caught 2 times in a week!!

well i feel for her, i truly do. her trust is a little fizzed, but its still there with you. she's holding out hope for you since there are leeway with both of the things you described. its fishy but its not solid proof. she may keep an extra eye on you because it it. my advice for you would be to grovel and be more aware of her feelings. i'm self conscious about my image and i have low self esteem so where i get jealous and question things. i never had the 'hidden' situation of cheating, but a guy i was seeing flat out told me he slept with his ex and he didn't think it would work out between us. be nice to your girl. it seems she really loves you do try not to do anything to hurt her.

You are lucky that your girlfriend is still with you, at least for now. If it had been me, the first time I might have thought about it, but the second time I would have just dumped you. I wouldn't push my luck if I were you, she won't put up with much more. Maybe you should just play the field and not have a steady girlfriend at all at this point in your life.

I really feel for your girlfriend right now and I'm thinking why is she with you. How can you do that to her? That's very cold hearted. Anyway I have never heard of someone locking their door because they wanted to hear their music better? What kind of lame @$$ excuse is that. I would be dumping your butt and kicking it to the curb cause I honestly wouldn't beleive you. I would of called you more than a disappointment thats for sure. I think it is time for you to break up with her so you don't hurt her anymore.

If i wanted to be with other people i would break up with my boyfriend beforehand, i can honestly say i've always done that!! If you don't want to be with her why don't you tell her the truth and end the relationship, you must be putting her through a lot and lying all the time must take it's toll on you as well!! xxx

Sounds to me that you need to decide if you want to be with this girl or not. If your thought is YES, then you need to straighten up some. She will eventually catch you doing something that she just can't forgive & then she'll LEAVE!!! Then you will be crying Why did she leave me? So you need to do some serious thinking about what you want. My guess is that if you locked the door to be with another girl & you kept the compromising pic on your computer, you don't care enough for your girlfriend. In that case, she probably should leave so both of you can get on with your lives.

if i were very young girl, i will be very angry and dump you, but now, i have long way , and have so many boyfriends, i forgive and understand myself as well as you.

the question you have to ask yourself why was you locked in your apartment with this other girl what was your intention it don,t look right are you serious about your girl friend it seems you are playing around on her.for her to catch you twice in a compromising way it sounds like your girl may rethink you and her relationship it seems you have a trust issue going on here.if a woman thinks she cannot trust you she will move on because she will think the relationship is not worth saving.

so you dont love her anymore? and that you and that girl are really starting to fall for each other..? guess if that is the case, it is but best to tell her how you feel. it will only hurt her more if you keep on letting her believe that you still love her when you know deep down inside you that you are still there, sticking it out with her because you cant say the words "goodbye". if you will break it up with her, it will hurt her of course, but think..if you will not break it with her now, she will suffer the pain longer, make her suffering short and quick..

That happened to me before, my the-boyfriend wasn't really really careful knowing that we are in the same campus and all of my friends know him. We were texting each other and just as I was about to send him my message telling him to meet me in the cafeteria, my friend started calling my name from the other end of the cafeteria signaling me to look at the window and lo and behold, he was there with his now-girlfriend holding hands. I still sent him the message though and he said he's still in class. A**hole. A couple of days before that, he left me in the hotel to go back to school cos his friend needed his help with something and when I got home, I saw photos of him and that girl and the girl was drunk. I didn't talk to him for days and now I regret getting back together with him after those incidents. I should've really left him cos now, he's with that girl. Maybe you should try being honest with your girlfriend. I'm not in the position to judge you or your relationship but just because your girlfriend's still with you doesn't mean she's not hurting.

I think it is better to be honest with her if you don't want to be with her anymore. It may be hard to break up with her, but cheating on her, and allowing her to catch you doing it will only hurt her more. I am surprised that she didn't leave you if she caught you cheating, but it appears that if you are trying to get rid of her, that isn't going to work. Honesty is the best policy and it will save you and her precious time, and heartache.

why is it lock is the first question i wanted to ask???i mean for sure you can still hear the music even if the door is not locked. what is there a compromising picture with another girl in your computer???good luck to you if she will not dumped you after 1 more mistake.

ok, i'll be straight and honest. i understand that you dont want to break her heart, that you dont have enough courage to break it to her, her being so nice. but maybe you are being selfish here. did you even consider her feelings? you want her to just leave you, but as you know she doesnt seem to be thinking about it. just tell her, it'll be much harder for her if you let this situation get unsolved much longer. you are hurting her now, be a man and hurt her just once more. tell her the truth. not only to lessen the damage and pain, but also to set yourself free.

Wow don't tell me nothing happened when she took her upper clothes due to the heat of the room. What do you think us for? Any true blooded guy wouldn't think twice to take the forbidden bite in that situation. And even more so she is comfortable enough to go to a locked room with you! Plus the pictures! My goodness..

Is your girlfriend a jealous type? Well, honestly if I will caught my bf with a girl insider his apartment, and found the door locked, I will think of something else too, but that does not mean I will not listen to your explanation. First, is it too noisy outside that you have to lock the door and so that you can listen to the music better?, second, how close that girl is to you, does not she like you and wants to be close to you so she grabbed the chance the two of you could go solo?, or do you have malice when you do that or don't? If you have no other intention then you do not have to feel that bad, just explain your side to your girl, and if she still feels bad about it, just let her be, she will understand you soon. Why did you have a pic of a girl in your computer? or are your positions in the pic showed that you are too sweet with the girl? is the girl your friend only or you like her too? your girl is still with you because she loves you. Yeah my guy dumped me before because he found out that i am talking to a guy, he was so jealous haha..

It is interesting the way you write this post. On one hand you feel bad that you have this problem with your girl friend but on the other hand you wish she hadn't found this out. Regardless of the fact she has stayed with you so far, what has happened is she has lost complete trust in you. And there will never ever be anything you can do to regain it. You are messing around on her, trying your best to cover it up, and as far as your concerned it would be fine as long as she didn't find out. Kind of what she doesn't know won't hurt her. You have a lot to learn about women my man. For some unknown reason they kind of like to be able to trust their man. Funny how they are like that isn't it? You are not ready for a serious relationship that is clear and you should not try to be in one. Play the field all you want but always......always....be up front with where you are in the relationship. It is all about false expectations and you have given your girlfriend a lot of them.

Good day... Don't push your luck that often bro sooner and later she's going to get tired of those things you do, get her head and heart straight and fall out of love. When that happens nothing you'll do would ever win her back, trust me I learned my lesson the hard way. Some girl keep it in themselves, bear the hurt and insecurities, they'll try to make it work without much complains but when the time comes to accept and move on with their lives these are also the girls that never took another look and will just leave you, not that you don't deserve that. So if you love her better change than be sorry later on, it's hard to find good woman now a days that would accept your imperfections and stay with you for as long as they can but you should do your part as well. Good luck.

by reading this discussion it seems that you wanted your girlfriend to break up with you but you don't want to do it yourself. but i think that the other member is right that you should tell it by yourself than wait for your girlfriend to break with you. it is better than let her expect that you will going to change or make her hope that you still love her. i think that your girlfriend does not know that youaare not really in love with her any more. maybe she thought you were only tempted to pursue other girl and that you don't want to leave her actually.

i believe your girlfriend loves you very much. but why you did that/ why you always hurt her? i don't understand why boy always can't be content with his partner even she loves him very much, but i know that, not everybody has the patient, maybe you will lose your lover because of your carelessness. we all should cherish the person who is besides you.

Hi Anchopy! I was into that kind of situation before and it was really hard. I only did that because I guess I did not love her anymore. I just could not tell her the truth because I did not want her to be hurt. But what I did was even more hurtful for her. She caught me many times with another girl. Some of her friends saw me with another girl and she even knew it. But she still preferred to stay with me. It's really hard to say, "I don't like you anymore" or "I fell out of love." But honesty is still the best policy. We really have to tell our partner the truth, so as not to hurt each other more.

i think its very sad that you talk about this like we should somehow pity you. cheating is beyond me. if you want to do something with someone else then you need to end it with your girlfriend first, THEN go do whatever with whoever. karma will take care of you.