Is it possible to fall in love on the internet?

@kjetil64 (118)
Norway
September 17, 2008 3:08pm CST
Not long ago I started to chat with a girl. After a while, I felt something for her. I got really excited when I saw she was online, and I could chat with her all night. So I'm asking you, do you really think it's possible to fall in love through the internet? Or am I just falling in love with a person I make myself, since I can't see her body language?
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7 responses
• United States
17 Sep 08
Yes to both questions. Love is not one of those easily described emotions. What makes us fall in love with someone isn't something that can be summed up into a nice, neat equation. Love takes so many different forms, it can be hard to figure out exactly what we are experiencing at any given point in time. Chances are you have found someone you have an intellectual connection with online. Online is an excellent place for that. It takes away all the noise of physical attraction. However, therein lies the danger. True romantic love, in my opinion, is a combination of physical and mental. You have to want the other person for both their mind and body. Now, it's true the more we connect with someone on a personal level, the more attractive we can find them physically. So, if there is a spark of physical attraction, the mental connection enhances it. But without both, you don't have romantic love. If you just have physical attraction it's lust, if you have just a mental connection, you have platonic love. Both forms are important to a relationship. But it's the combination of the two that transform it into what we commonly refer to as "true love." If you really want to know for sure if you're in love with this person, then meet them. That will tell you what is going on. But tread carefully. The heart is resiliant, but it's not invulnerable. I hope this works out for you. Good luck.
@kjetil64 (118)
• Norway
17 Sep 08
Thanks alot :) Maybe I'll try to ask her if she want's to meet me, at the local mall or something. But I'm not really sure how to ask, should I just say it right to her? What if she doesn't want to?
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• United States
18 Sep 08
Ask her about the possibility of meeting in the future. If she is really vague about the whole thing, just drop it for a while and bring it up later. If she comes across as being realy excited about it, then make plans and go for it. If she doesn't want to meet, then this probably won't work out the way you want it to. I would push the issue too much at first, just a little hint here and there. I think that would be best. Take it slow, there's no rush. Just make sure you don't fall too fast. :) Good luck.
@thyst07 (2079)
• United States
17 Sep 08
I met my husband on the internet. We really enjoyed talking to each other online, so we decided to meet up...and now we're married! I don't think I actually fell in love with him until I met him in person, but the internet was definitely a facilitator in finding him. My older stepsister also met her husband online, and my dad met my stepmom online. I've known a lot of other people who have met online and gotten married later. So I guess it's possible.
@kjetil64 (118)
• Norway
17 Sep 08
Interesting. No one I know that's married met over the internet, but it's possible, as you say. Maybe I got a chance? :P Thanks :)
@yuna15 (2706)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
A close friend of mind met her husband online. Through Yahoo Messenger. Believe it or not she's not the type who believes in superstitions but the only thing that made her chat online was when she read her horoscope reading for that day LOL. And she doesn't usually do chatting. "Love moves in mysterious ways" as the song goes. Anything could happen it doesn't matter by what means you communicate. Another friend of mine actually fell in love with a guy through a social networking site, unfortunately the guy just toyed her and was rude enough to tell her that she should go and get a real boyfriend. They even went to the point of getting "intimate" in CyberSpace but everything was just a joke for the guy. So you better be careful as well because you might end up getting hurt.
@pau_79 (790)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
my sister in law met his husband in the internet-they use a webcam. But if in the event you two decide to meet in person that would be the day to know if its really love or curiosity/infatuation. Some people fall in love with their phonepal while some in penpal all this is possible as lomg as you are ready to accept the person as a whole when you two meet-up in person
• United States
17 Sep 08
Well i guess it is possible said she met her husband on line so i guess any thing is possible,i just dont see how you can have for some body you cant see or touch.
@Anchopy (1453)
• Paraguay
17 Sep 08
I think that is possible, but you have to realize that the chat is just that.. chat.. is very different when you see the person, when you have to face it face to face.. tell she what you feel... it's possible that after you meet her the things will not be as you thought.
@arcidy (5005)
• United States
17 Sep 08
No it isnt impossible to fall inlove over the internet. I do beleave that you can fall inlove with someone and im sure it happes a lot well I think it happens more with guys then with girls. But thats my opinion.