Borrow Means, (temporarily)-----Why Do I Have Ask For It Back.
By Chevee
@Chevee (5905)
United States
September 18, 2008 8:54pm CST
I am the type of person that keeps up with just about everything that is important or useful (ex.instruction booklet, installation CD's, appliance receipts).
My family and friends on the other hand don't even try to keep up things like these.
I have a Hp all in one printer. My daughter called and ask me if she could use my installation CD. I have had mines long before she purchased hers she has misplaced hers and called me and asked if she could use mines, mines is a differ model than hers so it won't work with her printer. I don't like to let people use my things because if they don't take care of their own I think they will not take care of mines either. When I loan things like this out I have to ask for it back. They never offer to give it back on their own, then they reply let me see if I can find it. I have loaned my sister things and she keeps it so long she think it belongs to her.
Do you have a problem with family and friends borrowing things and you have to ask for it back?
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13 responses
@Bluepatch (2476)
• Trinidad And Tobago
19 Sep 08
Yes, I do.
I agree that you should not have to ask for it back but you always seem to have to.
The same thing goes on in my office where people borrow things and just don't return them.
Its a really bad habit.
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@Beruang (1309)
• Malaysia
19 Sep 08
I have met at least three kinds of friends that love to borrow things. Out of the three types, the least are those friends that borrowed things from me and remember to return them without me having to ask for the items.
The second type are those friends that remember that they have borrowed somethings from me but keep giving excuses about why they are unable to return those things yet. The best excuse would be that they really have no time to drop by and return those items.
The most are those friends who could not remember or pretend that they did not remember that they have borrowed somethings from me. These are the worse kind since I have to call them from time to time to remind them that they need to return my items...
So, the best solution for me now is not to lend any item to any of those second and third kind of friends. I would then come out with my own excuses about why I could not let them borrow my things. LOL!
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
17 Nov 08
I've had it happen and with my Mom she'll borrow something and then tuck it away and it's lost forever. Of course, truth be told, I've done the same thing a time or two with her things LOL
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
20 Sep 08
my kids do that all the time. and sometimes even say i gave it to them
like they think i have alshiemers or something. i ALAWYS have to ask for everything back no matter what it may be.also, they are like that with money to. knowing im on a fixed income.
like they think i have alshiemers or something. i ALAWYS have to ask for everything back no matter what it may be.also, they are like that with money to. knowing im on a fixed income.
@tamarafireheart (15384)
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19 Sep 08
Hi Chevee,
Yes, I have touble like that as well and then I stop lending things out, I don't borrow any one eleses things because I buy them and I rather have my own things then aske anyone. Two years ago my friend ask me if her daughter could borrow my tapestery ring, so I just lend it to her and sid I would like it back when she has finished with it, but I have not seen or heard from her daughter for two years now and I bet she either thrown it out or lost it.
Hugs
Tamara
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@joyadalia (1408)
• Philippines
20 Sep 08
Well, like you I want to keep my things but my brother and sister and mother and sister-in-laws often borrow from me and FORGET to return! I have lost countless music and video CDs and DVDs, installers, etc. I also two digital cameras which have been returned already damaged with lost batteries and damaged charger! anf all these stuff cost a lot! When I ask them back they point fingers at each other and I end up without the stuff I was looking for and angry at them .
anf all these stuff cost a lot! When I ask them back they point fingers at each other and I end up without the stuff I was looking for and angry at them .
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
19 Sep 08
[i]Hi Chevee,
I have the same problem in the past to a friend but not very close to me..I hate it and I lost some things because I cannot remember anymore who borrow it and when I asked them, they will tell me that it was returned already and due to my busy work before, I also can't remember..
I have no problem about this to my own Family and close friends...THey are very responsible borrowers...
Anyway, after that incident, I didn't trust again new friend to borrow my stuff![/i]
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
19 Sep 08
You shouldn't have to ask for it back. I can understand a few instants but all the time with one person and never the next is wrong. Some people weren't raised to understand the concept of borrowing and taking care of the item while using it and returning it in the same condition or better. Such as borrowing someone's car, I'd wash it and fill the gas tank for them as a way of saying thank you.
We've had a few friends that didn't return our things and we've had to ask for them back however, the second time it was done to us, we didn't lend anything out to them anymore.
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
19 Sep 08
Oh a lot of people are like that. No sense of responsibility, disorganized, care-free, messy. They will disturb organized people like you by borrowing this and that after they have lost their own. I have one office mate who would borrow everything from other staff because she lost her own ballpen, her own CD's, her own files. We have however taught her a good lesson one day... when we all deprived her of any chance to borrow even one paper clip from us. Now she has changed and started to be careful and attentive to where she placed her things.
@Munchkin547 (2778)
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19 Sep 08
I sometimes have this problem with friends! I have one friend who always wants to borrow my clothes, i used to always let her but i never got any of it back un less i went round and got it out of her wardrobe myself, it got to be really annoying, especially as she always wanted to borrow my newer or more expensive clothes and i missed them! I am now a bit more selective about what i let her borrow and am a bit more forceful about getting it back. It's hard because i feel mean keep asking for things back but if i didn't i'd never see my things again! It's a shame that when you are trying to do someone a favour they take advantage and don't give your things back! xxx
@dhisaw (304)
• United States
19 Sep 08
Yes I definitely have had that problem and I think it is coming again because my husband decided to pull out our dvds for my sister to go through to borrow. I said something to him about it. He said well she was going to go to our room and go through our stuff if he didnt do it. My sister thinks that she has the right to go through my things without asking and whenever she wants. Well she borrowed quite a few movies from us even though she was only going to be in town for a short time. I know that i am going to have to ask for them back otherwise she will not give them to me and try to0 take them with her. I dread asking her because then she will do like you said say that she will have to find them. Also she might give a few back to me and then not find the others and that kind of thing. I also feel the same way about loaning a few other people stuff.
@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
19 Sep 08
I always worry when my sister borrows my stuff because she tends to misplace, lose, or forget things. I'm good at returning things I borrowed in the same condition when I borrowed them, that is why I get upset if my stuff gets returned and it looked like the borrower didn't bother to take care of it.
@cheerupcharlie86 (60)
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20 Sep 08
I had a housemate who was lousy at returning things. Worst of all, she would go into my room and take things without even telling me she had taken them. Once I couldn't find a DVD box set of mine, so I thought I had lost it. Then, one day about a month later, I was walking past her boyfriend's house and saw my box set through the window! She'd taken it round there to watch with him and forgotten to bring it back.
Another time, I let her borrow some denim shorts of mine for a fancy dress party. Several months later I asked for them back and she claimed she didn't have them and never had. A couple of months after that I saw her wearing them! I confronted her about it and she acted all dippy like it would make her endearing.
Sorry if I have rambled, but sometimes I need to get things of my chest. I think it is completely unacceptable to be careless with other people's possessions.
