Parents are not kids' friends?
By aboutus
@aboutus (27)
Philippines
September 17, 2008 7:52am CST
Many parents treat their kids more as friends than as parents who are responsible for raising a young person into a responsible, law-abiding, positive contributor to society. You are not there to be your child's giggle buddy.
That means sometimes you are going to have to make decisions that your child won't like. You'll have to say "no!" to things that your child wants to do. You will have to say "no!" when your child wants to go places you don't approve of, wear clothes you don't approve of, or date people you don't approve of. You have to be the parent, and that means your word is law. Establish yourself as the authority in the household.
Be a parent your child respects, and raise your child to get along in the world.
1 response
@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
17 Sep 08
Good discussion aboutus!
I also recognized this condition. Many parents keep saying to their children to consider them as a friend, and wants the children to keep close to them and talk to them more openly. But instead of being more freedom and discuss things with their children they become a dictator and yell and never listen. I used to be the child in that situation and that situation keeps me away from my parents. Not because I hate them and not because I don't respect them, but it is more that I don't feel it is comfortable to talk with them like a friend because they never treat me like a friend. I told them this and they learned from this, but their relationship with me has already broken, but at least they learned and treat my sibling differently now :)
