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This is going to be a long one (so you get the story) You meet your man, and end up getting pregnant 7 months after you start dating. His mom lives in a different state so you never meet her, but have heard and talked to her on the phone. She seems to be nice, but you can barely understand her because of her accent. Now his whole family lives near her (besides his stepdad and his stepdads family) well she decides that she is going to come up to visit (she said maybe a week or two) - (this is 10 months after you start dating) she comes up here, still saying she is just here for a visit and then ends up staying for 2 years lol. Well in this time, she hadnt even been here a month (you of course were pregnant and were having some complications that were making you stay in bed with massive migraine headaches *or worse*) and she comes in the house drunk and talking LOUD, you call out to be quiet and she flips out, goes into her room (that you are letting her stay in) and overdoses on her medication. She goes into a seizure. Now she ends up going into the hospital for this and starts treatment right away. She tells you once she had been in treatment for a month that she beleives that you and her will get along well as long as you both live seperately but living together will never work (nor visiting the house for a long period of time) Now, she is back in the state where she came from and she is coming to visit you again for the second time (because of the new baby coming) and she plans on staying at your house for 1-2 weeks. Well, she starts inviting other family members (without asking first) to come out and stay that same amount of time (family members who are going through things that you do not want in your household *drugs and things of that nature*) You tell your man that you are really worried about her staying here because you both know that you cant live in the same household together and that you are going to be under stress because it is the end of your pregnancy in general but he wont listen. He just says that she wont be at your house all the time because she is going to visit with her old friends and blah blah blah... you tell her, you are worried because you both know you cant live together and she doesnt say a thing about it. Now she says she is coming and staying as long as she is to help out with the baby (when dad is going to be home for the same week she is going to be here) which you dont think you will need the help like this. What do you do in this situation? This is the situation I am in right now and I feel like I am being pressured into her staying with us... if I say no, I am the bad guy... if I say yes, I am going to be constantly under MORE STRESS than having a brand new baby in the house...