how long does it take you to get over a relationship?

I have heard that it takes half the time as long as you were together..so 4 years would be 2 years to get over it and move on. I dont know if I believe that. Then I have also heard that if you break up after say 4 years it means that your relationship has been ending for 2 of them. My fiance and I have been together for 6 1/2 years so I dont know. I think there are alot of contributing factors to that. Dont rush yourself, if you are not ready to move on, just take it slow. It is proven that men move on faster. If you really were in love with him it may take longer. A few months is nothing compared to 4 years of love and companionship. Do try to keep yourself busy and get involved with diffrent things to keep your mind off it. Sorry that i could not be that much help. I do think that is pretty crappy of your friend. If this is any help....I believe there is someone for everyone. Sometimes it takes a whole lot of heartbreak to meet him though. So lift your head up and make the best of it. Time heals all wounds. SMILE!!!!!!

Well I know that is to much to take. Four years is four years and just like that. Well God has a reason why this things happens. Your still lucky you didn't get married to him. Maybe it wasn't really meant for you. If he can do that to you,he can do that with other girls. It is better to get hurt now then later. The pain will give you strength to move on it's just a matter of time. Maybe he will try to remember everything but not now. Maybe when it's to late. You can't tell what lies. You still have a life of your own. Sometimes nothing good last. You can't ask for a return,just time wasted. It's just not easy to pick up all the pieces of your life. But in the long run their is really someone really meant for you. Try to be strong and stand up gradually. You can make it! Nothing stays permanent in this world but yourself. Smile and the world will smile at you. Let him see what he really wants. Let go! Don't make it comlicated for you. Spread your wings and fly high. God is always be with you. Have a nice day!

yes I think it is easier the the guys, girls are really ruled by their hearts that is why they are the ones that have the babies, they are made that way.. I think for females they never get over a broken heart until they replace the one who broke it with someone else...

Dear flance101, It's hard to get over someone especially when you have shared couple of years together. The thing is, each individual has it's own pace of moving on. Your ex-bf had chosen to close his doors to you and open a new one for someone else's. It might have been okay if the person he is courting now maybe someone you don't know all your life. But, he chose a friend of yours. The road to healing is acceptance. If you're able to accept that your ex-bf is no longer a part of your life now, then, you will not get hurt that much if you learn something about his love life. Another way too is to avoid contact from him. It's best that you live your life without him being in your way. The less contact from him, the better. You need to have your individuality back and be able to see things in different perspective. If he will be around you most of the time, the pain will all come back to you. Better stay happy now in your life than dwell in the past then feel miserable. This might be hard, but I did. It's not easy. It takes a lot of will power and love for yourself. Be among other friends that you know would help you be uplifted than be a subject of rumors. You want to hear positive things and not to be a part of negativity of other people. Choose your friends you'll mingle with. Positive attitude helps a lot. Good luck.