so angry all the time

Sunshine, I went through something very similar with my daughter who is now 18. The multiple diagnoses are so confusing, and having all these professionals telling you different things is hard to deal with. Even worse is finding out that the meds you grudgingly accepted because you hoped they'd help were all wrong and may have made things worse. You're getting some good questions from one of the posters here, but I have one to ask as well... have you looked at her moods in relation to her monthly cycle? A lot of therapists and counselors don't think of hormonal problems when a girl seems angry all the time, especially if she's acting out and violent. It's also easy to misdiagnose it as bipolar because it's not always bad, and sometimes the kid is manic and sometimes they're angry or sad. It took me two years to recognize a pattern with my daughter, and it happened completely by accident. I was talking with her principal after yet another suspension for her acting out in class and it dawned on me that it was the second month in a row that she'd had a problem on the first day of her period. I mentioned it to her principal, who pulled up her record and the two of us compared dates - she'd been suspended on the first day of her period every single month for the past year and a half, and had milder disciplinary incidents just about halfway between. Once we had the pattern, her medical provider suggested tricyclic birth control pills - and voila. The change in her is amazing. I know that PMS is a joke with a lot of people, but for someone who is living with it, it's no joke.. and a lot of the time, it's not even recognized for what it is. It may not be what's going on with your daughter, but honestly, sometimes anger is purely a physical thing. If you haven't considered that it may be a hormonal thing, it's easy enough to chart her moods on a calendar alongside her menstrual cycle and see if there's a pattern. Good luck with it - I know how hard it is.

Teenagers have surging hormones. I remember when I was still a teener, I was filled with angst. I hated everything happening to me, I blamed other people why I was in a situation which I thought I did not like. But looking back, it was just a phase. I wish it's just a phase in your daughter's situation. I had my loads of depression, of moodiness, but I did not see it as bipolarism. Try to speak with her. Just communicate with her if she refuses to talk to her.