A question to working women in general
By bamakelly
@bamakelly (5191)
United States
September 17, 2008 1:41pm CST
I was wondering if there are any women who are working whether with children or without would give up working if your spouse asked you to. Being that say he told you he makes enough money to keep up with the house and bills. Would you stay home?
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@AlwaYsSmiLe90 (84)
• United States
17 Sep 08
Money is not everything, if it meant more for me to stay home and make my home stronger as a family then yes but if not then no.
@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
17 Sep 08
I like your response. A person who is family oriented and cares about the values of the home. You are right. Money is not everything. You can not put money above values. I just thought I would seek some feedback on this matter. Thank you for responding. Have a great day!
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@AlwaYsSmiLe90 (84)
• United States
18 Sep 08
I am happy to read that you liked my response and I find that it is great that you want to hear all types of views as how others see things there is nothing wrong with that it is why we are here right?
@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
17 Sep 08
That sounds like a great idea. I think a lot of women might think like this. I stay at home and raise my child while my husband is working. I like to hang out here on line too. We could use the extra money though and I think I would like to get out into the work force again one day. Thanks for responding. Have a good day!
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
17 Sep 08
It's an issue that I have been discussing with my wife. Yes definitely, if my salary was higher and we could pay the mortgage and enjoy a comfortable standard of living, yes she would prefer to stay at home. She would be more relaxed less stressed and can dedicate more time for our son and me.
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@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
18 Sep 08
Thank you for your reply. It is hard in this economy for a family and two people usually have to work to make ends meet. It is a situation that is hurting a lot of people.
It is true that your wife would be more relaxed and less stressed if she could stay at home. Most of all the time spent with you and your son would be so important. Just remember, while she might not be able to spend a lot of time in the house with the family as she would like, you could consider the quality of time you have together. That could go a long way. Have a good day.
@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
17 Sep 08
That's what happened when I got pregnant and I jumped at the chance. I'll never regret it, though some days were really tough and I thought I'd scream if I didn't talk to someone over the age of 3! Best decision I ever made.
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
17 Sep 08
I know how that is! We were a one-car family the first couple of years and lived way out in the desert, not a gas station or grocery store within 20 miles so I know kind of what you're talking about. Isolation isn't easy, nor is not being able to go where and when you want. There are worse things, but some days it doesn't seem like it!
@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
17 Sep 08
Thank you for your response. I am a stay at home mother of a five year old. My husband works and we really need extra income but it is kind of hard to get around where we are. I am nevertheless happy to be at home.
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@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
25 Sep 08
Hello there, I knew you said that this one is for working women but I just can't pass this one up my friend. I think I have something to say regarding this topic. I am a stay at home mom, who never experienced working, my husband says it is OK for me to work but I should think and think before deciding if working and leaving the kids to a helper is practical, and if the money I could bring is worth the time that I would be away from ym kids, well my answer is no, I love the kids and I am very attached to them, and for me I think that if you give birth and you plan to have kids, it is your sole responsibility to raise them, the only exception is when your financial status hinders you from doing so. For me and for my hubby as well, what is the purpose of having kids when you can't even have time to be with them?
@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
25 Sep 08
I like your reply. I do agree with you. What is the sense in having kids when you can't spend time with them? People are so busy now a days having to go to work, which I do understand, however it seems to be a society so quick to put children into day care. The people in the day care see more of what is going on with someone's child than the actual parent themselves.
I do understand that there are financial problems in life. But you are right also when you feel you need to decide if you want to leave the children at home with a helper and if it would be worth the time away from them. I think that you would be worrying too much if you were away from them. I don't blame you. It is natural as a mother to feel this way.
@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
17 Sep 08
Thanks for your reply. Yes there are women who would stay home if they could and then be comfortable with pursuing another goal which could be lucrative. It sounds like you have some good ideas in mind.
@lrglara (1334)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
im not married yet. my husband-to-be knows that he will never keep me in the house. he knows that i will still work even at home (home based work or home-based business). i would give up the 9-5 job, stay at home and earn while at home... i would love the idea that he will be the only to support me, but im not used to not doing anything. i'll still work at home! :)
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@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
17 Sep 08
It sounds like you are a pretty independent person who knows what she wants. You maintain that you will still work even if it is in the home doing your own business and the like.
I felt that I would pose this question because I feel it is interesting to hear the different viewpoints from women of all backgrounds.
@ella1bella (839)
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17 Sep 08
If my partner had said that he was earning enought to keep our family and that I didnt have or need to work anymore then I would have been thrilled ,the only reason that I ever worked was to earn money to help out with the family budget,but it was always a struggle,there was always washing and outstanding housework to do,give me the option to stay home any day.
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@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
17 Sep 08
Thank you for your response. I think that some women will feel the way that you do. If you could stay at home and not have to work it would be great. Everybody has a different opinion and I respect every opinion I receive.
@eveeee (659)
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17 Sep 08
I am single with a teenage son, and have always worked to provide for us both. His dad never really worked, and doesn't now either. We split up 13 years ago, and I have worked for us both ever since. I have been in relationships since, but nothing would stop me working now. In fact in the last 5 years, I have studied 2 courses to train up to Level 4 in Childcare, changed career into childcare from bar work and worked my way up to Deputy Manager. I am now changing again to assess students that are studying in Childcare, with an aim to train as a lecturer in the next year. I can honestly say I have worked too hard in the last 5 years to ever consider giving it up.
Even if I was lucky enough to meet someone who could provide for us both, I would still keep my independence and earn my own wage. It would be lovely though to be in this position, where I would be able to keep my wages for myself and treat myself for once. Up until now, every penny I have been earning has been out on bills, food and groceries etc, with never a penny to spare. The joys (not) of working in childcare, being so poorly paid.
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@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
17 Sep 08
Than you for your reply. It sounds like you really worked your way up the ranks. You have had your challenges and have proven time and again that you can do it without a lot of help.
I think that sometimes when a relationship doesn't have cooperation from both parties and one person is left to handle everything it just isn't fair. To tell you the truth, I believe this adversity in your life from years ago has only made you stronger. I am guessing your son's father had let you down quite a bit.