fighting???

Oh, sunshine, it sounds more and more like what I went through with my girl. The last year she was in school, it felt like I had her at home more than she was in school. It really stinks that your daughter got more suspension than the two girls who had been egging her on and pushing her into it. If you think it would be worth it, you could file a protest with the school over the length of her suspension, especially since she tried to resolve the problem in other ways first.It never worked for me, but it is an option. I always told my daughter to walk away from a fight whenever she could and to never ever be the one to suggest a fight or to throw the first punch, but if someone else started whaling on her, she had my permission to hit as hard as it took to get away from them. Considering what's gong on with her, sunshine, is she getting any special services from the school? Our district has special services for kids who are tagged "emotionally troubled". They include smaller classes and a clinician who works just with the kids in those classes. That program was probably what kept my girl in school till her senior year. She eventually left school before graduating, by the way, and got her GED six months before she would have graduated last year. There's a light at the end of the tunnel, honest. Hang in there.

That is horrible! I don't understand why kids are so mean these days. I am 20 years old and i was NEVER like that in school. I think it is good that your daughter stood up for her self. It isn't right that she talked to the administrator and counselor though and they did nothing about it. Those two other girls should have been suspended for the same time if not longer then your daughter because they are the ones who did start the fight. Hopefully when your daughter goes back to school things will calm down and the girls will just leave her alone. I really hope things get better for her!

Their are times when enough is enough. I have a daughter and she's only eight. She gets pick on everyday because she has chinky eyes. She's often teased in school and sometimes she is physically abused in a small way. Whenever she comes home and tells me that her classmates did this I would often make it a point to speak with her class adviser and if it doesn't work I personally talk to the other kids mother. Although I don't tolerate fights I still advise my daughter to stand up on what she believes is right. If she's being bullied to much to the point that she's getting hurt I tell her it's either she fights back or tell someone authoritative about it.