughin at the moment, but I have two daughters, 26 and 19. And yes, girls do look at it differently, we hug our friends, we kiss our friends, and it does not mean we are lesbian or in love with them. That whole song is not about being lesbian, it's about being curious, it even says 'it's human nature' to be curious. Tell him just to overlook it, let it go, his girlfriend is still his girlfriend.
@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
17 Sep 08
I am a lesbian, grandpa_lash, and I hope I can give a better point of view that can help you to tell your son not to be freaked out.
Girls kissing each other every time, when they're meet each other, when they are apart, even in the phone they still giving air kisses each other. My straight friend also do that to me even they know I am a lesbian. Kissing in the lips is not something popular in my country so we are not doing that, but holding hand, hug, kiss in the cheek and caring each other is a routine activity for girls.
My principal is not to take someone's lover, and I think it is applied especially for the straight girls around me. I always told the boyfriends not to be worried about me, because even I like girls, I know who's a friend and who's a lover.
Tell your son not to be worried anymore, or if he still worrying about this tell him to post something here in myLot or PM me to for some question because I don't mind helping :)
Good luck grandpa