Friends With Benefits

I don't think it is as easy for the female as the male in the relationaship and I know somtimes it does change the friendship in ways...especially when another person comes into that relationship...

Yes, 2 of my best friends were originally friends with benefits. One has married someone else & I've been married twice & we still remain good friends. We no longer share benefits. I found the benefits drew us closer together emotionally. I've always heard that bringing in the physical side of it will ruin a good friendship, but I did NOT find that to be true. The other one & I were close friends for over 15years when I met my husband. We remained friends...just not as close. Since my hubby passed away, he has helped me with some yard work & chores around the house. We no longer share benefits but have remained close friends!!!

Short answer is: yes, it does and can happen. I have been fortunate enough to have had five ladies with whom I have the pleasure of being friends with benefits. We remained close friends afterwards, but like most of the responses here, after a few years, our live drift apart. One such friend and I shared a friendship that include f*cking each other's brains out occaisionally for three years. She is now married, living in another state, but is still a friend, and is a good friend of my oldest daughter. At the other end of the spectrum, I have one lady friend that has disappeared and I do not know where she is. We both had that friendship with benefits for four years, but again she and I each moved to different states and lost touch with each other. That was 25 years ago. The other friends do not live close to where I live today, although two of them I keep in touch with. I have re-married since then. I cherish my memories of them, of the times we spent together and their friendship.

not at all dude

Yep I totally believe in it. I've done it with a few of my male friends and it didn't change our rlationship at all. The key is to know where each of you stands on the issue. Especially if its a spontaneous 'oh we're drunk' kind of thing. the next day don't be afraid to talk to them about it and where you stand in your realtionship. Problems arise if either party is interested in being more than just friends. I think its best to expect nothing and ssume that the two of you will only be friends (who occasionally hook up). I think I'm actually closer to my friends who I've hooked up with before. It's something extra that we've shared and the fact that our friendship survived it when many don't shows us how great our frienship was to start out with.

I have had two situations like that... A guy ihave known since like 6th grade...he is alike a brother to em and we always joked about being more...but ima very emotional type girl and i want something serious as he is very laid back and not ready for a relationship ..yeah well one year i was leaving to go to Fl for a week and we decided to hang out the night before i went... We ended up kissing and boy was it great... Only thing was ..that night made me realize that i wanted everythign that we had joked about..but that was just it.. it was a joke in his eyes and in mine.. i realized it was a wish. so needless to say it didnt go any further and i had to separate myself from him for a while. um...the second. my "ex" (he isnt my ex exactly cause we never dated..but we messed around for a little over 6 months and we were basically ina relationship with out the commitment type thing) he was a guy who trained em when i started my last job. I liked him of course and when we first met he had some issues with his girl and i never thought anything would come between us except being friends...well one night on his way back from his family reunion i text him to see whats going on how he had been type thing and he let me know he wanted more..well at the time i was single and i needed it so i figured why not. yeah well it went on for six months and i ended up calling it off to be with my fiance. like i said ima commitment type girl...

Back in the day I had a few friends with benefits and yes to this day we're still friends...It was the perfect set up actually...BUT I'm also a very laid back person and tend to not get attached to ppl or jealous etc etc ya know so it was easy for me..

Well I guess there are really friendship that has this kind of an arrangement. I think its grossly disadvantageous with the ladies because they may get pregnant along the way and it would be pretty inconvenient for her to carry this especially if there is not emotional attachment to the relationship. While the guys can enjoy this "benefits" conveniently without really investing much on the emotional aspect of it. The "benefit" is al favorable to us guys than with the ladies.

I don't like to touch my friends physically because they are friends not a lover. I think friend not do any think physically in my view i don't know rest of the places but in my country friends not do that.