Should they all butt out and worry about their own lives?
By momjessie82
@momjessie82 (344)
United States
September 17, 2008 9:31pm CST
My fiance's nephew and his girlfriend have been fighting the last couple days. They both said some inappropriate things and ended up fighting. Today, I was sitting here on the computer and all of a sudden I hear yelling and screaming from outside. I walked out and realized that it was coming from my fiance's nephews trailer. I know that his girlfriend has 2 little boys that are 1 and 2. I did not want them in the middle of a fight or anything that was going on. I walked across the street to get the kids and bring them over to my house. His girlfriend was being attacked by his mother, sister, and a neighbor. They were just going nuts threatening the girlfriend, yelling at her, telling her to get out, and stuff like that. I took the kids and brought them to my house. They finished their crap and called the sheriff. Then, my fiance's sister came over and jumped all over me for talking to the girlfriend. I told them all that I am not getting in the middle of it. They all got mad about it. Then, the girlfriend came over here until the nephew got home because the sheriff said they could not make her leave and she did not feel safe being there by herself. I think that they were wrong for getting into the middle of a domestic problem between two people. I mean, yes I understand that it is their son and brother, but he is an adult and has his own life. He does not need them making decisions and causing chaos for him. Do you agree or do you think I am totally wrong? I feel like crap because of everything that has went on tonight.
3 responses
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
• Malaysia
18 Sep 08
hi momjessie,
i have experience in this ... i was attacked by my then boyfriends family and i was all alone defending myself as i did not want my family to know the pain i was going through .. they did not want me to marry their son and said i blackmagic him...
.. i don blame anyone on this .. except my dear boyfriend .. as he did not have BACKBONE ... as a man of 31 then he did not shut his family and as a naive 21 i was bullied
finally he got his backbone and married me last year ... but i will never ever forgive him ... or them
cheers
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
• Malaysia
18 Sep 08
momjessie,
i always convince myself that he cares for me , but somewhere deep down i know that he does not want to accumulate his sin .... for all that he has done to me, his sin count has accumulated a big sum
cheers
@momjessie82 (344)
• United States
18 Sep 08
Thank you for responding. I am sorry that you had to go through that. I am glad to hear that he finally got a backbone and stood up to his family though. At least you know that he cares about you.
@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
18 Sep 08
They need to butt out and mind their own business. They are two grown adults and can solve their own problems. However if it was getting physical then I could see some intervenning but if it's not physical I say leave them be and let them sort it out for themselves. You did the right thing getting the kids out of there. They don't need to hear or see that crap.
@momjessie82 (344)
• United States
18 Sep 08
It was never anything physical. It was just two adults having a disagreement and not getting along with each other. They just disagreed about some things as all people do and were arguing about it. Thank you for your comment.
@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
18 Sep 08
Does she have any savings? If she does I am sure that she can find a way out. There is always a way. Is there any family or any friends that she can turn to?
@momjessie82 (344)
• United States
18 Sep 08
And the worst part is that now she does not feel comfortable staying there, but cannot find anyone to come and get her. She gave up her apartment, her life, and everything she had to move in with him and now she feels stuck. I can't say that I blame her for not feeling comfortable being there after everything that happened today. I wouldn't either.
@mistakesss (436)
• United States
18 Sep 08
They should just butt out, esp. if they don't even know her side. I can understand them wanting to take their son/brother's side, but, you can't pick sides unless you know the whole story. And, even then, it's not their place to jump in anyone's face. What's going on between your fiance's nephew and his girlfriend is their business. As you said, he's an adult and his gf is an adult - they can handle their own problems. The mother, sister, and neighbor are just creating more drama where it doesn't need to be. How could they yell at her in front of the kids, as well? It's good you went and got them. People these days are just dreadful. Butting in where they don't need to. Smart of you not to get in the middle!
@momjessie82 (344)
• United States
18 Sep 08
That was my thoughts exactly. They had heard what they were wanted to hear. They had not heard the other half of the story and had no real idea what was going on at all. And, to threaten someone with their babies present is way beyond me. I can understand wanting to protect your family, but that is not what this was. This was just trying to cause trouble and ruin someone's life. Thank you for your response.
