when is a woman not wh0re
By mandykaren
@mandykaren (2040)
September 17, 2008 10:22pm CST
sorry i am quite upset tonight, maybe i regret doing this discussion but i need talk someone
The question is, when is a woman classed as a wh0re? and how frustrating is it to tru and tell someone you not gone with man for over 2 years, this is what i hate about my looks, i nnot believed
i know this is not good time to let out my feelings, and i will regret this tomorrow, i just feel so so low i dont know what to do..
i not go near men for so long/ and yet i got called a wh0re by a turk.. i known him 2 years and tonight he shock me saying i go with all men and nothing i could say and said how i am sexy BUTTTTTTTTTTT i was wearing cargossssssssss.... This is getting ridiculous..
i just asking how many years girl need go without before u called a name?
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11 responses
@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
18 Sep 08
honey with your looks, if you haven't been with a man in 2 years, you are FAR from being a wh0re. You can have any many you wanted. Don't worry about what this turk said to you. He is probably just jealous that you haven't given it up to him...
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@mandykaren (2040)
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18 Sep 08
well year ago when not known him long he wanted marry me lol but that was ridiculous.. talked on and off since but not as anything that close.. But yes he want me go there, even stil.. to call me names suddenly just not nice, and swear that i had to block.. i do get some bad luck with guys.. which is why i not met any guy in life
@fwidman (11514)
• United States
18 Sep 08
Calling you that makes absolutely no sense What the hell was this guy thinking? It is just utterly ridiculous. I guess you should have told him that if what he was saying was true you'd be a whole lot happier, at least you'd be getting some loving somewhere.
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@mandykaren (2040)
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22 Sep 08
you are so right, i have put up with much for the last year, and not turn my back on the friendship, even with the emotional blackmail AND had much patience with his very poor English, it improved a little now, but then he could hardly speak it, but id help.. I maybe a little crazy and enjoy a good laugh messing about (never perverted.. not my style) but i most certainly no wh0re..I have blocked, if he care even a little, he would email with an apology, otherwise has to stay blocked.. Shame and wasted year of communication. But as you say i dont need that crap, certainly not here
thanks for sharing
@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
You dont deserved to be treated that way. No person has the right to say any hurtful words towards another person. You should not let words turns you down. You know yourself better than anybody. And that turk is just an ugly creature with a dark heart. So dont let someone who is not better than you turn you down. Words cant bring you down, specially if the person saying that to you is a loser. A real men will never call names to a woman. So cheer up and be happy(".)
@mandykaren (2040)
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20 Sep 08
that is real nice of you to say.. More i think about it, the more i realize how stupid he was to say such stupid words to me, when he obviously dont know me, or how i live..I know i shouldn't have let it upset me since i know its not true and that is what counts..And thanks, you are so right, a decent real man wouldnt stoop to hurtful name calling for no reason,. Was not long after asking me when i go to turkey, then all suddenly went bad
you take care
@wolveren (1586)
• Cebu, Philippines
18 Sep 08
It is so easy for people to call other people something they probably are not. I think it's more of a bad habit for them to be calling people or saying outright what they have in mind without thinking of what that precipitates. What I mean like it comes out from them naturally. Like calling your boss an idiot. That certainly comes out as some general branding. Lol. My point is, no matter what that turk calls you my dear, it is not his call to judge you and not anyone for that matter. For all we know he probably just wants you to notice him more. Sour graping in another form would you say? What is the essense of a true man if he doesn't come out honest for himself to begin with. If he likes you so much why doesn't he come up to you and say it and be done with that. Well that is another topic. The bottom line mandy is that not even your parents can say that. Well anyone can basically say it to you anyway but you don't have to bite it. Shrug it off like the celebrities do. Know that deep within yourself you are what you are and no man should ever judge you unless proven otherwise. I should say you are awesomely sexy but calling you a wh0re is probably way too much. I pity the turk though, such name calling is not for men. True men would never pick on a woman. Cheers!!!
@mandykaren (2040)
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18 Sep 08
i cant be sure but think he faking much, you dont open your cam just to show tears unless you trying to use emotional blackmail.. messed with my head for far too long, i stupid girl to have kept trying to help and to be a loyal friend..
You say some good points, like your mind...
i feel long distance relationships can work, if you both are strong.. can use the time to know each other, sometimes can be easier to talk about everything
Thank you for a really good chat..
@wolveren (1586)
• Cebu, Philippines
18 Sep 08
Exactly, no one has ever any right to call you anything. And I don't judge a book by it's cover. Coz you never know what the book is until you've read it to the last page. You never know what a woman is until you've been into her deepest secrets. But still even if I did I would never resort to name calling. Lol. Yet, it all boils down to that essence in a man, if the woman doesn't want you why hang around? Just because you look so damn sexy it doesn't mean your it. If it is any consolation, the guy is really messed up and he needs to get his act together. Women should be treated as a lady and not call them names if they can't get into your pants. Cheers!!!
@wolveren (1586)
• Cebu, Philippines
18 Sep 08
That's real tough. There are different kinds of people in our world. And he is definitely one of those who need some real help. Either the guy is faking it and playing with your mind or he is an over the edge hopeless romantic. Nothin wrong with being different though it is his life and we respect that. But if he tries to ruin another one's day that is certainly bad. Long distance relationships sometimes doesn't work. Specially if the other half has a huge problem from within himself. He needs some help though if he ain't making it all up. Having said all this, it's a funny, weird and sad experience altogether, get the essence and learn from it. Move on and be happy. You deserve it. Cheers!!!
@asselg1984 (375)
• Philippines
19 Sep 08
dont let anybody let you down because of what they think about you, espcialy when it is not true. that man who called you a w** doesnt have the right to do so because he doesnt know you that much..i think he is a gay, and he is insecure with your looks, heheh..is it true that you go to all men? well if you do, why is he so concerned about him, is he your lover? well if you are sexy, and you dress like any sexy woman should, you should be proud, flaunt what you have.
@mandykaren (2040)
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20 Sep 08
yes he is insecure, becuase of his situation and wants out of it maybe, from the emotional blackmail i have had in the past.. and NO i don't go with all men, i have more respect for myself and morals prevent me from being a wh0re. I couldn't spend more time alone then i do.. But i suppose when look nice, others presume you must be going with all of which is not true.. i am certainly not that kind of girl.
Flaunting is flirting and flirting can get ya in trouble
thanks for response and take care
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Sep 08
mandykaren the man who called you that is certifiably insane. You know who you are and be proud of yourself. Disregard this turk, and stay far away from him. This is utter nonsense. YOu do not have to prove yourself to this guy or to any other man. Being attractive is not a crime at all, be proud of looking good, and you will meet the guy that will love and respect you for who you are.Perhaps this turk has never known pretty women who are respectable and self confident.
@mandykaren (2040)
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18 Sep 08
if not for mylot and you all making me feel better, id take this to heart much worse and it would linger on for longer.. Not just with him but others msn too and no i dont have to prove myself at all, and i shouldn't feel that i need to.. it is like when one say, is that pic you, open cam.. and i not if other person not open cam.. I think, why should i, what gives them a right to expect, or tell women to undress or try to put a girl down if dont do as he say.. Who they think they are.. And it can be upsetting after a while, and words can hurt deep as his words did last night since i thought we were close friends, but i was wrong..
@Bluepatch (2476)
• Trinidad And Tobago
18 Sep 08
If somebody calls you something that you are not why bother with him ?
If you know you are not this and these people are telling you these things then you need to go somewhere where this does not happen.
They are doing it to upset you and when they see you upset they will do it some more.
Just get away from them.
@mandykaren (2040)
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19 Sep 08
i know what saying, it just hurt when someone you talked to long time can be so hurtful.. And is frustrating trying to even stick up for myself, and besides i shouldn't have to.. ok since i discovered mylot, i not in msn as much or it be later. So i suppose just becuase i not always in msn i must be out sleeping around haha.. Couldn't be more more wrong
thanks for response
@Tianna2 (1273)
• United States
18 Sep 08
Hi MandyKaren, all I can think is maybe this guy was having a bad day or something but you certainly didn't deserve to be called a Wh*re. I'm sorry that you had to go through that, people can be so mean sometimes. I really wouldn't take anything he said to heart as its not true.
There is no reason to regret posting this because that's what the site and friends are for. If you cant post about your problems then what else is there?
(((((MandyKaren))))) Tianna
@mandykaren (2040)
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18 Sep 08
wow, thanks.. done it couple of times now, when someone upset me msn i come mylot, becuase here people care and make me feel better about myself..
he had no right to call me that, he don't know me in life, and for someone that was suppose to like me so much, why be so mean and cold.. I certainly wouldnt be sat at a computer every single day if i had men on the go lol yes i wish my mind would allow me to sleep with a guy for a night to fulfill my needs.
@cmathias12 (1025)
• Armed Forces Canada, Europe, Middle East
18 Sep 08
It sounds like that Jerk just wanted you to be one and when he found out you were not, he decided to hurt you by saying that . Men can be such idiots sometimes. You do not have to worry about being that even if you and your last boyfriend broke up yesterday. Don't let people like that get to you. I am sorry to hear you had to go through that.
@mandykaren (2040)
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18 Sep 08
Could be true since Turkish are very jealous people and cam maybe make him too crazy cos can not reach me, but even still, there no need to be so mean with such nasty words.. Anyway he not like me with heart, if did then he would have mailed me or send offline messages when i not in msn..