Is this a relationship???
By ebsharer
@ebsharer (5515)
United States
September 17, 2008 1:25pm CST
They have been on 4 dates.
Date 1 - Dinner and drinks after. He paid for dinner - she paid for a beer for each of them. He paid for the other beers. One kiss on the cheek at the end of the night. The met at the resturant.
Date 2 - Dinner and a movie. She met him at his house ... (location) He drove from there to the resturant and paid for dinner. (she offered) Then to the movies she paid for the movie. Back to his place talked drank a bottle of wine and kissed more then once.
Date 3 - He came to her house and hung out for a while. There were friends there too.
Date 4 - Still to come. She is cooking him dinner then they are going to the movies.
They have plans for November already. They have plans for her birthday too which is 2 weeks away. They met on a dating web site and he has deleted his account. Would you say they are in a relationship or what??? Both have said they want to see what happens but both are scared to say the word commitment. He said that he deleted his profile out of respect for her.
What are your thoughts - friends ... dating ... relationship???
7 responses
@nishkasmom (21)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
i think they are in the "getting to know each other" stage that if all goes well, will lead to a romantic relationship. but i totally agree with petiksmode that if they do not talk abt it, chances are that one of them will end up being hurt. whether they like it or not, there is one who is expecting that things will be more less complicated and that they will really be a couple. its better to talk things out, so each will know where they stand...
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@petiksmode (2983)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
well friends dont kiss. it could be that they are dating, more than friends but not as lovers...another complicted relationship for me...
been there done that, and it is pain at the end if t haguy sdont talk about it...too late that i realize that the guy i am having the same scenarios mentioned above will not soon to be the groom but i am not the bride....
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@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
18 Sep 08
Sounds like they are in that stage right after friendship but not quite to committed dating. They don't know each other well enough to be a real couple but the energy is there, they have feelings for each other that are beyond friendship. I suppose 100 years ago this would equate to "courting"...that stage where interest was shown but not confirmed. They are probably experiencing NRE (new relationship energy) which is that feeling of wanting to be with a person and being scared all at the same time...and as a side note those are my initials and that has always amused me.
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@jstmarfz (1498)
• United States
18 Sep 08
As for me, it is a relationship but no commitments between them. They enjoyed each other's company and that was just it. Deleting his profile in a dating site is really a good things to do. According to you, they're kissing. As long as no forcing happends. They should talk about what's going on with them too. If they want relationship with commitment or they're just want to enjoy each other's company. No string attach.
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@anurag440044 (414)
• India
17 Sep 08
well i think right now they are just in a phase of very very close and strong friendship. first they need to concentrate on each other, get to know each other very well. they should not hurry up for making any commitment. its obvious for both of them to get scared to put forth the word of commitment, as they both are good friends and are scared that they might end up losing each other if the relationship doesnt work. first they should get close to each other, become each others bestest friends and then they themselves would realise when to take the next move. they are in a stage where they both are in a partial relationship, which they do not want to confess but also are in a good phase of friendship. ofcourse the guy will have to make the first move.
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@esilanna (168)
• Malta
18 Sep 08
i think they are still knowing each other well, they are in the begining of a relationship, where they get to know each other, and talk about their plans for teh future. They guy seems he want a relationship. i think it won't take too long till they commit themselves but it's better when you take things slow and not in a hurry.
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